Sometimes, when deciding to have a child, young people do not know, or do not fully understand, what they need to be prepared for. What pitfalls are fraught with this vital decision?
First of all, I address this post to those who are starting to think about having a child, or are already expecting a baby, and to those who have just become parents. I am writing this so that you are as aware of your future role as possible, and are ready for all the trials that a child has just been born, I want every parent to understand what a blessing it is to be a father or mother, what a blessing it is to have such a beautiful baby.
For those who have experience in raising children, I suggest you add your own feelings about this to my story.
Children are joy!
Everyone who has them feels this. The birth of a child is a sea of positive emotions.
- Parents experience joy from the first days of their baby’s life.
- Joy is seeing your child cheerful, healthy, cheerful.
- Joy - they feel just from the baby’s smile, joy from how he grows and develops.
- Joy when he takes his first steps, speaks his first words.
- Joy is when a child has a good appetite, good mood and sleep.
- The joy of having your child hug and cuddle with you.
- It's a joy to see a house filled with toys.
- Even the baby’s first pranks are a joy for parents.
- The joy associated with children cannot be counted - it is everywhere!
Quotes
Children are flowers of life that are born with their heads down. (Antoine de Saint-Exupery)
In order for flowers to be beautiful and well-groomed, you must always take care of them)
When Saint Exupery was asked: “Is it worth pampering children?”, he replied: “Certainly pamper them, it is unknown what trials life has in store for them.”
No one else in life will spoil you like your parents.
Children need a role model more than criticism. (J. Joubert)
Instead of criticizing children, show them how to do it by example. After a while, they will unwittingly repeat after you.
Children never obeyed adults, but they regularly imitated them. (D. Baldwin)
Children copy their parents in everything.
All the children in the world cry in the same language. (L. Leonov)
Although they express their delight in different languages, it is still understandable to everyone.
If people say bad things about your children, it means they are saying bad things about you. (V. Sukhomlinsky)
Children are a direct reflection of their parents.
Children are the glances of fearful eyes, the sound of playful feet on parquet, Children are the sun in cloudy motifs, a whole world of hypotheses of joyful sciences. Eternal chaos in the gold rings, Sweet words whispered in half sleep, Peaceful pictures of birds and sheep, Dozing on the wall in a cozy nursery. Children are evening, evening on the sofa, Through the window, in the fog, the sparkles of lanterns, The measured voice of the fairy tale about Tsar Saltan, About the mermaids-sisters of the fairy-tale seas. Children are rest, a short moment of peace, a reverent vow to God at the crib, Children are the world’s gentle riddles, And in the riddles themselves lies the answer! (M. Tsvetaeva)
Children are the greatest miracle that nature has created.
If you know how to diagnose a child’s joy, the intensity of his joy, then you should have noticed that the greatest joy is the happiness of overcoming a difficulty, achieving a goal, an open secret, the joy of victory and the happiness of independence, mastery, possession. (Janusz Korczak)
Overcoming obstacles and achieving the goal, everyone rejoices, even children.
Children have neither a past nor a future, but unlike us adults, they know how to use the present. (LaBruyere)
Adults need to learn from children not to think about the past and future, but to live in the present.
Be truthful even towards a child: keep your promise, otherwise you will teach him to lie. (L. Tolstoy)
Truth must be taught from childhood.
Children are happiness!
Children bring a feeling of happiness. Life filled with gray everyday life becomes festive fireworks. The baby is developing - and every moment you see something new, fun, unique, unforgettable. You see a keen interest in everything, a tireless thirst to know everything, learn, see, feel, taste, disassemble into particles and create something new from what is left. Isn’t it happiness to always be close to such a wonderful little “perpetual motion machine”?
We are looking for reasons...
Returning in adulthood to these old aspirations and dreams is not so easy. Modern women delay this joyful moment for one simple reason - “adult” life, life for oneself drags on... The desire to indulge only one’s habits and the thirst for comfort are evolving, growing more and more in our minds, so that at one fine moment they practically become a goal as such.
Don't believe me? And look at your friends and acquaintances, who seem to have already graduated from college, have traveled around the world, and have wonderful husbands, but are in no hurry to have children... What is the reason? In fear of change, in the absence of the desire to make drastic changes in your life. No, they, of course, want to have their own children, but still later, later... In Europe, for example... However, everyone has different reasons... Everyone decides for himself why now he cannot or does not want children.
The most common “excuses” of modern adults are:
- Low salary.
- Rented housing.
- Other social disorders.
However, all of these are really excuses rather than real reasons. Well, pray tell, what does this have to do with grandmothers and parents living in another city? What does the lack of money for a nanny have to do with it?
Children are worries...
Unfortunately, with the advent of children, there is a significant increase in worries: feeding, watering, putting them to bed, playing, comforting, washing, washing, petting, changing clothes, taking a walk, checking 100 times if everything is in order... And although these worries are pleasant, sometimes so many of them accumulate, there are so many things to count... Some families - the emergence of new responsibilities and troubles only strengthens them, they become stronger, they help each other. Others, with worries about the child and family, under the pressure of fatigue, often find neither time, nor desire, nor understanding for each other - and this can destroy relationships and families.
In addition, a parent must take care of the development of his own baby, help him learn and study the world around him.
Essay “Children are the flowers of life”
Yulia Androsova
Essay “Children are the flowers of life”
«Children are the flowers of our life.
This is our joy, somewhere disobedience
Somewhere there is weakness, somewhere there is childish laughter,
Little tears.
A mother guards her child like a rose gardener!” (author unknown)
We often say: “ Children are the flowers of life ”
.
But where this expression came from is not known to everyone. And this expression developed a long time ago and was taken from the story “Former People”
by the writer Maxim Gorky, based on the phrase
“
children are the living flowers of the earth . ”
But the 19th century Austrian humorist Moses Safir mentions: “ Flowers are the children of the plant kingdom , children are the flowers of the human kingdom .” It is impossible to imagine life without children and flowers . Children are the greatest happiness! Children bring us joy, they are unselfish, honest and will brighten up any loneliness, and will not take anything in return.
And the flowers ? Flowers also bring us joy, they are also selfless and can brighten up our inner world, and in return they will not take or ask for anything. Both children and flowers simply bring us a good mood. Therefore, without them, life is boring and gray .
Every person in life has his own values and what he loves. But everyone, without exception, who has children will unanimously say that for them the most important and primary thing is the happiness and well-being of their child. The birth of a baby evokes the strongest and most joyful feelings. The appearance of this little treasure in your home completely changes your life and its values . And what was important to you just recently is relegated to the background, and there is nothing more important than your child.
Remember how happy you felt when your child smiled at you for the first time! And the experience and anticipation of the first tooth! And the first step towards you! And you no longer remember the sleepless nights. Remember the first matinee in the nursery. Your baby, with frightened eyes, recites the first poem. Even though it was very short, this indistinct muttering brought tears to your eyes, because he read it for you and it was especially touching. And now your baby has grown up and went to school. Of course, worries and troubles have increased, but during this period it is very important to help the child and do everything in our power so that the knowledge that you lay down will help him study well.
The most important achievement of a person and the greatest value of life are children . They are our future and our continuation. When a child appears in a family, life for this family takes on a new twist, a new taste, the spouses begin a completely new relationship - after all, they are now not only husband and wife - they are parents. And if before they divided everything in half, now it is divided into three, or even four. This happiness is not overshadowed even by the added troubles. After all, all parents have the greatest happiness - pride in their child.
In order to confirm the above words, I conducted a small survey among “mommies”
and
“daddies”
who expressed their opinion about
“
Children are the flowers of life ?” Why do you think so?" And I received such answers.
Mom Nastya says: “Yes, I agree! Children are sweet smiles , loud laughter, bewitching faces
, without children there would be no happiness, there would not be this
“delicious”
childish smell.
Children are our life .
In general, it turned out to be a bunch of words, but I said what I feel.” Mom Katya states the following: “Undoubtedly! Children are flowers . They bring meaning into our lives that we did not see before their appearance. We become more serious and responsible, but at the same time, looking at how our little ones see this world, we learn simple things: enjoy dandelions, laugh heartily without looking around, smile at random passers-by, and imagine what kind of cloud we could be on to build your own house. Children make reality fabulous, which is so necessary for an adult.”
Mom Olya: “Yes! They evoke the same emotions as when seeing flowers . They are divinely beautiful and smell nice. They are the same radiant creatures that evoke a storm of positive emotions. They make the soul tremble and understand that Life is a Miracle , they remind that Life is full of Love and Joy.”
Mom Natasha said that “ Children are the flowers of life . Sunny flowers - dandelions or sunflowers. They can lift the worst mood with just one smile. They say that all women love flowers . But women love children even more, because it is the birth of a child life with special meaning.”
Mom Tanya: “ Children are like flowers ... Probably many of us received bouquets as gifts: roses, peonies, chrysanthemums, lilies, orchids... Bright, chic flowers designed to be symbols of the holiday. But in our youth, we always used daisies to tell our fortunes. It was she, small and seemingly inconspicuous, who gave us faith and hope. And if you remember the simplicity and charm of the forget-me-not, cornflower, bell... They came to this world to paint it with their own colors, just like our children . The internal goals of a child and an adult rarely coincide. What remains for us? Learn to hear and understand your children, learn to accept not only the splendor of a rose, but also the simplicity and greatness of a bell, which quite possibly is destined for the fate of a bell.”
Papa Pasha says: “Of course, I agree, since children are beautiful young creatures given to us by God, they are as magnificent and fragile as flowers in the field , I’m sure that’s why they are so often compared, by the way, we should also mention both of them as creatures that need careful care, because they are sensitive and extremely vulnerable, therefore it is necessary to protect them every minute. Both children and flowers need help , protection and kindness.
Papa Igor says that “ Children are the flowers of life !” Because a child, like a flower “ blooms ”
before our eyes, like
flowers , they bring joy to people, and they also bring people together. When there is not enough love in a family, they have a child. When there is not enough love in a relationship, flowers .”
These were the answers that were heard. Such words say a lot and, undoubtedly, that children really are the flowers of our lives .
I would like to end my speech with a quote from singer Janet: “ Children are the most important thing in the life of any person . Everything else is secondary."
Are feelings for a child an instinct or a product of upbringing?
So what is this, maternal instinct? Is this a feeling inherent in a woman by nature itself? Or is this a habitual understanding of how to treat a child, implanted in our heads during the process of upbringing, a projection of our own views and values regarding how children should be treated? Adherents of feminist beliefs tried in every possible way to prove that maternal instinct is a distinctive feature of animals. They believe that the mother’s attitude towards the child is determined solely by the cultural level of the individual and the person’s upbringing. How else can we explain the presence of abandoned children in society who have never experienced their mother’s love?
Psychologists call this concept an innate impulse that forces women to love, feed, and protect their child.
This inexplicable feeling of affection can be interpreted as a manifestation of feelings for a part of one’s own flesh. This is what allows us to see and feel the child’s needs and desires as our own. This is the reason why the mother wakes up before the baby wakes up. This is what allows her to see the personality in the child long before his personality begins to manifest itself. Today there is no consensus on the nature of this mysterious relationship between mother and child, despite the numerous works of scientific minds who have devoted their lives to solving this mystery.
One thing we know for sure is that the manifestation of maternal feelings is undoubtedly influenced by one’s own childhood experiences in the early period, the process of traditional child care, and a huge number of unconscious processes. This information will help those who experience fear and doubt, who have not yet experienced maternal feelings for their child, who are at the stage of a “maternity crisis.”
