If a person is lonely, if he has no girlfriend, no boyfriend, no friends, this is a difficult and painful situation. There are no people in the world who constantly want to be alone. Yes, of course, sometimes it is necessary, you want to be alone with yourself, but this is a temporary state. Sooner or later, you will still want to communicate.
Do you often wonder “why don’t I have friends”? Feeling lonely? So this article is for you, we will try to figure it out:
- with the reasons for your loneliness;
- Let's look for a way out of the situation.
But, first of all, we want to note that in 9 out of 10 cases, the problem lies with you. Perhaps it is you who are doing something wrong and scaring those around you.
Who is a true friend?
I once read this on the Internet:
“A true friend is a great wealth. Not every person has real friends. Such a friend is faithful, devoted, you can always rely on him. A true friend is a person close to you, he will always help you and will not expect anything in return. His friendship is selfless, he is friends with you not because you are an excellent student or because you have the most popular game. A true friend communicates with you simply because you are close to him in spirit.
It is very important to value friendship and respect each other's interests. Because it is easy to lose a good friend, but it is very difficult to find one. It happens that guys become real friends at school and then remain friends throughout their lives. This is a very valuable friendship that has stood the test of time.”
And the most important thing is that you trust this person as you trust yourself. It doesn't matter if it's a man or a woman. But there must be trust! This person will not judge you, he may criticize you if you did something wrong, but he will not condemn you. Rather, pity and sympathize. He can cry into his vest, drink “a lot” with him, fool around and give him “something special” and interesting. This is a “true friend”.
With him you will share both grief and joy, share everything that he needs. What qualities should this person have?
Why don't I have friends?
It’s difficult to admit your own mistakes and quirks; not everyone can be self-critical either. However, such qualities are very useful to have, especially if you want to have more friends.
We will look at 5 main mistakes due to which a person does not have good friends or close people.
№ 1: You complain all the time
Constant grumbling and whining may be the reason why you have no friends. Judge for yourself, if you are negative so often that you don’t even notice it, then there is nothing surprising in the fact that no one wants to communicate with you.
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Any psychologist will tell you that such behavior is selfish. By constantly complaining (it doesn’t even matter about what: life, relationships, work, etc.) you express your own opinion, and that is what is important to you. Moreover, everyone else must agree. So?
But in fact, not at all. This behavior, in most cases, annoys people. And they simply don’t want to communicate with such whiners.
№ 2: You forgot about your friends
This often happens when we meet our soulmate. And it's only natural that at the beginning of a relationship you want to spend as much time as possible with your partner. But friends also need to pay attention.
If this is not done, they may feel exploited and resentful. And, by the way, there will be nothing surprising in this. Wouldn't you be offended if someone came to you only out of boredom or for help? Same thing. Friendships must be respected!
Is your new love really taking up all your free time? Can't you find a few hours for your friends?
Falling in love very often blinds us so much that we begin to forget about loved ones: we meet with them less often, we call each other less often. And if we do this, then only “on business”.
Never leave your friends when you have a new partner. You may still break up with him. And true friends are a great treasure.
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№ 3: Expectations are too high
Another possible reason why you don't have friends is that your expectations of them are too high. This phenomenon is also common in relationships between a man and a woman.
When you expect certain things from others, it can sometimes be difficult for the other person to meet those expectations. It's important to understand that no one will behave a certain way just because you want them to. Free yourself and those around you from your high expectations and hopes. All this destroys friendship.
№ 4: You have low self-esteem
Another common reason for not having friends is low self-esteem. This directly affects the occurrence of difficulties with interpersonal relationships. People with low self-esteem often isolate themselves from society, and this must be combated. Ask a psychologist for advice, the doctor will help you solve the problem, and you will finally be able to meet new people.
Advice: start going to the gym or sign up for interesting courses. This way you will understand that there are other people who are friendly and could very well be your friends.
Be open to meeting new people!
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№ 5: Perhaps you are a gossip?
There are many people who are prone to gossip. Sitting in the kitchen and discussing mutual acquaintances among friends is a nice thing, right? However, there is a problem when with some friends you “grind the bones” of others.
In this case, anyone will guess how you behave behind his back. Because of this, others may lose trust in you, stop communicating on frank topics, or even refuse to be friends at all.
Trust is important in every relationship! Of course, it’s normal to sometimes talk confidentially with a friend, but not about mutual acquaintances, and not on personal topics. And you shouldn’t abuse this, otherwise your loved ones will think that you treat your friends poorly.
If any of these points apply to you, then the question of why others are fine but I have no friends is resolved. Everything is in your hands, change the situation!
Friendship is tested by time and actions
There is a story that seems to be “friendship,” but as it turns out, it’s not at all. Two young women were friends; they were 25 years old. The children were the same age, and their children were friends too. We often met together, went to the pool, to theaters, and on excursions.
But time passed and the crisis of the 90s arrived, it was bad with work and with money. And one of the women asked to work for another. She took it, her friend, she needs help. They worked together for about 5 years. And suddenly this friend announced that she had found another job and wanted to leave.
The one who extended her hand at a difficult moment didn’t seem to mind. I started accepting business from her and suddenly discovered that she was leaving and copied her client base and prepared to take this client base “slowly” with her.
How can this action be assessed? Probably not in a friendly way. There is a proverb that “in money, as in love, everyone cares for himself.”
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But then it wasn’t friendship at all? How to distinguish a real friend from an imaginary one? What qualities should a true friend have? We often mistake simply friendly relationships for friendship.
What to do if you have no friends?
There are never too many true friends, and without friendship, harmony in the soul cannot be achieved. And if there are such people in your environment, then you need to take care of them and reciprocate them. And if not, then you should look for new acquaintances. It's simple.
The topic is broad, but we have some universal tips that will help you make friends at any age. By putting them into practice, you will surround yourself with the right and pleasant people.
- Be yourself. This is important, maybe even the most important thing. There is no need to pretend to be anyone, the truth will still be revealed, and you will disappoint your new acquaintances.
- Always stay connected. Fortunately, now there are all the possibilities for this: telephone, SMS, social networks. Exchange impressions on the Internet, be sure to meet for a “cup of tea,” and plan joint leisure time. This way you will become closer to people. But remember, if you are ignored, there is no need to impose yourself. No one has canceled self-esteem!
- Clearly understand what exactly you value in other people, with whom it is more interesting and easier for you to contact. Based on this, look for friends.
- Don’t make hasty conclusions, don’t judge “by clothes” and trust gossip. The best thing to do is get to know the person better, and then decide whether you need to continue communicating with him or not.
Friendship is a mutually beneficial relationship. Offer help when you see that a person needs it. If this is a true friend, then you can count on help in return.
- And most importantly, don't take it too personally if someone loses interest in you. Perhaps these are not your people at all, and you need to continue the search. And if this upsets you or has already upset you, cheer yourself up! There is no place for melancholy in our lives.
A true friend: his qualities
We believe that it should have the following qualities:
- Reliable, loyal and dedicated
- Optimist in Life
- Friendly and responsive
- Honest, decent, sincere
- You two like each other
We establish many different connections and communications throughout our lives. But not everyone becomes our friends. We often become discouraged and depressed because we do not understand how to distinguish true friendship from false friendship.
Many friends do not live up to our expectations, or maybe not enough time passes to test the relationship, because it does not work out right away.
Why are friends needed?
A bit of a strange question, but it's an important one. Sometimes the value of friendship is underestimated, but we need friends. But why, you ask?
- Friends make us more confident.
Real friends help you relax. They give us strength, make us think positively and generally make us feel better. Friends will always cheer you up and make you laugh if you need it. And if necessary, they will cry with us. - When we tell them something, they listen carefully
, no matter what. Real friends can spend hours listening to our complaints, stories, tantrums, and so on. - We feel good around them
: we don’t have to pretend, we can be ourselves. - They help with advice and deeds
. Sometimes this is extremely important. - No one except a true friend will tell us the truth
. Even the closest people are sometimes unable to express the bitter truth out loud. A friend will say. - After all, friends make us better
! After all, if you want to have real friends, you need to learn not only to take, but also to give. You can't take what you're not willing to give back, that's not how true friendship works.
In general, if you don’t have friends, you can always find them. If you set such a goal. And remember, friendship is one of the aspects of life that makes us happier.
Sweet things to say to your best friends
You don't have to be in a romantic relationship to be nice to others. Give your best friends butterflies in your stomach with these top 10 sweets and compliments:
You complete my life.
Yes, best friends are vital to a good and happy life. They'll be glad to know you think so too.
I love us!
Good friendships are sometimes better than the most romantic relationships.
I'm so lucky to have you in my life.
Your friend may deny it, but he or she will be delighted by this statement.
You and I are like two peas in a pod.
It just means that you both are so similar and in sync! Best friends are like that.
I don't know what I would do without you.
This might melt your friend's heart... in a good way.
It's you and me against the world.
This is a sweet and unique way to say that you will always support each other.
Your dress is so gorgeous, let's shop together next time!
Verbally appreciating your friend's style will make her feel good, and you can even plan your next shopping trip together.
I just love that you always know what to say.
True friends have telepathic abilities that help them understand each other easily, just like twins do!
You always know how to turn my frown upside down.
It rhymes and will make your friend smile too. This will let them know that you appreciate your efforts to cheer them up.
You just made my day!
Saying this to your friends can make their day too!
Songs about friendship and friends for children - lyrics
You can learn children's songs about friendship and friends together with your child.
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“Both on a branch and on a hummock, Pam-para-ram, It’s boring to live alone. Bam-bam. To a friend without warning Pam-para-ram, Come to his birthday.
Both the quiet one and the prankster Para-ram, para-ram, love this holiday very much. Para-ram, para-ram, That’s why the two of us are going to congratulate the elephant.
Never stand still, Pam-para-ram, But walk with your friends together, Shake-jam. Whoever makes mistakes in friends, Pam-para-ram, will never hurt himself.
Even if he jumps, Jump-jump-jump, Jump-jump-jump. Jumping your legs as you gallop, Jump-jump-jump, Jump-jump-jump. Oh, well, if he falls, he will get up and walk again.
Come to your birthday, Pam-para-ram, Without a bad mood, Straight-ramm. Bring gifts with you, Pam-para-ram, Dolls, balloons and stamps.
Or brushes and paints, Or songs and fairy tales, And when there is no gift - Just a fiery hello.
Never stand still, Pam-para-ram, But dance with your friends together, Bram-brum. Whoever makes mistakes in friends, Pam-para-ram, will never hurt himself.
Well, if he falls, he will get up and walk again.”
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“When I came of age, I got the Cat from my father, The Cat helped me get rich, He took pity on me, a young man. The castle of the evil Ogre, the lands, arable land and fields, everything is now mine. Victory! I became the king's son-in-law.
Chorus: Always in everything and everywhere Always in everything and everywhere Always in everything and everywhere Friends are known in trouble.
Pinocchio was very small, both naive and simple, But Tortilla gave him, Fortunately, a golden key. She revealed a terrible secret, The young friend was not afraid. They were united by the power of friendship, I will sing to you about it.
Chorus:
To save her friend from death, Gerda followed him, Where is the country of snow and blizzards, Where he was all alone. To find her brother Kai, she had to walk for a long time, And the sound never stopped, Helping her on the way.”
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“It’s fun to play with a friend, watch a movie or kick a ball! We are always there for each other, even though we sometimes fight.
Chorus: Let it rain and hail, let it be cold and blizzard. I will congratulate my friend in any weather. I like to congratulate you on your birthday, with a good grade in singing, with washed ears, with a fashionable haircut, with a cheerful kitten, with a read book. My friend will listen to what I tell him. And he will also congratulate me on something.
Both in winter and spring all year round, a friend will always come to my aid! It is impossible to live without friends, Let us treasure our friendship.
Chorus:
“Friendship is a gift to us from above, Friendship is the light in the window. A friend will always hear you, He will not leave you in trouble. Whoever walks along the road of that life without a friend, He did not live, but exists. Friendship is peace with you.
Chorus: We are friends with the sun, we are friends with summer, we are friends with Mother Earth, we are friends with the lake and the wind and with the blue planet. We are friends with mom, we are friends with dad, we are friends with brother and sister, we are friends with bright flowers and with dear school.
Friendship is a warm wind, Friendship is a bright world, Friendship is the sun at dawn, A joyful feast for the soul. Friendship is only happiness, People have only one friendship. With friendship, bad weather is not scary, With friendship, life in spring is full.
Chorus:
“There is nothing better in the world than for friends to wander around the world! Those who are friendly are not afraid of anxiety, Any road is dear to us! Any road is dear to us!
We will not forget our calling, We bring laughter and joy to people, The tempting vaults of palaces will never replace freedom for us! Freedom will never be replaced!
Our carpet is a flower meadow, Our walls are giant pine trees, Our roof is a blue sky, Our happiness is to live such a destiny! Our happiness is to live such a destiny!”
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“The stream rang, and you could hear the ice cracking on the river. And drops from the wet roof are flowing down our collar! The river overflowed in vain, It cannot separate its friends! Well, together we are not afraid to even get our feet wet!
Chorus:
Sunny bunnies jump through the puddles, The stream sparkles with a blue ribbon, Drops scatter like splashes of freckles, But strong friendship cannot be spilled with water.
It doesn't matter when thunder rumbles over the spring grove. If the rain gets us wet, We don't care about that either. The rainbow shines over the forest, the sun shines for friends, and the nightingale sings along with our cheerful song!
Chorus"
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Funny things to comment on a friend's post
Friendly banter online is the most fun thing to do with your time. Be sure to use caution and tact in the comments you post because it's really okay when you post good-natured jokes, but it's a whole different story when you're trying to be mean. Here are some funny things you can safely comment on a friend's post:
No matter how many or few likes you get, remember that you rock!
It's funny to read a comment that is too supportive of your online shenanigans.
I still have your ugly selfies.
Post this comment on your friend's gorgeous selfie to ruin her fun!
Oh my God. Does anyone care?
Imagine your friend reading this and preparing a witty response for you.
You're so funny that I forgot to laugh.
Another slightly harsh but funny comment that will make your friend practically kick your ass.
Stop this madness!
Ruin your friend's pleasure by leaving a single, seemingly negative comment.
This place is called, I don't care.
Your friend will laugh at her or his ass with this.
Even Einstein can't explain this nonsense.
Be honest and kindly funny if you think your friend's message doesn't make sense.
So you think you're funny?
Challenge your friend's humor by asking her/him this question, which is meant to be rhetorical.
Your joke killed me.
Another comment that will make your friend explode.
What to say to your best friend on her birthday
This is a special day for your friend and you can make it even more special by sending kind and joyful greetings! Make her feel like the queen of the world with these wonderful and extraordinarily magical compliments. Here is a list of things to say to your best friend on her birthday:
You may be older than ever, but you are younger than ever!
Focus on the joys of aging your best friend. Remind her that age is just a number.
May your birthday be a blast and your hangover bearable!
It's going to be a wild time if the celebrant is the life of the party, so wish them the best, safety and alcohol tolerance at its best!
My gift to you is the best gift of friendship. I am real!
Your best friend will laugh at this. At least you made her happy!
I'm always just one call away. Remember that you are never truly alone.
Confidence that your best friend will make it much better.
I think I care more about your birthday than you do!
It simply means that you cherish your friend, especially on her birthday.
If your birthday party is half as awesome as you are, it will be epic!
Your best friend will find it funny and amusing.
How old are you again? You still look the same as the day we first met.
Your best friend will be flattered.
You are more beautiful than confetti, sweeter than cake and hotter than these candles. It's your birthday, beauty!
She will be delighted with this uplifting message.
Forget your age and free your inner child!
Encourage your friend to live life to the fullest and just be happy, especially on her birthday.
Wear your crown because today you are the queen, your majesty!
Make your best friend feel special on her most special day.
Quotes about friendship with meaning
- Friendship is not about who you've known the longest. And about the one who came into your life, saying: “I am here for you” and proved it with his deeds.
- Some people are willing to betray years of friendship just to get a little attention. (Lauren Conrad)
- Friendship is so tender and fragile, like glass. Once broken, it can be repaired, but there will always be cracks. (Waqar Ahmed)
- No friendship can withstand too much useful advice for long. (Robert Stoughton Lind)
- Friendship is considered the greatest test of character. (Charles Eastman)
- Bad faith loves talk of friendship and loyalty. (Mason Cooley)
- The friend who betrayed you was never your friend. He was a usurper of friendship. (Kuba Voevodsky)
- A friendship that may end never began. (Published by Sir)
- I learned that friendship is not measured by who you have known the longest, but by who came into your life and never left your side. (Yolanda Hadid)
- Friendship is like a huge sand dune that seems strong and solid, but one day you wake up and it's gone. (Jeremy Clarkson)
- You can never maintain a friendship if you don't tell the truth, even if it hurts. (List Peyton)
- Friendship is not only a wonderful gift, but also a constant work in progress. (Ernst Zachariah)
- One of the joys of friendship is knowing who you can trust with your secrets. (Alessandre Manzoni)
- Being forgiving is the most beautiful offer of friendship. (Pierre Choderlos de Laclos)
- There can be no friendship without confidence, and confidence without honesty. Samuel Johnson
