Statuses about people who talk behind their backs

Oh, those gossipers! How much they deliver with their false interpretations. Sometimes you want to offend them in the same spirit, but without stooping to their level. Especially for such impulses, statuses about people talking behind their backs are suitable.

I was sure that I knew myself well. It turned out that others know me better.
It's bad when everyone talks about you. It's even worse when they don't speak at all.
If you're talking behind my back, it means I've got ahead of you!
Do you like to talk about my life? That means it's more interesting than your own!
Are you looking for flaws in me? It's out of envy!
People talk about me, but they describe themselves by it.
Words do not speak about a person's attitude towards you. This is what the deeds say.
Girls who say I'm beautiful only because of makeup and clothes! Your guys will look at me even without makeup and dressed in a tracksuit.
Gossipers often do not consider themselves bad people. Really, what's wrong with throwing dirt on others?!
Don't worry about what others think of you. They are preoccupied with what you think about them.
By arguing with fools, you stoop to their level. And there they crush you with authority!
It's great when you are someone's dream. But it’s much better when you are accepted for who you are.
There is always a goat around you who comes up with bullshit about you, a sheep who spreads this information, and sheep who believe it all.
So many people know everything about me! Sometimes I just want to go up to someone and ask how I’m doing...
People hear out of the corner of their ears, see with one eye... But they think with the rest of their brain!

I gossiped - I got drunk on honey

Don't pay attention to gossipers. Well, monkeys have learned to talk, but that doesn’t mean you need to listen to them! Statuses about people who talk behind their back will help you maintain a healthy sense of humor.

When they tell you nasty things about me, you listen and believe everything. They told me so much about you that I began to respect you.
There are people who care about everything.
Without whispers in their ears, their lives would be shallow.
I personally take it calmly.
I spat in their direction like they were in a garbage can!
Go your own way, and it doesn’t matter what they say behind your back.
I pray for the gossipers, I ask them for excellent health. So that they don’t care about others, they would also have at least a little personal life.
Never scold yourself. Your “close ones” will do this for you.
I have a lot of lovers, I don’t have a lot of money, I’m getting married for the third time, and I’m making a career through men. If only some of this was true...
Someone who doesn’t have his own gets involved in someone else’s life.
You can't believe gossip about any woman. Because they are dismissed either by an offended man who failed to conquer her, or by an envious aunt!
When was a black cat curious about what gray mice were squeaking about her?
They say my eyes are beautiful. People often speak behind their backs too.
The person you gossip with also gossips about you.
Olya always greeted grandmothers at the entrance, so she was considered the most polite prostitute.
Don't waste your life trying to gain a reputation. All the same, it will develop from what they say about you behind your back.
I never believe gossip and I don’t advise you to!

Why do people say nasty things

Where does the desire to say unpleasant things come from? Some people feel the need to humiliate others when they feel threatened. And this threat is not real. They don’t like their position, so they either lower our self-esteem in order to keep us at their level, or say unpleasant things about us in order to darken our personality in the eyes of others. But it is almost always a defensive reaction, driven by a desire to feel better by blaming, insulting or belittling the other person.

You can’t tell about yourself, others will tell

Rest assured: someday the gossiper's main weapon will turn against him. Statuses about people who discuss things behind their backs will aptly express your attitude towards gossip.

A talented gossip knows how to tell something that he himself has not seen or heard in such a way that one gets the feeling that he was holding a candle while doing so.
Those people who tell you about me also tell me about you.
I don't give rise to gossip. Therefore, there is no reason for gossip around me!
Who cares what they say about me behind my back? They won’t be able to tell me this to my face!
Until I heard what they were saying about me, I had no idea how busy my life was!
I thought I knew everything about myself, but there were those who knew much more.
But I don’t mind when the bones are washed. After all, there is nothing else left for these people.
When you discuss me behind my back, only my bottom hears it!
They envy the lucky ones and discuss them as the best. Carry on, gentlemen!
Rumors perfectly characterize... the one who spreads them!
They say nothing only about those about whom there is nothing to say.
If a person is delusional about you, it means he is delusional about you.
Sometimes you want to say what’s on your heart, but you know that this will become a reason for gossip. So the weather is good today...
Some people have such a long tongue that it’s amazing how it doesn’t interfere with their walking.
I accidentally found out that they were talking about me behind my back. Now I’m thinking, either I’m really that bad, or they’re good...
You’re sitting there, probably thinking nasty things about me...
They say laughter prolongs life. Probably at the expense of the one being laughed at.
Don't judge a person by public opinion. Get to know him personally.

What sparks discussion?

First of all, discussing a person behind his back allows the gossiper to feel more significant and authoritative in the eyes of listeners. This is also due to ordinary envy, the desire to achieve the status of the person in question and the sublimation of one’s desires in relation to him. Gossiping about someone often increases the self-esteem of the gossiper and gives him the opportunity to grow in his own eyes, as well as gain ephemeral power over the reputation of the person being discussed.

Often, with the help of gossip, people justify their shortcomings - after all, in others they are irritated by precisely those qualities that they do not find (or do not recognize) in themselves.

Not the least reason for discussion is the desire to please the interlocutor. Having shared a certain secret with someone, a gossip automatically becomes a person who has important information that he decided to entrust to his interlocutor, thereby distinguishing him from the majority. The more rumors gossipers spread, the more confident they feel, supporting their own egocentrism and often receiving gratitude for their knowledge of the personal affairs of certain individuals.

Beautiful women attract men... and gossip

Only important people can become involved in active discussions. It is for them that statuses about people who are discussing will be useful.

The more actively you prove that you are not a camel, the faster the humps on your back grow.
Eh, such good gossip was spoiled... by too many facts!
If three women stop to talk, that's a conversation. If one of them leaves, it’s gossip.
When there is not enough money for food, people feed on gossip.
Those who live by rumors gradually become deaf and blind.
In my opinion, those around me are more interested in my problems than I am.
Even rumors can be useful... if they turn out to be true.
We hear gossip, we speak news.
I don’t like hearing gossip about myself so much that I wear headphones.
Rumors travel at the speed of sound.
If they talk about you, you are worth something.
I call hearing specialists “audiots.”
Do not rush to form an opinion about a stranger based on gossip. Make your own and be surprised how different it will be.
If you want free advertising, quietly tell someone the information and ask them to keep it confidential.
It doesn't matter what you look like. Gossipers will still throw mud at you, while friends will embellish it.
When a woman asks: “What news?”, she wants to exchange rumors.
When gossip grows old, it turns into myth.
Incomplete information has every chance of becoming full-fledged gossip.
Whisper - everyone will hear. Scream for help - no one.
The sun does not forbid moles from gossiping about themselves.
There are some rumors from reliable sources!
Gossip is like money. Passed from one to another.
I'd rather be little and believe in fairy tales. Than big and believe in gossip.
There would be no gossip if there were no people willing to listen to it.
I am sure that people do not gossip about me, but simply make up legends.
It’s better not to have someone around you who speaks well of you and speaks poorly of others.
If only gossipers would pay taxes. If only our country were so rich.
You have to live in such a way that you won’t be afraid to lend your parrot to the biggest gossip in town.

Saying nasty things is expressing hostility

I remember one story from childhood. I was in first grade. And on the way to school I always met two girls. They studied in a parallel class and were friends. And we always went to school together. And I walked alone. They always shouted some kind of tease at me and laughed loudly. It seems that nothing dangerous happened to me. hated them . I also remember the feeling of fear and danger . I even dreamed of walking along a different road, which, unfortunately, did not exist.

Probably almost everyone can remember a similar story.

Why can children, seemingly innocent creatures, say nasty things and experience hostility? When grown men and women say nasty things, you can somehow explain it to yourself. It happens, and there is a reason for it. But children?

System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan reveals the reasons why people say nasty things.

It was a discovery for me when I learned that hostility arose from the times of primitive man, due to the need to limit food:

“Today’s hunt was unsuccessful; we didn’t manage to bring a single mammoth into the cave.”

- What should we do now? How to survive if there is not enough food for everyone?

- Maintain supplies!

- But I’m hungry! I am still a primitive beast and do not know how to limit my desire for food. It makes me want to eat my neighbor. But according to the laws of the pack, I cannot eat it, because then we will all die. That's why I hate him, but I tolerate my hostility.

In extreme tension - “I want, but I can’t!” - hostility towards one's neighbor arises. And in order to preserve himself, primitive man begins to sublimate hostility into socially useful activities.

The more benefit he brings to his pack, that is, to other people, the more secure he can feel in it. For example, he learned to make a stone ax and became an indispensable specialist. Now he needs to be taken care of more for the primitive pack. This is the way the human species survives - to be useful to others.

And to this day, a person increases his value through professional implementation in society - from a stone ax to a spaceship. And the natural hostility with which a child is born is an impetus for his development.

When we observe kids in the sandbox, in kindergarten, in terms of their level of development they are not much different from primitive man: they fight, push, and take toys from each other. Having learned to speak, they begin to call each other names. The child tries to preserve himself and ensure his rank according to his mental properties.

And only in the process of upbringing is a cultural layer laid, and children learn to empathize, sympathize, compassion and love. Culture limits hostility. A well-mannered child behaves completely differently in a team - he knows how to come to an agreement, stand up for the weak and listen to an adult, and respect the feelings of another person. Thus, through culture, humanity develops from a hostile species into a sensual one.

But if it happens that the environment in which the child develops is not able to help him overcome archetypal hostility and form cultural values, the child grows up malicious, that is, experiencing joy from the fact that another is bad.

Saying nasty things to a person is expressing your hostility. They can be very different in content - foul language, ridicule, gossip and slander. But the root of all these insults is natural hostility, the desire to “eat” another. In the modern world, of course, psychologically.

Why do they say nasty things to us?

In addition to a lack of cultural education, men or women can say nasty things when they experience frustration - negative states that arise from the inability to get what they want or be realized in society.

Realization occurs through the filling of natural desires, which for each person make up their own unique composition - a set of vectors.

System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan reveals to us the eight-dimensional matrix of the general psyche, as well as the properties, features and characteristics of each vector. Thanks to this, you can observe and understand what desires drive a person, how much his properties have developed and how strong his frustrations are.

“I want and I don’t get” is the strongest internal tension. People who say nasty things relieve this tension through others in this way.

Moreover, verbal expressions and “special effects” for people with different properties have their own characteristics.

For example, a not very developed and unfulfilled person with an anal vector will definitely “wash the bones” of another with a good friend. Saying nasty things - getting dirty in form and criticizing, being offended - is his favorite pastime: “There’s Lenka from the sales department - all in sables and diamonds, and she’s so scary, she has a long nose, eyes like a fish, and what do men see in her? ? I’m sending...” Expressions in the form of toilet vocabulary are also characteristic of a person with an anal vector: “Are your hands growing out of w...?” and the like.

Unfulfilled people with an oral vector like to say nasty things in the form of gossip, lies and slander. They will definitely come up with a story that everyone will believe in and the feature of which will be a sexual plot: “I saw her with one guy, then with another, and he - my friend - told me such things about her...”. An undeveloped person with an oral vector will “decorate” his speech with swear words.

“Sophisticated” and “refined” nasty things can be said by an unrealized person with a visual vector. As a rule, he evaluates other people according to certain intellectual and behavioral patterns that he himself has created. Convinced of his superiority, he speaks ironically and disparagingly towards people who do not meet his criteria for development. Moreover, there may often be nothing offensive in the words. The “sophistication” here lies in the intonation, which may be accompanied by a rolling of the eyes and a shrug of the shoulders. All this makes communication with such a snob extremely unpleasant.

No matter what qualities a person has, if he is happy and feels good, he will not experience hostility and say nasty things to other people. Not only words, but also the intonation with which a person speaks is an indicator of his internal state.

Who hurts the most when they say nasty things about him?

Of course, it’s unpleasant for every person to hear nasty things about themselves from strangers. It’s even worse when people close to you say nasty things - work colleagues, family members, friends. When we find out about this, wow, how bad it feels in our hearts.

People with anal-visual ligament vectors feel the greatest pain. Their inner desire is to be good to everyone. They are ready to do something for someone else just like that, for ordinary human gratitude; it is difficult for them to say “no” to someone. Therefore, work colleagues and relatives often take advantage of their dependability and consider this to be in the order of things.

And what does it feel like for such a person to hear nasty things being said behind his back? Pain and resentment can close his heart to other people for a long time.

Gossip ruins friendships

Even distances cannot separate people as much as gossip can. Let them say you will never need the status behind your back.

You can't get enough muzzles for everyone who barks. And if you throw a bone, they calm down.
I would like to call everyone who knows about my life and find out how I am doing now.
If you don’t talk about your personal life, people will make up their own fantasies.
Even if your life is very boring, this is not a reason to interfere with someone else’s.
I'm glad that for someone I am the only reason to talk...
As you get older, you stop caring about gossip.
The eagle flies, but does not hear the mice.
The witness doesn't know the details, the gossip does.
We often don't even know about the existence of people who are aware of the details of our personal lives.
Read more about me behind my back.
If people don’t gossip about you, it means your life is not interesting!
Let those who are so interested in other people's personal lives find each other!
Where else can you learn so many new things about yourself if not from gossip?
Let me rather be the heroine of exciting gossip than a gossip out of envy!
Keep gossiping! I think of it as mud therapy.
They say that gossipers, by discussing a person, take away his sins. I'm calm for myself!
Those around me know so much about me, as if they graduated from spy school.
All gossips are fetishists. Instead of washing their own clothes, they sniff someone else's.
Anyone who comes up with gossip is a bastard. The one who spreads it is a fool.
The best listeners are those in front of whom it is better to remain silent.
When I was young, I didn’t like grandmothers at the entrance either... grandmothers at the entrance.

And finally, folk wisdom. If you have been told nasty things about a person, you should not repeat them. And even more so to add from myself.

This phrase will help you stop any gossip, psychologists say

Ah, gossipers. You constantly think about someone, don't you? Your envious friend who loves to talk about how lucky other people are may be a gossip. Or your nosy coworker who turns every break into a gossip session. Or even yourself.

In any case, regardless of whether you like to discuss other people and their personal lives or not, the fact remains that any gossip is meaningless and insidious.

Talking behind a person's back and spreading rumors about him do not bring anything good, and moreover, they can harm both the gossiper himself and the person they are talking about.

Entrepreneur and author Sharon Schweitzer believes that: “Spreading malicious rumors harms not only the target of the gossip, but also the gossiper himself, who thereby exposes himself as a rude and immature person.”

In addition, according to social psychologist Laurent Beague: “About 60% of conversations between adults are devoted to discussing events that simply did not happen. And most of us make our judgments based on these assumptions.”

So, the main question is: why do we love to gossip so much?

This answer may seem surprising to you, but a large part of this is to blame for the countless and worthless shows that we watch on TV every day.

Another reason why we decide to indulge in this guilty pleasure, even when our conscience screams at us that it is immoral, is because gossip helps people create social bonds. The dislikes we share with others actually allow for more lasting connections than shared likes.

Try to distinguish constructive criticism from destructive criticism

Sometimes people present constructive criticism in a somewhat rude way. Let's say your boss always praised you, and then suddenly cursed you. Think about it, maybe he really wanted to convey something important to you, but he just got off on the wrong foot. Put your emotions aside and use common sense. Are you absolutely sure that you were scolded for nothing? Maybe you were wrong about something? Be open to even negative feedback and draw conclusions. Learn to distinguish constructive criticism from destructive criticism.

Always be true to yourself

If you follow all the “advice” and react to the slightest comments from others, then you will lose yourself. It is impossible to please everyone. In the end, you are not a ruble to please everyone. Be true to your principles, morals and ideals. Only then will you respect yourself, and others will follow your example. Look at the biographies of famous and prominent people. They had to go through a storm of indignation and misunderstanding before they received recognition. So don't lose your individuality. Remind yourself once again that you have your own path and your own mission.

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Take a few deep breaths

Never enter into controversy. Be as polite and friendly as possible. The interlocutor should not understand that he hurt you greatly and found a vulnerable spot. After all, you don't want to give him a reason to gloat? The worst thing you can do is start arguing, descending to insults, mutual accusations and reproaches. To calm down, take a few deep breaths. Oddly enough, this simple trick always works.