Aphorisms and sayings of the great about HUMILITY.....

Modesty is not a vice

There are a large number of ironic statements where people joke about themselves or others because of excessive shyness. It is difficult to develop it in yourself; more often it is innate. Therefore, the authors of aphorisms laugh at the unfortunate desire of some girls and even guys to appear more modest than they are.

1. Only those who do not show off their virtues are truly smart.
2. An ugly girl can put a big trump card on the table - modesty.
3. If you constantly watch TV every day, you gradually get the impression that a woman’s shyness is a disadvantage, not a virtue.
4. An ugly but modest young lady is gradually becoming more and more attractive to guys due to her inaccessibility.
5. Shyness performs two functions: it adorns a woman and allows her to more reliably preserve her virtue.
6. The more a person tries to appear modest, the more he betrays his ambition.
7. Men love shy girls. They awaken their hunting passion. And the won trophy then causes great pride.
8. He was modest to such an extent that a psychiatrist suspected he had delusions of grandeur.
9. Shyness makes an ugly woman more attractive. She makes a beautiful woman irresistible.
10. Modesty is somewhere in between the complete absence of any shame and excessive shyness.
11. Every young girl is attractive to a man, but not every one is shy.
12. Don't ask immodest questions and you won't get shameless answers.
13. Exaggerated shyness is a manifestation of pride.
14. Shyness ends where love begins.
15. If you and I don’t have at least 5 children after our wedding, then we will collapse on the spot from shame.
16. A truly talented person is always very invisible. And mediocrity is always boastful.

“I don’t need modesty!”

Other “modest” statuses describe the unpleasant swagger of modern young girls and their complete lack of even basic feminine modesty. However, not only ladies, but also men have similar properties. The abundance of interesting statements on this topic only confirms the never-ending excess of assertiveness of so many people.

1. My husband is just lucky - what a modest wife he has!
2. I am fantastically beautiful. I would say super beautiful. But I’m embarrassed to talk about my unearthly charm.
3. Shyness makes a girl irresistible. And her absence is amazing.
4. A modest woman is one who has nothing more interesting to show people.
5. If you want to achieve a lot in life, the first step is to completely get rid of shyness.
6. A shy person constantly begs for various praises, not only for his true merits, but also for the fact that he does not stick them out. This is how he exposes himself.
7. There is modesty in the front and modesty in the back. There is also modesty inside.
8. Shyness is happiness. Arrogance is double happiness. And 1 happiness is good, but 2 is better.
9. The curvier the girl, the more shy her figure requires. And what does not fit into the dress and catches the eyes of men can be removed from modesty.
10. If the skirt is short, then modesty decorates even better.
11. These days, shyness is a thing of the past.
12. Many people laugh at a shy girl. The impudent one is admired.
13. It's cloudy outside today. This means that with my modesty I will illuminate everything around me like the sun.
14. Maybe modesty and decoration. But it's too expensive. I can't afford it.
15. If you make too modest wishes, then everyday life will be too gray and completely joyless.
16. Only those who have a million allow themselves to be shy.
17. I'm so shy that I fall in love exclusively with myself.
18. Pride often makes people around you angry. But the only kind of it that makes them a little more tolerant is modesty.
19. Anyone who constantly says that modesty is the real adornment of a young girl, apparently is not able to give her other adornments.
20. An ugly woman should smile widely all the time. The fact that she's shy doesn't count. But someone important and rich might notice a smile.
21. Pretend to be shy and you'll get double compliments.
22. Where does true modesty end and obvious coquetry, or even flirting, begin?
23. If you are shy, you need to be twice as bold. Otherwise they will simply trample.
24. I would be shy if I weren't lucky enough to be born beautiful.
25. I keep wanting to become more modest, but nothing ever works out for me.
26. The shyer a girl is, the less chance she has of getting married successfully. She simply won’t be noticed on the bride market.
27. I'm just amazing. And my most important chic is modesty.
28. A rich person is helped by the desire to be invisible. It harms the poor.
29. Modesty is shyness shown at the wrong time in the wrong place.
30. I would die from the urge to be shy. But I'm afraid that they will finish me off even earlier out of envy.

Modesty is an eternal “sore” topic

When modesty (tzniut, tzniut) is mentioned, we automatically think of clothing. This stereotype that modesty means covered hair, stockings, long skirts and sleeves is very common, and even more so, for many people it literally has the effect of “a red rag on a bull.” In fact, clothing is only one aspect of modesty. What the Torah calls tzniut covers all aspects of human life. True modesty is manifested in how a person moves and how he eats, how he speaks and how he thinks, in the way a person acquires the wisdom of the Torah, in his behavior and character... If a person believes that he is more important and significant than another - his thinking lacks modesty. If, when talking with others, we feel superior, this is immodest. Modesty is manifested not only in our actions, but also in how we do them - you must agree, the same good deed can be done with fanfare and music, applause from enthusiastic spectators, or it can be done completely unnoticed... And, according to the sages, “ only in a good deed, hidden from view, does blessing reside” - the less people know about our good deeds, the more good can really come out of them. A thought that is unusual in our age of omnipotent and all-encompassing PR!

Modesty is the adornment of the beautiful

The overwhelming majority of authors of statements agree that it is still possible to instill this wonderful quality in a person. It is advisable that parents instill it in early childhood. One way or another, numerous statuses about modesty and education make up a very interesting layer of aphorisms.

1. True modesty is a virtue. False is a disadvantage.
2. A girl’s shyness is more valuable than the diamonds with which a corrupt woman is hung.
3. Pride and shyness are not the way to go.
4. Only a modest girl is truly highly valued by men.
5. Shyness is the icing on the cake of virtues.
6. The ability to be inconspicuous and elegant cannot be learned, but children need to be taught such things. Then in life it will be much easier for them to contact people.
7. Modesty will not allow you to shine brightly. But she will attract true love to you.
8. Conscience and modesty always go hand in hand.
9. The more merits a person has, the more valuable his shyness.
10. If you want to see if someone is humble, praise them. Shy - embarrassed. And the fake one will only begin to highlight his merits even more.
11. The ability to stay out of your way is strength. Arrogance is weakness.
12. Praise another person who has merit in false modesty. This is where his imaginary modesty begins to burst at the seams.
13. Great things are always simple.
14. Shyness often opens doors that arrogance could not open.
15. Only an absolutely confident person can appear invisible.
16. If people have no conscience, then there is nothing to expect from them.
17. Where there is modesty, there is no place for rudeness.
18. Don't try to be conspicuous by others at any cost. Try to be remembered by your real merits.
19. When a modest person is praised by others, he is always surprised.
20. The more merit someone has, the easier it is for him to be shy.
21. A cheerful and modest girl pleases the eyes of those around her. Noisy and cheeky - annoying everyone.
22. A shy and virtuous person rarely makes it to the forefront. But people love him.
23. A woman should be called shy by others, not by herself.
24. The life of a modest wife is not very varied, but it is virtuous.
25. Learn to be invisible and accept yourself for who you are. Anyone who is interested in you will pay attention to you.
26. A shy girl is a gift to the groom.
27. Simplicity is the companion of elegance.
28. Those who say that shyness is for ugly people are simply jealous that they do not have this quality.
29. A beautiful woman completely amazes the hearts of men with her shyness.
30. Among the many virtues of a person, the most striking is modesty.
31. Even in a short dress, girls seem bashful. Even in a tight outfit, some of them look like libertines.
32. If a woman has shyness, then it adds spice to her.
33. Everything beautiful is simple. And simplicity is the basis of modesty.
34. When a person does not intrude on others and is easy to communicate with, he will be forgiven more than an insolent person.
35. A smart person always tries to be invisible.

It should be concluded that many authors evaluate the concept of “modesty” differently. Some consider this quality an annoying excess, some do not believe in it, and some even try to develop it in themselves.

What is inner beauty

Jewish women have always been distinguished by something that excited both hearts and minds - an elusive but undeniable charm, some kind of special attractiveness... That very inner beauty that, illuminating the face from the inside, makes a woman beautiful, regardless of her facial features or shape, makes admire her and want to be in her company.

It’s not for nothing that the Torah tells us about our great and holy foremothers that they were all extraordinarily beautiful! The greatest kings of that time wanted to become their husbands, and everyone around them noted their amazing beauty. At the same time, the husband of our foremother Sarah, the sage and prophet Abraham, learned about her beauty “by chance”, seeing the reflection of her face in the river while crossing... We read a similar story about our foremother Rivka - Abimelech, king of Gerar, intended to marry her because for her beauty. At the same time, it is written about her husband, forefather Isaac, that he first “brought Rivka into his mother’s tent,” then “took him as a wife,” and only then “and fell in love”... Why wasn’t he “blinded” by her beauty? Did neither Abraham nor Isaac see the beauty of their wives?

It seems that the reason is different: the forefathers valued in their halves not external attractiveness, but internal beauty, which they so obviously differed from! Abraham appreciated the righteousness of his wife, her selflessness, holiness and modesty, and it was these qualities that illuminated her with such an unearthly light that the people around her said “such a beauty is suitable only for a king”...

Sarah's inner beauty became the cause of her outer beauty, but this was only a consequence of her radiant soul... Abraham appreciated the reason. Likewise, Isaac, only when he saw that Rivka was really like his mother in her qualities and actions, did he “love” her - he loved her for her inner beauty... Whereas Abimelech saw only the imprint of this inner light - on her appearance.

Beauty is a very subjective thing, and yet it undoubtedly exists.

Real beauty is hen, a special charm, something that “bewitched” Yosef, the son of Rachel and Jacob. As you can guess, this charm was also caused by inner beauty - a special purity of soul, manifested in his modesty. This was the secret of his beauty, inherited from his mother.

True beauty is an expression of the special inner refinement characteristic of a Jewish woman - the daughter of the King.

This inner refinement distinguished Rachel, and that is why she was able to restrain herself and not respond to reproaches expressed to her face... Rachel's modesty and selflessness were rewarded by the descendants who embodied this royalty: Yosef, the king of all Egypt, and the descendant of her second son Benjamin - the first Jewish king, Shaul. However, the chain does not end there! King Shaul possessed extraordinary inner purity and perfection, which was also evident outwardly in his humble behavior. This modesty also, in turn, passed down the chain - to the descendant of the royal family of Shaul, Queen Esther.

Esther, or, as she was called in Hebrew, Hadassah (whose deeds were beautiful and pleasant like the fragrant myrtle, adasim) is a model of modesty. When a nationwide beauty contest for the title of queen is announced, Esther is in no hurry to show herself, but, on the contrary, hides in the depths of her house... however, she was found there too, taken to the palace and... The Scroll of Esther describes these events as follows: “and Esther found mercy in the eyes everyone who saw her." She was even given the Persian name Esther - estear, saar - “moon”... which, at the same time, is translated from the holy language as “I will hide.” She did not try to stick herself out, but the spiritual beauty that was hidden in her came out like a radiance - everyone who met Esther felt a special affection for her - as a result of the grace that she brought to people, letting them feel standing and needed next to her... When the king’s servants ask what her origin is, Esther remains silent - although she had nothing to be ashamed of: she is a descendant of the royal family, and with just a couple of words she could significantly improve her “status” at court... And what is Esther’s reward for her modesty? The existence of the entire Jewish people! An entire nation was not destroyed thanks to one woman, from whose modesty and restraint grew salvation and deliverance.

When we comprehend this secret - the secret of true beauty, and understand what a huge influence modest behavior has on the fate of every woman and also on the fate of the Jewish people, we can try to understand the Jewish ideal of beauty.