Short Quotes About Raising Children
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You will almost always achieve more with affection than with brute force. Aesop
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First make sure, and then convince. K.S. Stanislavsky
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True education consists not so much in rules as in exercises. J.J. Rousseau
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A good upbringing most reliably protects a person from those who are poorly brought up (F. Chesterfield) Of all creations, the most beautiful is a person who has received an excellent upbringing (Epictetus)
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Education develops abilities, but does not create them. F. Voltaire
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Education is the acquisition of good habits. Plato
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A teacher, like an artist, must be born. K. Weber
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Of all the fruits, the best fruit comes from good education. K. Prutkov
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Do not make an idol out of a child: when he grows up, he will require sacrifices. P. Buast
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The teacher himself must be what he wants the student to be. IN AND. Dahl
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Nothing teaches you more than realizing your mistake. This is one of the main means of self-education. T. Carlyle
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A bad teacher of children is one who does not remember his childhood. M. Ebner-Eschenbach
Bugs and achievements
Statuses about parenting may reflect your personal experiences.
- I was hugged too rarely as a child. And I will return all those hugs that I didn’t receive to my child.
- Thousands of books have been written about education. But I think the best guide is your heart, your emotions, your empathy.
- Sometimes parents can achieve more with silence than with the loudest screams.
- Never yell at children. No, they won't think that you are bad. They will decide that they themselves are bad.
- A child can forgive his parents everything. Everything except dislike.
- What to prohibit? What to allow? Just learn to evaluate everything from the point of view of whether it is useful for the little person. And everything will become clear.
- Parenting is a process that does not begin at birth. And not even at the moment of conception. It begins when the mother and father of the child are just beginning to become aware of themselves. Our children are raised through us by our mothers.
- Do you love your child? So, just learn to leave him alone. It's hard. But this is the best and only way.
- You cannot spoil a child with love. It can only be spoiled by coldness, lack of acceptance, and constant criticism.
Great teachers about children and education
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If a teacher combines love for his work and for his students, he is a perfect teacher. Lev Tolstoy
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The art of education has the peculiarity that it seems familiar and understandable to almost everyone, and even easy to others, and the more understandable and easier it seems, the less a person is familiar with it theoretically or practically.
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Education should not only develop a person’s mind and give him a certain amount of information, but should ignite in him a thirst for serious work, without which his life can be neither worthy nor happy.
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The main road of human education is conviction. Ushinsky K. D.
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A game is a huge bright window through which a life-giving stream of ideas and concepts about the world around us flows into the child’s spiritual world. The game is a spark that ignites the flame of inquisitiveness and curiosity.
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Every moment of the work called education is the creation of the future and a look into the future. Sukhomlinsky V. A.
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The teacher must behave in such a way that every movement educates him, and must always know what he wants at the moment and what he does not want. If the educator does not know this, whom can he educate?
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No matter how many correct ideas you create about what needs to be done, if you do not cultivate the habit of overcoming long-term difficulties, I have the right to say that you have not cultivated anything.
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You cannot teach a person to be happy, but you can raise him so that he is happy. But will this be real happiness?
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Only a living example educates a child, and not words, even the best ones, but not backed up by deeds. A. S. Makarenko
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The paradox of education is that those who do not need education respond well to education. F. Iskander
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To educate means to organize life; Children grow up correctly in the right life. Lev Semenovich Vygotsky
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If you set out to raise a good child, then you simply will not be able to do it poorly.
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Don't talk badly about your child - neither in front of him nor without him. Maria Montessori
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The efforts of adults are aimed, in essence, at making the child comfortable for themselves. Janusz Korczak
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Education... must be based... on the original and independent existence of innate abilities; it is a matter of directing them, not creating them. John Dewey
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The task of the educator and teacher remains to introduce every child to universal human development and make him a person before he masters civil relations. Adolf Disterweg
Catchphrases and aphorisms about education
***I know one priest who, back in Soviet times, said that a child is sent to kindergarten in two cases: either if the parents died or if they went crazy. A kindergarten may be a necessity - if the parents are in a very difficult financial situation or the mother is raising a child alone - but not the norm. Sometimes a child is sent to an orphanage, but we don’t think that this is right.
PANTELEMON, Bishop of Orekhovo-Zuevsky
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Research conducted by experts has repeatedly shown that the more affectionate parents are with their children, the more developed the children are.
Yu.F. Mironov, father of 10 children
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Our ancestors lived much poorer than ours, but they firmly believed that God would not leave them without help in the most extreme need and poverty. “If God gives children, He will also give for children” is an irrefutable truth confirmed by experience.
Theologian Herman Szymansky (1915-1961)
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There are spouses who first of all try to put all other problems in order and only then start thinking about children. Such people do not take God into account at all. And other married couples say: “Life today is not easy. Let us have one child and that’s enough. Just try to grow one here!” And they don’t give birth to other children. These people do not realize how much they are sinning by thinking this way and not trusting in God. God is “compassionate.” It is easy for Him to stop giving children to their spouses if He sees that they are no longer able to raise them.
Elder Paisiy Svyatogorets (1924-1994)
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By strengthening the marriage union of spouses and keeping them from many bad things, children contribute to the development of self-sacrifice, love for others and mutual assistance in a family man. The need to endure labor and hardship for your family prevents the development of pride and coldness; the desire to surround his family with possible comfort and security encourages a family man to get closer to others, neighbors and co-workers, to use their services and help them, not limiting himself to caring only about his family. Realizing that the well-being of his family is closely connected with the well-being of the people around him, he becomes softer, more responsive to the needs of others, and is constantly ready to help them as best he can. This disposition to serve others constantly grows stronger in him; he already loves his neighbors, fellow villagers, compatriots; he considers it his duty to take care of the good of society, to bring him all possible good and benefit - and with the further development of this good direction, that high Christian moral character is formed in a person, in which doing good to another is better pleasure, and a person stops at nothing when I need help and service to my neighbor.
Deacon I. Rozanov (XIX-XX centuries)
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They neglect children if they only want to amuse them and be amused by them, and especially when the time comes to teach them more than to amuse them... That parental love is wise and saving, which, constraining itself, somewhat withholds affection towards children, is somewhat stingy with consolation them in order to preserve this as an encouragement and reward for their obedience or success in useful teaching. They neglect their children, even if they teach them, but more pleasant than useful... They neglect their children if they teach them more diligently what is useful for temporary life than what is saving for the immortal soul...
Saint Philaret, Metropolitan of Moscow. (+ 1867)
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According to the testimony of some church writers, the state of the child’s soul is largely predetermined by the state of the parents’ hearts at the sacred hour of conception. A husband and wife, whose love is sacred, whose bed is pure and immaculate, should take care of chastity of heart.
Archpriest Artemy Vladimirov (XX-XXI centuries)
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Thank you, dearest mother! I will forever remain your debtor. When I noticed your gaze, your body movements, your walk before God, your suffering, your silence, your gifts, your labors, your blessing hand, your quiet, constant prayer - then, from the earliest years, every time I seemed to be reborn again. The life of the spirit in me is a feeling of piety, and this feeling could not be destroyed later by any concepts, no doubt, no seduction, no harmful examples, even no sins. This life of the spirit still lives in me, although more than forty years have already passed since you left this temporary life.
Priest Grigory Dyachenko (XIX century)
*** It happened that you were naughty, and mother would say: “Go, don’t be naughty, you’re not listening, you’re being naughty, but I have to give the answer to God for you. You create sins with your pranks - then you won’t be able to deal with them yourself.” And youth takes its toll: no matter how hard I hold on, I’ll screw up again... Then mother would kneel down in front of the icons and begin with tears to complain out loud about me to God and pray: “Lord, I begged You for my son, but he keeps playing naughty, doesn’t listen.” me. What should I do with him?.. And he himself may die and destroy me... Lord, don’t leave him, give him some sense, so that he doesn’t play pranks...” And everything like that, he prays out loud, cries. And I stand nearby, quiet down, listening to her complaints. I’ll feel ashamed, and I’ll feel sorry for my mother. “Mother, and mother... I won’t do it anymore,” I whisper to her timidly. And she keeps asking God for me. I promise again not to be naughty, and I myself will begin to pray next to my mother.
Schema-Archimandrite Gabriel († 1915)
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By passing on their flesh and blood to the child, participating in the formation of his immortal soul, parents also pass on to him a part of their soul, their heart. It’s good if the parents’ heart and soul are cleansed by grace; but what if it is filled with the uncleanness of sin? Will it be passed on to the children? Undoubtedly, it will pass on and bring within itself the seeds of evil and disease. How many parents are there who grieve, cry, complain, seeing in their children stubbornness, waywardness, disobedience, irritability, anger, revenge, various types of corruption, but let them remember whether these vices were in their own hearts even before the birth of children? If a mother’s excesses in food and drink have a more or less harmful effect on the fetus carried under her heart, then all the more can impure desires and strong passions act to harm.
Theologian Herman Szymansky (1915-1961)
*** Accept all the sorrows that you experience through your child as a cleansing punishment for your past, and learn to thank God for everything, consciously and responsibly accepting everything from the Hand of God.
Archimandrite John (Peasant) (1910-2006)
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Non-Christian pedagogy is an unthinkable thing - a headless monster and activity without a goal.
Konstantin Ushinsky, teacher (1824-1870)
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Parents should try hard to cut off their passions. It doesn't matter that they inherited some of these passions from their own parents. They will not only give an answer to God for not making a heroic effort to cut off these passions, but they will also bear responsibility for passing on these passions to their children.
Elder Paisiy Svyatogorets (1924-1994)
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The only value in life is family. Once the family perishes, the world perishes. Show your love to your family first. When the family is destroyed, everything will be destroyed: both the clergy and monasticism.
Elder Paisios of Athos
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The husband is the head of the family not because he is a man but because he is the image of Christ.
Metropolitan Anthony of Sourozh
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Marriage is not a struggle for who will be first, who will order and command others, as is usually the case, but, on the contrary, marriage is a competition to see who will serve whom the most and who will make the most sacrifices for the other.
I once read an interview - brides at the registry office were asked what they expected from marriage. Out of ten, nine wanted to be happy and only one said: “I want to give him happiness.” And the journalist thought that, probably, only she would be happy, because she wants to give, and not take for herself. This is what really happens.
Archpriest Dimitry Smirnov
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The everyday rule that children must respect their parents, and parents must love their children, must be read in reverse: parents must respect children, respect their peculiar little world and their ardent nature, ready to be offended at every minute; and children should only love their parents - and they will certainly love them once they feel this respect for themselves.
Vasily Rozanov
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Parents who give birth to children and give them a body should, as far as possible, contribute to their spiritual rebirth.
If a person from a young age assimilates the deepest meaning of life, then everything goes as it should. Otherwise, he takes pleasure in perishable things, in human praise, which in reality do not bring him peace, and remains a perishable person.
If a person does not cut off his passions in his youth, then, over the years, his willpower will weaken and his passions will become stronger.
Elder Paisiy Svyatogorets
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He who spares his rod hates his son; and whoever loves punishes him from childhood. (Prov. 13, 25)
Instruct a young man at the beginning of his path: he will not deviate from it when he is old. (Proverbs 22:6)
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The rules of piety are the outer manifestation of the inner life of a Christian. By paying primary attention to the internal state, we will lead them to external piety, and not vice versa.
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Let us teach the child, first of all, to pay attention to his own shortcomings and to be lenient towards the weaknesses of his neighbor.
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Our task is to try as early as possible to form in the child a correct understanding of the essence of sin: harm to oneself, others and grief to God.
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The more children upset us and disobey us, the hotter and stronger the parental prayer should be.
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It is necessary to more often draw children's attention to how God's all-good providence operates in our lives, how good and evil, bad and good are interconnected in life. Forming in a child the conviction that without the will of God not a hair will fall from his head will help us develop religiosity in the child in a short time.
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It is necessary to show the child that growing up, the manifestation of one’s own will, should first of all manifest itself in upholding one’s spiritual ideals, and not in following the will of others.
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The main goal of Orthodox education is one - to lead a child to Christ, to raise him as a Christian. A child must hear the voice of his conscience well, have a sense of sin and the experience of God’s all-forgiving and all-purifying love. He must know that most of all in the whole world he is loved by the Lord, who is always faithful to man and is always there. His parents will go to God, he will grow up, but no matter what happens, God is always there.
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It is necessary to monitor the child unobtrusively, but constantly. It’s good if the child is used to discussing his choice with his parents, but the decision must be his. It is necessary to offer the child several options for solving the problem, let him learn to listen and not be afraid to seek advice. “Independence is reasoning with advice.” O. John Krestyankin.
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The spiritual age of a child is the ability to practice, consciously apply the foundations of Orthodox doctrine, the desire and effort to live according to the Commandments of God.
Our task is to make doing good become the norm for the child.
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It is necessary to find time and energy for joint activities with children, no matter how busy we are, no matter how tired we are. If children know that their interests are our interests, then they will not leave us for themselves or dubious companies. Let's be friends with our children, then they will trust us.
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It is necessary to awaken a child’s interest in reading, music... It is necessary for the child to learn what a symphony orchestra is, not from TV, but by attending a concert.
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As soon as the child learns to write, we will teach him to write himself and submit memorial notes in the church.
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Nicknames in our time are an attribute of the prison subculture. It is necessary that a child from childhood understand the holiness of the name given in the Sacrament of Baptism and the blasphemy of distorting it, especially replacing it with a nickname.
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On the name day, you should definitely try to visit the temple with your child. Let him write the note himself, light a candle for his saint, and donate money to the church mug himself.
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Youth culture is not created by the young. Certain groups of people seek to bring the world of youth under their control for their own commercial interests. As it turns out, the path to the souls of young people lies through satisfying all their whims.
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In education, it’s like in mathematics: if you violate the order of actions, you will get the wrong result. From simple to complex, from small to large, and so on in everything: in study, in play, in training, in prayer...
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There is no need to be afraid to admit your mistake and ask for forgiveness from your child. He will follow our example.
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If a child understands that he is to blame and is worried, he needs to show leniency and not punish.
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Irritability is one of the manifestations of internal promiscuity.
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The education of courage cannot be divorced from religious education. A child must know in all his fears that his main protection is the Cross of the Lord, that the Lord and the Mother of God will not leave him!
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The young boy can be likened to a board prepared for depicting a picture: whatever the painter decided to depict - good or bad, holy or sinful, angel or demon - will remain on it. So it is with a child: what kind of parents will give him the initial upbringing, what kind of morals - godly or God-hating, angelic or demonic - to accustom him to - these are the ones he will live with.
St. Dimitry Rostovsky
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If anyone does not take care of his own, and especially his family, he has renounced the faith and is worse than an infidel. 1 Tim (5:8)
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While the soul is still capable of education, is tender and, like wax, compliant, conveniently imprinting the imposed images on itself, it is necessary to immediately and from the very beginning excite it to all exercises in goodness, so that when the mind opens and reason comes into action, it begins to flow with the initially laid foundations and taught images of piety, while reason will instill what is useful, and skill will facilitate success.
Saint Basil the Great
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One mother came to me with the following problem: “I have a teenage daughter, I have been raising her alone since she was two years old. I'm interested in: how can you influence the choice of girlfriends and friends during adolescence? How not to go too far? I invited her to meet her child’s friends. I myself always try to invite my children’s friends home - to chat, drink tea, talk. When my children begin to perceive their seemingly interesting friend through the prism of my questions, my comments on what he says, they have a different plane of perception of this person. Very often such friendships, before they even begin, fall apart. The child himself sees that his potential friend has other interests. One should not be afraid to invite a friend of children to visit, if his parents allow, to chat, ask in more detail. And maybe the problem will somehow be solved. Maybe the mother herself will calm down when she sees that the child has chosen not such bad friends. Many children are simply happy: “You know, my parents invited you to visit!” This is an event for them.
If adults cannot trust a teenager with much, attempts at “unauthorized initiations” occur. This could be anything from smoking a cigarette to leaving home.
Sklyarova T.V. Head/Department of Social Pedagogy
Orthodox St. Tikhon's University
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– Children, naturally, are much more impressionable than adults. Maybe they shouldn’t spend time in front of blue screens at all?
– Here the analogy of medicine and poison involuntarily suggests itself. Television can be a medicine, but it turns out to be poison, since the child receives it unsupervised, in the wrong proportion, at the wrong time, of the wrong quality, with the wrong content. And this, of course, poisons the brain and soul. I have been saying for a long time that we need to do it the same way as on American television, when a recognizable icon appears before the program - for what age is this program recommended, whether it is family-friendly or intended only for adults. And the text says: in this program you can find scenes of violence, nudity and obscene language. Thus, at least there is an opportunity to change the channel in time or take the child to another room. I want neither I nor the children to be hostage to television programs.
Alexander Gordon
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Many parents are unaware that for children under the age of seven, the virtual and real worlds are absolutely identical... They simply do not know how to distinguish between what is shown to them on TV and what is happening outside the screen. But on the screen everything is more interesting and dynamic than in life. The world of evil is scary, but attractive. Children, not trained to distinguish good from evil, begin to behave like screen characters.
Hegumen Evmeniy
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The fundamental tragedy of adolescence is that a teenager wants to have the rights of an adult (as he understands them, but he understands them poorly), but at the same time retain the responsibilities of a child (that is, none, as he again understands them). This leads to a lot of trouble. Meanwhile, the child has a duty to obey. If she is rejected, it is very likely that the personality will collapse, and not only her: in good pedagogy, every possible indulgence in the child’s “rights” to receive everything is called succinctly: raising an enemy.
There is no need to be offended by comparisons with teenagers: various scientists, such as sociologists, have long discovered that there is a rapid infantilization of the world's population. Perhaps this is also somehow connected with the displacement of responsibilities from their necessary (for a harmoniously developed consciousness and a steadily developing society) correlation with rights. Be that as it may, no expansion of rights beyond a certain limit (which is both a complex and fascinating problem) provides guarantees of social peace. And as for the spiritual world... Bitter historical and family experience suggests: endless satisfaction of rights, in no way conditioned by the counter-demand of fulfilling duties, never causes contentment. So there's no point in trying.
Marina Zhurinskaya
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How often do we throw around lofty words without thinking about them. Here is a doldonim: children are happiness, children are joy, children are light in the window! But children are also our torment! Our eternal concern! Children are our judgment on the world, our mirror, in which our conscience, intelligence, honesty, neatness are all visible. Children can shut us down, but we can never shut them down.
Quotes about raising children of famous people
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Parenting is now the most difficult thing; you think: “Well, it’s all over now! - no such luck: it’s just starting!..” M.Yu. Lermontov
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Anyone who wants to raise a child well is doomed to always adhere to fair views. O. Balzac
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Reading with children can be an excellent means of emotional education. John Gottman
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To educate means to prepare for life... You need to learn at school, but you need to learn much more after leaving school. D.I.Pisarev
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Educating does not mean saying good words to children, instructing and edifying them, but, above all, living like a human being yourself. Whoever wants to fulfill his duty regarding children must begin education with himself. A.N. Ostrogorsky
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Moral deformity and crime are the result of lack of education and depravity starting from an early age. V.M. Bekhterev
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A habit is strongest when it begins in youth; This is what we call education, which is, in essence, nothing more than early formed habits. Francis Bacon
Education must begin from the cradle. N. I. Pirogov
Best example
Statuses about raising children with meaning are the best way to show the simple truth that says: you can teach something only by your own example.
- Parenting is not yelling or criticism. This is work on yourself, your own example and self-development.
- You can only teach how to do something if you do it yourself.
- Will a child who has never seen his parents read read? Will someone whose parents drank and smoked with him give up cigarettes and alcohol? Answer both of these questions honestly and you will understand what parenting is.
- Mother and father are infallible authorities. Almost gods. Don't let your children down or disappoint you by becoming gods of chaos!
- Create, learn, educate yourself together with your child. Be on his side, and he will always listen to your advice, even when he grows up and becomes a parent himself.
- Being a parent is constantly evolving. If you stop in this process, you will not be able to give your children what you should.
- When you scold your child, remember that he is just a reflection of you. By scolding children, we scold ourselves.
- A mother's cry is a sign of her powerlessness. A child's cry is a sign of pain.
Statuses about parenting, wise and deep, will help you share your thoughts or get support in a difficult situation. Remember: the main thing is your love for your baby and your desire to give him the best. Be guided by your love, and you will never harm the little person.
Quotes about raising children by parents in the family
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Do not think that you are raising a child only when you talk to him or teach him or order him. You raise him at every moment of your life, even when you are not at home.
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Before you start raising your children, check your own behavior.
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Parental help should not be intrusive, annoying, or tiring. In some cases, it is absolutely necessary to allow the child to get out of difficulties on his own; he needs to get used to overcoming obstacles and resolving more complex issues. But you must always see how the child performs this operation; you must not allow him to become confused and despair. Sometimes you even need the child to see your alertness, attention and trust in his strengths. A.S. Makarenko
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Parents who do not want to raise their children in strict rules are worthy of reproach. Petronius
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The main meaning and purpose of family life is raising children. The main school for raising children is the relationship between husband and wife, father and mother. V.A. Sukhomlinsky
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Only by instilling in your child an optimistic view of the world, you teach him to understand himself, to open his inner world and the world around him. Martin Seligman
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Raise your children in virtue: it is the only one that can give happiness. L. Beethoven
Sometimes it's not easy...
Sometimes parents feel like they are not coping with their tasks. And statuses about raising children can express despair and self-doubt.
- I'm afraid that every day I do something that my son will talk about in the psychotherapist's chair in 10-15 years.
- It’s hard to admit to myself... But I don’t always love my child. The way we would like. Just as it should. Maybe I'm a bad mother?
- You don't have to be a perfect mother. But we must learn to be a good mother. For your child. And for no one else.
- Advice on how to properly raise children is usually given by childless people or people who had money for nannies...
- Every time I scold a child, it seems to me that I am making an irreparable mistake. And when I don’t scold for something, too. I do not know what to do.
- She yelled at her son. Then she asked for forgiveness. Then I felt guilty and bought him ice cream. Then I felt guilty for feeding him sweets. Being a mother is wonderful!
- Previously, to be an ideal mother it was enough to not let the offspring die, but now - the best products, mugs, a gluten-free diet, orthopedic shoes... I wish I could go back in time at least for a moment and relax a little...
- Whims. Quarreling. Misunderstanding. Fatigue. But all this fades into the background when the child says he loves me...
- To develop a personality, you need to become a personality yourself.
- It is stupid to forbid a child to smoke while holding a cigarette in his hand. It is a pity that not everyone understood this simple truth.
- Don't lie to your children. They will sense a lie, but they don't want to believe that you are doing a bad thing. It drives them crazy. Better tell the truth and learn to accept your children's reactions to it.
Quotes about raising preschool children
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What a person will be like mainly depends on what he will be like by the fifth year of life, but the principles of education are the same as at 10 and 11 years old.
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The feeling of oneself and someone else's needs to be cultivated from the age of three or four. At five years old, a child should also know what he can and cannot talk about, know his own people and those of others. Only then can we be calm for the life of the child.
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In kindergarten, where the child stays all day, following the daily routine is the main thing in instilling discipline, in hardening, and in creating a good mood for children. A. S. Makarenko
Education is not limited to school. P. Valerie
