In childhood and adolescence, life seems cloudless and endless. But this is a misleading impression. Alas, often the awareness of limited time comes to us only in adulthood, when a lot has already been done and not done exactly as we dreamed of at the dawn of our youth. Then comes the regret that we postponed our present. What mistakes in life make us look back and regret the lost time?
Find the guilty ones
Oh yes, there is something to discuss here! Finding those to blame is always easier than looking for problems within yourself. My parents weren’t rich and didn’t pass on the genius gene, and they raised me poorly in general. Childhood was incredibly difficult: homework every day, but not candy every day. The influence of the street and poor climate in the yard destroyed all chances of starting to live successfully. Moreover, there is a bad government that does nothing but steal every day. Perhaps there would have been a chance to become one of the people, but the evil sect of entrepreneurs and businessmen will not allow you to develop. All that remains is to drink, smoke and constantly complain about life with swear words in your clip.
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I would like to start with 10 covenants, but it won’t work. The Universe is so many years old, and the world has changed and evolved so much that sometimes it seems that there is no room left for something new, but this is not so. Each of us makes mistakes, more than once. And if you take, for example, the life of not only an individual person, but of all humanity, then you begin to understand that all world catastrophes happen due to the wrong actions of people. From which it follows that people from generation to generation make gross mistakes without drawing any conclusions. We are all so independent that we prefer to break our destiny on our own. It's time to work on the mistakes.
Live in the past
No matter how paradoxical it may sound, many people prefer to live in the past. Without realizing that for complete happiness they only need amnesia. Yes, the eternal movement forward is exhausting, but there is no other way. Beyond the comfort zone and thoughts about how good it was, real life lies. Even if you were extremely happy in the past, that has passed and it’s time to move on.
Sweet memories are just one of the stages in life. When the happy past is left behind, you need to look for new emotions. Happiness is a growing quantity, and it is found in life. And life, as you know, is only a moment.
Doubt
Everything ingenious is simple and everything simple is genius. It is impossible not to agree with this. In our world, everything is banal, people just like to complicate everything. What you already have is not always the aisle of your dreams. You can change your life today if you stop doubting yourself. You are afraid to take risks because the fear of making a mistake is too great. But not taking risks is already a mistake. The universe appreciates mistakes. A dispute arises in them, and in a dispute the truth arises.
It is important to believe in your success, even if the whole world is against you. Spit! Go towards your dream, no matter what. Without self-confidence there would be no motorcycles, iPhones, helicopters, medicines, there would be nothing that we are used to using and are mediocre about it. The world needs you, it needs you, your innovative ideas and risky play. Yes, what can we say about the world, you yourself simply need it.
Living someone else's life
Life is always in full swing around successful people. Why? It’s just that they don’t think in a standard way, they think boldly, brightly, creatively, although not always logically, but truly. Such people are carried forward by the spirit of adventurism. They do what they want. And we are very sorry that many have forgotten what it is like to live life to the fullest. Most often, such people seem frivolous, but they are not. They're just happy.
Don't think we are not encouraging you to be reckless. We want you to open up to new things, to enter the seething stream called real life. Stop wasting your precious time on things that deprive you of happiness. Give up hated jobs, toxic relationships, problematic people, bad music, boring movies, boring books, right now. Close your eyes and imagine your ideal life in detail, it may well become real. To do this, start thinking through plans to make your dreams come true. Look for ways to get out of your comfort zone today so that you can enjoy a new, and most importantly, happy life tomorrow.
Make unrealistic plans
No, no one forbids dreaming, but, first of all, you need to think rationally. Be objective and learn to appreciate what you already have. Wherever you are, no matter what you do, no matter how smart and beautiful you are, there will always be someone who will surpass you. Life is a struggle, but only those who go their own way win. For some reason, we dream of a beautiful life somewhere outside our hometown, although happiness is already near you. You just need to look carefully. There is no end to the eternal search for success. Sometimes it is useful to hit the brakes in order to objectively assess what is happening around you. Life is made up of little things, and it's the little things in life that make it special.
Thinking that everything is bought and sold
Undoubtedly, money rules the world, but it cannot be turned into the meaning of your life. Money is not a synonym for happiness, but only a good fuel for it. Let's not lie, in the modern world you can't live without money. There is only one thing: some people live to spend it, while others spend their lives to earn it. Do you feel the difference? Of course, not everything is so simple, but the ability to balance on this fine line is the secret of success.
If happiness could be bought, then we would have long ago lost interest in it. It is in its inaccessibility, and sometimes even inaccessibility, that all its charm lies. And happiness, as we know, is hidden in the little things: in the smile of a mother, the pride of a superior, in the sincerity of words, in the embrace of a loved one, in affection, human tenderness. Everything that cannot be cashed out is the whole thrill of our lives, so feel it.
Hiding behind a mask of indifference
No one wants to reach old age and not receive the long-awaited glass of water. So start with yourself. Of course, life is not fair. There are no guaranteed ways to achieve success, and there are no guarantees that problems can be avoided. You can play by the rules and end up with nothing, or you can ignore all the laws and be on the high horse. The only thing you should worry about is honesty and sincerity. Don't lie to yourself or others. Be open to the world, people and life in general. Take off this mask of indifference. It is important to remain human in any, even the most difficult and confusing situations.
Afraid
All restrictions (fears, doubts, complexes) are formed in our consciousness. The world around us is not as scary as the one that is inside each of us. The surrounding space only plays its role, which, no matter how funny it may sound, we bestow on ourselves. We create our own world with our thoughts. Thinking that dangers await us at every step, without realizing it ourselves, we transform them into reality, helping fear to assert its position. The law works here: from thoughts to words, from words to deeds. You definitely need to fight fear. No fear - no problems.
Be a perfectionist
Perfectionism is a disease of the 21st century. The Leaning Tower of Pisa is a striking example of the fact that everything ingenious is born through trial and error. This world cannot be controlled, accurately calculated, or predicted. It cannot be controlled. Life is a bustle, reminiscent of a mountain river that carries you along the flow, sometimes throwing you onto the rocks, sometimes throwing you up, sometimes dropping you to the very bottom. Everyone has the right to choose which raft to sail on: the raft of happiness or constant protest.
Thinking that you owe someone something
No one owes nothing to nobody. They love you for a reason, which means no one has any reason to demand anything from you. You have the right to independently choose what is important and valuable to you. You can let everything take its course and no one should care about it. Why? Yes because it is your life and your choice. You don't owe anything if you don't want to.
Regret
Yourself, others, about what you have done, and so on. Pity is the last feeling, and therefore experiencing it is very dangerous. Stop beating yourself up. Forgotten or not forgotten. Late or not late. They did it or they didn’t want to do it. Everything has its place. Have you missed your happiness? - it means it wasn’t your happiness. Enough empty words about missed opportunities. Nothing happens in vain. If you did something, then at this stage of your life, at this specific level of your development, this action had its own meaning. And if you think you could have done anything differently, know that you couldn't.
Some mistakes change a person for the better, others work miracles, and others break destinies. Now you know what can ruin your life. Avoid this. The whole point lies in the level of happiness of each individual person. And the path to this happiness runs through knowing yourself. Don't be like everyone else, stand out from the crowd and never give up on your unique and happy life. Good luck ,
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19.01.2018 02:04
A Tale of Lost Time
Time is our most valuable resource. Many people waste it frivolously on unproductive entertainment that only brings momentary pleasure. Having gone through a certain path in life, they turn out to be much less successful and fulfilled than those who spent this time on self-development, education, travel and other spiritually enriching things. This creates a vacuum in the consciousness and the feeling that life is slipping away like sand through your fingers. To prevent this from happening, you need to learn to live consciously. Ask yourself from time to time whether what you are currently living is improving you.
What questions do you need to ask yourself to fix a difficult situation?
- What is the reason behind making mistakes? You cannot lie to yourself in this matter, even if the fault lies entirely with the person, and it is very difficult to answer.
- Was it possible to do this by accident? Sometimes it happens that life dictates its own rules and puts it in such a framework that practically nothing depends on a person. If everything happened exactly like this, then you need to remember these words: “Everything that is done is all for the better!”
- What life experience can be learned from this situation? Only slackers can make no mistakes in life.
- Who can help fix the situation? You can always ask for help, there is nothing wrong with that. Making a mistake sometimes helps you find new friends.
- How can a person himself solve a problem? You should always try to correct mistakes, because guilt can overwhelm you. Sometimes this happens after some time, when the person has fully realized his guilt. You definitely need to come up with a plan to get out of an unpleasant situation.
We forget about family and friends
In pursuit of career success, many of us tend to forget not only about ourselves, but also about those around us who love us. Years later, it turns out that the relationship has undergone changes that are not at all for the better, and some are completely impossible to return. These mistakes can cost even the lives of those dearest to you. An indifferent attitude concerns grandparents, parents, children with whom we forgot to communicate, meet, play, talk and who eventually became strangers. But it is the emotions of love and intimacy that fill life with colors. Life is unpredictable, so it’s worth seizing the moment to be with those who are dear to us and to whom we are dear.
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We are sprayed with love's suffering
Suffering due to the breakup of a romantic relationship can drag on, especially for impressionable people. For the most part, women unnecessarily exaggerate the importance of everything in a couple. But this attitude also harms some men. A person finds himself, as it were, thrown out of emotional life for many months or even years. He forgets how to enjoy every day, to see himself outside the context of relationships. This is also the reason why a man or woman cannot meet someone who would really suit him/her. Behind the suffering, people do not notice how someone worthwhile passes by, who can truly make them happier. You don't want to lose sight of such a person, do you?
We live according to social expectations
Society always expects something from us and unspokenly demands that we meet generally accepted standards. At this age you need to study, at this age you need to have children, and at this age you need to live out your days doing handicrafts and growing vegetables in the country... Most people, wanting to be accepted, strive to fit into these stereotypical patterns. They don't even question whether they need what they do. This is how an alien profession appears, an unhappy marriage, unloved children. As a result, your own life becomes someone else's. Often, the realization of a terrible mistake comes at the end of life, when the main “programs” have been completed. But it doesn’t add any joy. Therefore, regardless of age, ask yourself philosophical questions: who you are, what you want, where you are going. Even if your path is unconventional, you will always be right, because this is only your life (and not those who judge). You have every right to dispose of it as you wish.
Inaction due to fear of failure
When you start taking some real actions to get closer to your goal, you will definitely encounter problems and difficulties. Yes, you may not be able to implement your plans the first time, and this is quite normal.
What is much more important is how you behave after the first failure. It is likely that you will want to give up, give up everything and just go with the flow without doing anything else. It is important not to give in to this temptation.
You need to give yourself time to think about the situation and understand what caused the failure. And then try again. When you finally succeed in achieving your goal, the satisfaction you will feel will be one of the most pleasant feelings you have ever experienced.
How to avoid this mistake. Don't be afraid to take steps just because you're afraid of failure. It’s better to do it and regret it than to just sit back.
Afraid to take risks
Everyone is familiar with the phrase: “The Titanic was built by professionals, but the ark was built by amateurs.” She inspires and inspires. Everything in life is elementary, we just like to complicate everything. A familiar place is not always the ultimate dream. Perhaps your decision today to call the right person, send your resume for a well-paid position in a large corporation, withdraw money from a deposit ahead of schedule, send an offer to the most capricious client, or confess your feelings to a seemingly unattainable person - all this can change your whole life this evening.
You are afraid to take risks because you are afraid that this may be your next mistake. But the world often appreciates mistakes. Dialogue is born in them, and truth is born in dialogue. Some mistakes, reckless determination or making decisions without a guarantee of success lead to good fortune and bring world fame. Take, for example, the first book about Harry Potter; its author, JK Rowling, spent more than one year searching for a publishing house that would want to publish this fantastic story. Of course, it was unpleasant for her to hear 12 refusals, but she moved forward towards her goal. 12 publishing houses did not see anything special in the future world bestseller. And now both children and adults know and admire the story of an unusual boy.
You need to believe in yourself, in your strengths and in those around you. Without faith in the future and without the ability to take risks, there would be no bicycles, mobile phones, airplanes, computers, there would be no everything that seems most necessary and ordinary. The world needs your risky decisions, but what the world, you yourself need them.
