We have already said once that in order for our dreams to come true, they need to be transformed into specific tasks and find solutions to them. Therefore, now we will take a closer look at the issue related to the so-called “decision theory”, or more precisely, we will talk about how to find a way out of a hopeless situation.
Many business trainers and coaches use in their practice the approach that is used in R&D (research and development work (or development) and TRIZ (the theory of inventive problem solving).
But I think that a more significant practical value for any person will be not useless reasoning, but a simple and accessible tool with which one could “resolve” any life situation, starting with chronic everyday problems and ending with unexpected force majeure circumstances.
How to find a way out of a hopeless situation
My opinion on this issue does not claim to be the truth, but it may well be useful for a person who, by chance, finds himself in a difficult situation. Whenever, for some reason, I find myself in an unexpected and unpleasant situation that requires an immediate solution, I am faced with the fact that my body begins to work in a completely unpredictable mode.
Blood pressure and heart rate increase, a feeling of restlessness and anxiety arises, and an endless stream of obsessive thoughts overcomes. To calm down and bring the body, and especially my head, into a normal state, I try to find the answer to simple three questions.
- Has any harm been caused to the life or health of any of the participants in the situation?
- Has there been financial or material damage?
- Whose pride was damaged in this situation?
As a rule, only the third question has a positive answer. And if so, then you shouldn’t worry too much in this case and spoil your nervous system, because everything that does not relate to eternity can be easily solved in everyday life on earth.
It is enough just to remember that any decision is both a result and a certain sequence of actions to find the correct answer to the problem.
Thus, it all comes down to choosing the best and most acceptable one from the many available options. It’s almost like being in a maze: there are many paths, but only one way out.
It has always helped me and is helping me to realize that no matter how complex and confusing a situation is, there must always be a way out of it, and finding it is only a matter of time. Another question is whether such a decision will suit me at this point in time.
It’s like with a school math problem: once the condition is formulated, it means there is already a ready answer. You just need to perform a certain sequence of actions and find it.
It can be very useful and even encouraging to understand that if I find myself in difficult circumstances today, this only means that they are a consequence of decisions I made earlier, even if I have absolutely no memory of it.
After all, no one else but me decides which foot I should use to get out of bed today, or which hand I should use to brush my teeth. If today I, for example, do not have sufficient reading and writing skills, then this only means that at one time, instead of studying the “good sciences,” I simply “smoked my primer.”
Or if, let’s say, I picked up loans like a dog catches fleas, and bailiffs are already standing at the door of my house, then at one time I committed some unreasonable actions that led to this situation.
Be that as it may, the fact remains quite obvious to me that, in principle, there are no hopeless situations. It’s not for nothing that jokers say that even if you are eaten, there will still be a way out for you. You just need to calm down a little and wait a little.
Quotes About Exit
There is always a way out. Even if it’s not easy, even if it has a lot of bumps and thorns. But he is. You can't give up. My experience has proven that if you find a loophole, you will probably find a way to get through it.
Life seemed to have just begun and suddenly the bandwagon... You were generous, but you gave yourself away... What did you accumulate and where is your girlfriend who left the world of dreams... What were you looking for and what were you trying to find or got lost... Losing, you found a desert in which tears burned out passion... Perhaps and love, if you haven’t wasted it. Everything has its end or sadness, when in impulses of thought... You have reached the heavens, there will hardly be an excuse... Look at the sea, the storm is pleasant, and how your soul is in turmoil. Burns with the unbridled fire of desires - to demolish everything... And dissolve in the abyss of the sea forever... But the sea is water, your reason to live or die for the last time, to be born...
There are situations that cannot be unraveled. You can only leave.
Imagine the scene - one person comes in to say hello, and another comes in to say goodbye. It would seem that there are two actions that are opposite in meaning. However, no, because the opposite of “enter” can only be “exit.” Accordingly, it turns out that if in order to perform these two opposite actions something common is needed, that is, “to go in,” and this, perhaps, in both cases, is key, then talking about the opposite makes almost no sense. And it turns out that since in both cases it is necessary to come in, then there is practically no difference between “hello” and “goodbye”.
If you do it anyhow, it always turns out AS WELL, but if you do it with your soul, it turns out GOOD!
The paradox of Ivan the Fool is that he finds a way out from where others can’t even find an entrance.
There are no dead ends. There are unbroken tunnels.
Relationships can go so far that the only way out is a dead end.
Live! Gritting your teeth, holding back a sob, going over both the good and the bad in your memory, blaming and justifying those who did this... And so day after day... But with each new day you realize that this shit is not worth it... You are alive! Hello! Your loved ones are nearby! And the soul, washed by the tears of bitterness and disappointment, is renewed, rising like a phoenix from the ashes... Ready for happiness and new experiences! Without knowing misfortune, you will not know happiness... Everything in the world is relative and is known in comparison... You must believe in the best... Feel better...
It became easier for the two lovers, When they parted forever., But something broke in the heart, That they kept it like that all the years... Everything that we hid together, From prying, malicious glances... So that no one could put together, Our joint puzzles with you!
There are no hopeless situations. And there is a way out of the meat grinder. Even a lot!
There are at least two ways out of any situation! ... And even if you were eaten.
We are kind people! Before I had time to rejoice that I had a poor harvest, there were immediately those who could not cope with their abundance and dragged me the surplus with the parting words: “Now you worry about it!”
There is a way out of every dead end. After all, somehow you got there.
Experienced drivers often advise beginners: “If you don’t know what to do in an unclear situation on the road, stop and stand still. Let others think!” Maybe sometimes this advice can be applied in life?
What to do in a hopeless situation | Decision making algorithm
And in order for the search for an answer to the question of how to find a way out of a hopeless situation to be crowned with success, let’s try to use a tool that can safely be called an algorithm of actions to get out of difficult life circumstances.
- Identifying an object of personal interest.
- Collection of information about the object of interest.
- Processing and analysis of information about the object of interest.
- Defining the goal and forming the task.
- Identification of possible solutions to the problem.
- Selecting the optimal solution to the problem.
- Implementation of the decision made.
- Monitoring the results after implementing the decision.
- Development of activities to achieve the set goal.
The object of personal interest can be any event or phenomenon in our life. Most often, we begin to think about this precisely when we are already in a rather difficult situation.
Therefore, it is necessary, as they say, to “consider” your current location from all sides and understand that if you do nothing and leave everything “as is,” the situation will only worsen.
As soon as the realization comes that you are “to blame for everything” and ended up in this place as a result of your own choice, the desire inevitably arises to change the existing state of affairs.
A switch is automatically triggered in my head from the position “where am I now, and what is happening to me” to the position “where I want to be” (or at least to the position “where I definitely don’t want to be”). Most often, after this, the brain begins to work in enhanced mode and becomes capable of generating very good and even completely unexpected ideas.
From my own experience, I can say that literally a few seconds are enough for all these “procedures,” since our imaginative thinking gets involved in this matter and instantly “puts things in order” in our heads.
As soon as the contents of the head are put in appropriate order, a rather lengthy process of collecting information begins to determine one’s goal and set a task. The speed of solving this problem will depend on the quality of the formulation itself.
Only after this can you begin to search and consider options. It's almost the same as going to the store for something:
- made a list of necessary products so that, God forbid, I don’t miss anything;
- found out what and in which store you can buy at a reasonable price;
- I figured out the route from store to store in order to save time and not have my hands torn off by the weight of purchases;
- I gathered my courage and went into the distance from a “low start”.
The most difficult thing is the selection of possible options, and the most important thing is the choice of the main and only one. If you missed or did not take into account some information about a store or product, you will buy potatoes that are 10 rubles more expensive or of worse quality. If you forgot to buy something from the list or went off the route, you will receive penalty points and an extra lap.
In approximately the same way, the search for and implementation of the decision taken occurs until it becomes the most correct and the best (and for all participants in this process). And if, after everything you’ve experienced, you still missed something, then you will definitely be reminded of it, don’t even doubt it.
Imagine that you “bought three crayfish today, small ones, but today,” and your wife wanted “the same as yesterday, large ones, five each, but big.” Will the best solution for you be the same for her? Oh...
This is how the process of finding and implementing the best solution is carried out empirically, I would even say psycho-emotionally-experimentally. But when such a solution is found, there is no doubt that it is the best, since most often it is this solution that brings the desired result and is accompanied by a powerful release of positive emotions.
Very often, an additional sign of a strong and correct decision is its original nature, sometimes not at all obvious to others. It’s not for nothing that the Russian people speak with such love about “soldier’s ingenuity,” which is inherent not only to ordinary people, but also to tough businessmen.
How to get out of a hopeless situation | An instructive story about the new Russian
On an ordinary rainy evening in the heart of old England, in the quiet and cozy office of the manager of the largest London bank, there were two people: the manager himself and the bank’s VIP client, a “new Russian”, the owner of a large and profitable business, who has a solid account in this bank.
The Russian businessman is tired of the righteous labors, to which he has devoted ten years of his life without vacations or weekends. His deepest desire: to retire for a while and rest for a year or two in his homeland, in Russia.
- Tell me, sir, can I get an annual loan from you for one hundred American dollars? – the “new Russian” turned to the manager. “Of course, sir, now I will give the appropriate orders,” he replied, “it will take no more than five minutes,” and left the office...
A few minutes later he returned back, clearly very upset about something, which his concerned expression could not hide: “You know, sir, the customs of our bank, and these are the best traditions in England, require that loans be provided to our clients only on the security of some kind of or property... Don’t you have something suitable, especially since the amount is absolutely meager?”
- Will this work? – the Russian asked, looking out the window and pointing to an exclusive late-model Porsche parked at the entrance to the bank. “Completely and even more than,” answered the surprised but dignified manager.
For a whole year, our businessman had fun and had fun in his native land... However, all good things end very quickly and we have to return to normal life. So the “new Russian” ended up in London again.
“Answer me, sir,” the manager turned to the “new Russian,” receiving the debt from him, “what does all this mean?” We, of course, understand that you “dumped” us somewhere, but we just can’t figure out where exactly. “Tell me, please, Mr. Manager,” answered the “new Russian,” “where in England for just one hundred dollars you can find parking for your car for a whole year?”
conclusions
So it turns out that in order to achieve the required result in solving a given problem, you need to learn the art of searching for strong moves. It's like in chess: the winner is the one who, under the circumstances, finds a stronger move and does it more often than the opponent.
FOOTNOTE It is clear that such an ability does not come on its own right away and this needs to be persistently learned, but “patience and work will grind everything down.” The sages say that the one who walks will master the road, and to get to the right place, you just need to start your journey.
If we take into account the point of view that our whole life is a game, and we are the corresponding figures in it, then every day of ours should actually be occupied with how to find a way out of a hopeless situation, so as not to be “eaten” by the enemy and become the winner of the started game.
If you have ever played, for example, a “sea battle”, then you know well that each “idle shot” significantly increases the likelihood of a new salvo hitting the enemy ship, which makes it possible to win not only one battle, but also become the winner of the whole battle.
In conclusion, I just want to wish you, dear reader, that every shot you make will definitely hit the right target and make you a winner in life. Taking this opportunity, I dare to ask for a small favor: if the information received was useful to you in any way, then please leave your comment at the bottom of this note...
You can always find a way out of any situation
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Very often you hear: a dead end, a hopeless situation. But is this really so or is it possible to find a way out of any situation?
?
The whole nature of man: the complexity of his mental (psychological), psycho-emotional, intellectual structure says that we are capable of multivariate thinking and analysis. And find a way out of any situation
, without thinking it through at all, is impossible.
No matter how difficult the case may be, you should never give up looking for a way out. It can be so non-standard that you would never have thought about it in the first place, or, on the contrary, so light, located on the very surface that you simply did not notice it.
Each situation requires careful analysis and a calm (unemotional) approach, because emotions are the main opponents of logical thinking, preventing us from concentrating and thinking “soberly”.
Having freed yourself from the burden of emotions, you should begin to directly analyze the situation. Imagine that this is not an incident from your life, but something abstract (not related specifically to you, generalized), for example, a rebus.
As you know, it is a type of logical problem, which is why the rebus is suitable for associations with complex situations. The main thing to remember is to find a way out of any situation.
you can always.
Try to solve it using analytical (logical) thinking. Break it down into the smallest components (details) and carefully study, analyze each of them separately.
Draw logical conclusions from every slightest analysis, and in order not to miss or forget anything, keep notes in a diary, notebook and always keep them with you.
Consider the situation as a whole from all possible angles. Each case may have several possible solutions: do not get hung up on finding one specific solution. Even in a maze, the exit may be closer from a completely different direction.
Remember if you have heard about similar or similar situations that happened to people you know or know in your circle. If similar cases have already happened, then you can take advantage of the positive experience of others and not reinvent the wheel.
If your psychological and intellectual resources are completely exhausted, then you should not neglect the advice of sensible people. In any person’s environment, he or she can find at least one acquaintance whose opinion is listened to by many. Contact him for help.
And finally, in order to find a way out of any situation
You may need special knowledge that you do not possess. In this case, the best way out is the help of a professional, qualified specialist.
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