No matter how strong a woman’s character is, she becomes weak next to a strong man, but she feels protected! Isn't this happiness?)
How is wisdom measured? Was it through years lived, through tears, through experience? More like happiness
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Everyone has the right to a moment of weakness, but depending on the strength of spirit, for some this minute turns into years, while for others it is reduced to a second.
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When you don’t have the strength to raise your face towards the snowstorm, you need to close your eyes, smile and FEEL the sun in your soul and strength will come
The more I see how people deceive each other, the more often I ask the question: Is the inability to deceive a strength or a weakness?
Courage is not in the strength of the hand or the art of wielding a sword, courage is in self-control and being fair.
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Not a single animal can cripple a person the way his relatives can do with a word.
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A girl who has the willpower to grow bangs is capable of anything!
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You are always smiling, humming, and looking great! My soul rejoices for you! Oh, you haven’t seen me in a GOOD mood yet!
A sense of humor is one of the indicators of vitality. And that’s why it pleases you so much in yourself and attracts you in others.
Strength doesn't lie where you expect it! A herd of wild sheep is much stronger than a pack of wolves, but the strength of wolves is that they are not afraid to walk alone!
- Strength is excellent without mind. But there is no mind without strength. Without strength you can’t even turn the page of a book.
They say that the strong do not cry. They say they don't care about thunderstorms. These people just often hide their eyes, red from tears.
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They say that the strong can do anything, To live without warm words and without love. It’s just that these people moan in pain Where there are no ears and chatter.
They say that everything is given to the strong Without effort and without labor. It’s just that these people always manage to hide all their fatigue.
- They say that becoming strong is not difficult. It's like multiplying two by two. Saying, of course, everything is possible, But it's hard to always be strong.
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I’m the one for whom “everything is fine” And even when the pain is corroding And you just want to bury yourself in your shoulder, But there’s no shoulder nearby.
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I am the one that those people always talk about, who do not know at all, How many of those wounds that hurt at night, Only see the smile that covers them.
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I am the one from the category “I can do everything myself” And the one who will never seem weak. And there are people nearby, but in life they are alone, but I want to become the one for someone.
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And I just want to bury myself in the shoulder, So as not to hide my tears when I’m lonely, For someone to notice that “everything is fine,” So often hides how bad everything is.
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Teachers in life were strict, But I am grateful to them - no offense: For everything, even cruel lessons! Who among us has never been beaten?
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- I survived, managed not to break, did not accumulate evil in my soul, and even learned to smile, When they broke my wings with a crunch.
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And smiling, she held back her groans: Thank you, my teachers! I remembered the wisdom of Solomon: “This too shall pass!”, starting everything from scratch
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I failed. I found a reason to shed tears. I was wrong again, no less. But is it worth reproaching yourself?
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Making a mistake is not shameful. What’s more important is to correct it and admit it, preventing you from stepping on the same rake again.
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And simply, without giving up, accept the difficult moment as it is. Say: “Thank you for being alive!”, holding back a cry of pain in your soul.
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- Throwing away the experience of self-criticism, forgetting self-examination, Through tears, look closer at the sky, in which the sunset is so beautiful
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And realize that it will be replaced by a fabulous sunrise! Now the moon will rise on the stage, a round dance will swirl from the stars
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After all, life is like a swing. Down today, up tomorrow. Since God did not allow the goal to be achieved, it means that success did not await there
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God often does not allow us to do stupid things mindlessly. And what is less takes away, in order to give something more.
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And since today is a failure, That means tomorrow will be happiness! Sometimes even the sky cries, so that later it can give us the sun
Quotes about fortitude (100 quotes)
- It is not the power of the army, not the quality of weapons, but the strength of spirit that ensures victory. Johann Gottlieb Fichte
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The volume of muscles on the body does not at all determine the parameters of a person’s internal strength. Peter Kwiatkowski
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Life has battered us all. We must learn to take blows, lick our wounds and move on with our lives. Aaron Glassman
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When something bad happens, we must remember that we are not defined by just one thing. Claire Brown
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What is given to a person according to his strength is the best. And what is beyond his strength, then, my love, is not useful. Evgeniy Vodolazkin
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- Presence of spirit was his main characteristic, and he did not allow himself to be pushed into more than one corner. Agatha Christie
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If you have willpower, you can achieve anything, but how, tell me, do you acquire willpower? Jules Renard
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Willpower is the ability to refrain from fulfilling a desire or the ability to fulfill it. Konstantin Melikhan
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There is a force of aspiration in the human will that turns the fog within us into the sun. Kahlil Gibran
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A person is like a brick; when burned, it becomes hard. George Bernard Shaw
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Man has never created materials as resilient as the human spirit. Bernard Williams
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The bones ache, the spirit is damaged, but the unbroken spirit is still young. Life squeezes out all the juices, everyone gets their own experience.
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Strength and weakness of the spirit are simply incorrect expressions: in reality, there is only a good or bad state of the organs of the body. Francois de La Rochefoucauld
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I have fantastic willpower: I can do absolutely nothing! Henryk Jagodzinski
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Of all the vices, drunkenness is most incompatible with greatness of spirit. Walter Scott
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It’s not because of my bones that I breathe so passionately, My spirit is millions of times stronger than any muscle.
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If I had more willpower, I would be able to overcome her. Stanislav Jerzy Lec
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A strong spirit can admit mistakes, Because decency flows in the blood, as a fact. The weakling has a “unique” style. He will catch up with snowstorms to cover his ass. Rimma Khafizova
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It’s just like in sports, the strongest are lucky. If you are predisposed to have the qualities of a champion in you, then if you put in the work, you will achieve it.
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Go, he answered, go as long as you have enough strength. For while a person is on the way, he has hope.
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There are obstacles that cannot be overcome by force alone, and if there is such, then only by the Power of the Spirit.
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To be able to forgive everyone, even your great enemy, is a great strength. Forgive always, no matter how much pain they cause you, forgive. Bogdan Lee (Magdych-Tikhanov)
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It's easier to cry than to suffer Without any signs of suffering. Mikhail Yurjevich Lermontov
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There is no worse punishment than repentance, whoever is strong in spirit does not know hesitation. Publilius Syrus
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Only he can be called a husband who is not carried away by a tailwind and not broken by a headwind. Titus Livy
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In difficult moments of my life, I look at the gallery of scars of my soul and understand that after what I have gone through, I simply do not have the right to give up.
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A woman seeks power, not money. And it’s not her fault that some semblance of power remains only in money.
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Sometimes you don’t want to be strong at all; on the contrary, you want to lie down on the sofa and cry. When you no longer have the strength to roar, look at the ceiling and remain silent. But there is no choice. We have to get up and be strong.
Statuses about willpower
A strong will breaks through rocks.
I have fantastic willpower: I can do absolutely nothing!
Human will is power over powers.
Allow yourself to breathe deeply and don’t force yourself into limits. Strength belongs to those who believe in their own strength.
I can resist everything except temptation.
Smile and don't give up, even if it seems like everything is against you.
I still have willpower! I want to work, but I won’t!
Willpower is the most fragile thing in the world.
Wanted willpower... Weak, dead, poorly trained... She ran away again, the infection!
The story of the pilot Maresyev
The story of pilot Alexei Maresyev also tells us what fortitude is. His plane crashed behind enemy lines. After that, he crawled to his home for 18 days, as his legs were damaged. After the pilot's limbs were amputated, he began to learn to walk on prosthetics, and then to fly the plane again. Maresyev’s overcoming of all difficulties speaks of his unbending will and courage. This is a true example of perseverance and fortitude that has gone down in history.
The best way to learn about fortitude is from quotes from great people. This is what Lucretius said about this: “The spirit is strong with joy.” One cannot but agree with this statement. After all, it is thanks to internal psychological resources that a person can be strong. Vitality, love and energy reserves allow you to move on, despite any obstacles. Joyful events of the past may be forgotten, but they continue to exist in the unconscious memory, giving strength to overcome obstacles and new achievements. When your soul becomes sad, there is no faith in your own strength, you are overcome by anxiety or fatigue, it is important to remember the words of Lucretius. By reflecting on good events, a person has the opportunity to strengthen his spirit.
Status about strength of character
A person is like a brick; when burned, it becomes hard.
Firmness is strength based on the union of reason and will.
Only personality can act on the development and definition of personality. Only character can create character.
Our personality is a garden, and our will is its gardener.
The artist's character either nourishes or depletes his talent.
Nothing is difficult for a person who has the will.
People of character are the conscience of the society to which they belong.
Status about the strength of a woman
Surround me with your tenderness and I will become your strength.
For a woman, the strength of her man is determined by her confidence in him.
Lean on me and I will feel the strength...
A woman needs to be strong enough in character in life to preserve herself, who is weak...
It's hard to find a strong woman when there are only women around.
In order for a strong woman to calm down, she needs to take herself into strong male hands.
Who said that beauty is a terrible force? In my opinion, all the power is with the ugly ones...
V. P. Astafiev: an example of spiritual power
Also, an example of the strength of a person’s spirit can be found in the text of journalist G.K. Sapronov, who is also a member of the Association of Book Publishers of Russia. The author reveals this topic using the example of the biography of Viktor Petrovich Astafiev. He was able to go through many hardships in life - orphanhood, homelessness, the war years, as well as post-war poverty and devastation. However, he managed to cope with all the troubles and remain himself. At the same time, Astafiev worked tirelessly. Every day he sat down at his desk and completed the stories he created in order to feed his family. Despite all the hardships, he did not give up and continued to work for himself and his family. The author is confident that only a strong-willed person is able to endure all the trials of life, overcome obstacles along the way and at the same time preserve his best personal qualities. One cannot but agree with this position.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself
Accepting reality will help organize your thoughts and feelings. This is the key to productive behavior. How we behave when faced with a problem determines how quickly we find a solution. Even if our problem cannot be solved (for example, ), we still choose every time how to react to what happened.
You shouldn't indulge in self-pity. It will not allow you to move on and will completely deprive you of your fortitude. Ask yourself: “What can I do right now to help myself in some way?” You may have to overcome your fear or do something unpleasant. The main thing is to act.
To successfully overcome difficulties, control your emotions!
First of all, ask yourself how you feel when you learn about a new problem. Feelings of fear, helplessness, doom or calm confidence that it can be fixed? Very important: when overcoming difficult situations, maintain equanimity, calm, and sobriety of mind. How to achieve this?
Nothing will change in one day of self-hypnosis. However, constantly monitoring your thoughts for three weeks will lead to a change in your thinking pattern. It has been proven that the course of our thoughts is determined by chemical processes in brain cells. The “path” that thoughts passed most often is fixed in memory.
At first, you will have to make an effort not to succumb to the same negative emotions. However, by making an effort every day, be sure to change negative thinking to positive!
How to take difficulties lightly
Let me tell you a parable: one day a poor Jew came to a rabbi for advice. He complained that he was so poor that he had nothing to feed his children, although he worked tirelessly all day. The poor wife is sick and unable to help him run the household. Children are naughty. And they are already threatening to seize their house for debts. What should I do, asked the poor man. After all, I fulfill all God’s commandments, make donations and offer prayers, why won’t God help me?
The rabbi listened to the mournful speech, silently retreated into the next room and returned with a sign in his hands. There he wrote the following words: “It won’t always be like this.” Hang this inscription in the most visible place, repeat it every time you want to complain about your fate. The poor man thanked him for the advice and went home with a sign in his hands.
A year later, the rabbi wanted to know how the poor man lived. It turned out that he bought a house in a rich city, owns vast lands, fertile vineyards, and countless flocks of sheep. This man became very respected, and his daughters were taken as wives by noble residents of that city.
The envious rabbi became angry. Arriving home, he took a new wooden sign, wrote the same words on it: “it won’t always be like this” and hung it in the most visible place of his house.
The essence of a simple attitude to any problem is as follows:
There are really difficult situations in life, deep grief, when we lose loved ones, ability to work, our health, property. Then use these tips:
- Repeat to yourself: “I will overcome this!” Ask God for help. If you don't believe in God, ask the Universe for strength. These forces will come, rest assured! We attract what we think about. When you ask the world for strength, you will certainly receive it.
- Ask your loved ones for help if you feel like you can’t cope with the situation. Often human participation fills the soul with new strength, relieves tension, and negative emotions go away;
- Choose the right thoughts: those that create, not destroy. After the storm there will always be sunshine.
Mental tricks for coping with difficulties
Any thought about difficulties can be answered as follows:
- It won’t always be like this (it will pass, it will end, it will pass);
- I will overcome this;
- I can handle this;
- So what?
For example:
- I earn little. Answer: it won't always be like this!
- I don't have a soulmate. It won't always be like this!
- I’m very sick, I can’t walk. I can handle this!
- A meteorite fell on my house. So what? I'll build a new one!
I hope you found my tips on how to overcome difficulties in life helpful. Be happy, let any adversity in life turn into only a useful experience.
Therefore, you need to know that life is, first of all, what is happening to you at the moment, and nothing more. That is, the moment you read this line was your life at that second.
To better understand what I want to explain to you, imagine this picture: Monday morning, you wake up in your bed and continue to lie. At the same time, you understand that you need to get up, have breakfast, get dressed and go to work. You can even imagine yourself doing this, but for now you continue to lie down. Looking at your watch, you tell yourself that until the second hand reaches the end of the dial, you will not get out of bed. You continue to lie down, and your brain understands that in just a few seconds you will have to get up and go to work, but for now you are lying down. And these seconds that you lie and think about the future are your life. Then, of course, you will have to get up and go to work, and this will become your life. But for now all this is in the future, and life is the present.
Some people believe that the past greatly influences the present. But this is not so, the past influences your consciousness, which you can then use to distort the present, but not in any way on your life. It is influenced only by what is happening to you at the moment.
To a simple question - “what does all this have to do with overcoming difficulties?” There is an equally simple answer - direct.
After all, it is our fears that prevent us from doing what we consider right, since the question immediately arises - “what will happen next?” For some reason, I immediately have a rather terrible answer - nothing will happen. Where did you get the idea that this “later” will come? You don’t know the future, you don’t even know whether this future will come.
Being able to think and evaluate a situation from the point of view of the present is very useful when solving important issues. Such spontaneous problem solving allows a person to act at the level of his instincts, which almost no one uses now. Of course, the ability to think analytically is also very important. But I would say that it is important in theory, but in practice everything looks much simpler. A person makes a decision, and then he himself is surprised - “how could I do this?” But, more often than not, it turns out that this decision was the most correct at that moment.
Well, what should you do if an obstacle stands in your way that you cannot overcome? Whatever happens, you must be able to come to terms with it and not blame yourself for your actions, not think, “what would have happened if I had acted differently?” After all, you can’t change the past anyway. But this does not mean that your defeats should be taken for granted. From each of your mistakes you need to draw appropriate conclusions.
If there is an obstacle ahead, then... just don’t think about it. What's the point of thinking about it if you still can't overcome it? Understand that you can live without thinking about your problems - this will make your life much easier, help you relax and unwind. If you constantly think about bad things, they will definitely happen. And good things never happen, because you don’t even think about them. So learn to live for today and believe in the best, otherwise you will simply be torn apart by evil thoughts. And tomorrow will be just tomorrow.
Overcome difficulties - Take them lightly!
- What is difficulty? — 5 tips for overcoming difficulties — How to take difficulties lightly?
Difficulties are obstacles in a person’s path that arise in unfamiliar, unusual circumstances for him, when he has to solve non-standard and therefore difficult problems, which we often call problems. It is difficult for him to solve them because he simply does not know how exactly it should be done, and not because they are very difficult in themselves.
That is, those obstacles, obstacles, obstacles, obstacles that we perceive as difficulties arise primarily in our head and relate specifically to us. In fact, difficulties can be the same ordinary things that a person does in his life all the time, without even thinking about how difficult they are for him. But if they turn out to be unusual, unusual, non-standard things for him, which he does not know how to do, he will have difficulties. In other words, we are talking about new life tasks, for the solution of which it is necessary to understand them. And until a person understands them, they will remain difficulties for him.
A difficult situation is simply an unusual situation when a person is faced with tasks that he has no experience in solving. That's all, actually. And there is nothing wrong with difficulties. This is very important to understand, friends. After all, the devil is not as scary as he is painted.
Difficulties become difficulties only because we treat them as difficulties, giving this concept a negative meaning.
1) Some people tend to exaggerate. They can turn a small difficulty into a huge problem. Maybe this is not a problem at all, but you just decided that you have it. Perhaps you have been given a difficult task and you just need to solve it. There is no need to perceive it as a problem. This small change makes life a little simpler and easier.
2) In such situations, when it is difficult to cope with a new task, always remember that for someone else things are much more difficult. When a person is completely fixated on his problem, it prevents him from seeing the positive sides in the current situation. Be grateful for what you already have in your life. You can always see the positive in the most difficult situation. In other situations and matters, it is better not to compare yourself with others.
3) Every difficulty or problem always contains some lesson and an opportunity for you to grow as a person. Believe that this situation happened to you to teach you something. All you have to do is unravel its secret meaning, extract and learn its lesson. And you won't have to deal with similar situations anymore. This is how you become more experienced and wiser in life.
4) Try to immediately solve the problem or eliminate its consequences. Instead of wasting time lamenting and showing emotions, it is better to think about what can be done. What can I fix at this point? Perhaps a few minutes will be enough for you to eliminate the difficulty and you will see that everything is not so scary. It’s better to do this as early as possible, without putting it off until later, until tomorrow.
5) When you have tried all the above methods and nothing works, then accept the situation as it is. Sometimes it happens that as soon as the situation is accepted and the struggle stops, the problem solves itself. This happens, but rarely. Sometimes, a solution emerges only after some time. You may not want to come to terms with something, not accepting the situation, this can only make the problem worse. Accepting everything as it is allows you not to waste your nerves worrying in vain.
Remember, in life you will always encounter various difficulties, difficult periods, trials. Without them, life would not be so colorful. After all, everything is learned by comparison. Difficulties temper a person and make him stronger; going through life becomes easier. These are your hidden teachers who actually arise for your benefit. And everyone has their own. But believe that after difficulties there will always be something bright and joyful in your life.
The Divine in Man
Much has been said about what fortitude is. This quality is often compared to willpower, or it is said that these two qualities go hand in hand. Human will is the ability to make decisions and strictly follow them. Fortitude is directly related to will, but it is more of an ideological concept.
The Slavic Magi of antiquity have a prayer. One of the quotes in it is about the strength of the spirit: “My body is a sheath for the blade of my spirit.” In many religious, as well as esoteric treatises, one and the same idea can be traced: the spirit is endowed with the nature of fire, or ether - that is, that place of the universe where the gods live. Regardless of concepts, this part of a person is considered to be given to him from above.
Some psychologists believe that alcoholics and drug addicts do not know what fortitude is. This is why the most expensive treatments are powerless against these addictions. From this follows the well-known principle that addiction cannot be cured - it only passes from one form to another. Therefore, a person can change as a person only by strengthening his spirit. Willpower is just one of the tools on the path to personal change.
Train your mental toughness ahead of time
A crisis situation is not the best time to start developing psychological resilience. This must be done in advance.
You wouldn't wait until you needed to lift something heavy to start working your muscles, would you? It will hardly help you if you take it five minutes before moving the sofa. But by building up your strength gradually, you will be able to lift more weight.
The same can be said about psychological stability. To ensure you have the fortitude to overcome life's difficulties, train it every day.
Accept reality
Acceptance does not mean agreement. You just need to admit that this or that event is a fait accompli. By insisting and repeating that this should not have happened, you are only wasting your time and energy. By accepting what is happening, you will take the first step to find a way out of the situation.
Imagine a traffic jam. One person will think: “How unfair! And why does this always happen to me? He will begin to get angry, nervous and argue with other drivers.
A psychologically stable person will simply remind himself: “Millions of cars drive on the roads every day, it is natural that there will be traffic jams from time to time.” This attitude towards what is happening will help maintain calm. Such a person will turn it on and wait for the movement to be restored.
To accept reality, we need to understand what we can control and what we cannot. In situations that you have no control over, try to control yourself.
Examples
One example of fortitude is Pasha Pasynkov from the work of the same name by K. Chukovsky. At the cost of his own life, he decides to take the fire of all enemy anti-aircraft guns on himself. Pasynkov's plane burns and becomes uncontrollable, but he still manages to land on the Neva. So the hero managed to keep intact not only houses and several bridges, but also many human lives. All this is thanks to the willpower of the protagonist.
Also, an example of firmness of spirit can be found in the texts of L. Ovchinnikova. They talk about the children of besieged Leningrad. Many of them were left without parents; before their eyes, houses collapsed and people died of hunger. Children gathered at the first call in the Palace of Pioneers, despite hunger, cold and deprivation. There they practiced knitting, sewing, drawing, dancing and singing. Then they did not yet know about the power that art has. The kids came to perform on a military cruiser. Adults who had to deal with death every day were amazed at the strength of the children’s spirit.
Strengthening inner resilience
And here is what the French writer and entomologist J. Fabre said about this: “Happy, thrice happy is the man who is tempered by the adversities of life.” It is believed that by going through life's difficulties, a person becomes stronger. After all, a crisis is a turning point when previous actions turn out to be ineffective, and a person has not yet come up with new ways of behavior.
A mentally strong person is one who knows how to invent these ways of coping with a difficult life situation. Anyone who does not know what fortitude is has every chance of finding it in difficult circumstances. It is the positive experience of meeting difficult situations that strengthens a person. After all, this knowledge will give him confidence in the future. If he was able to deal with problems before, he will know that he is capable of solving these problems.
