TOP 100 examples: what to write first to a guy you like in order to interest him

Greetings to all of you, dear readers and subscribers! On the pages of previous publications (unless you forgot, of course), we discussed how social networks can be useful to us in life, and what opportunities they provide for communication. I hope everyone has already set up a VKontakte page, where you can join and leave their groups, share posts, like photos, and just chat.

We touched little on the topic of filling out information about yourself in general and on the wall in particular. I suggest you see what you can write about yourself on VK in a way that makes it different from others and original.

Preparatory work: before you write

Before surfing the vastness of a dating site, check if everything is in order with your virtual face - a profile that, like the right dress, should emphasize your strengths and hide your flaws. We have already discussed in detail how to fill out a profile for a girl on a dating site in order to leave a clear, succinct and vivid impression of yourself. Read it.

She put herself in order - with the attention of a tracker, she studied the profile of the guy to whom she was about to write, with desperately sparkling eyes. You need to know the enemy by sight. Any profile on a dating site, except an empty one, provides a lot of useful information. In particular, it answers the question of what words to write to a guy first. Cling to the information kindly provided.

Do I need to fill out VK interests?

As you may have seen from other users, if you open their page, there is a “Show detailed information” link. So, if we open it, we will see what a person breathes, detailed information.

Some fill out very little information; you must agree that such a page looks less profitable than the pages of users who have something to read.

It’s certainly worth filling out information about your interests on VKontakte, especially since you can leave some fields empty and write only in those where you really have something to talk about.

What to write to the guy you like: set goals

While you're wondering what you can write to a guy, I'll ask you this question: is goal setting an important condition for success? And I’ll answer right away: yes. The destination is the point of arrival. A goal is a clearly formulated desire. Having decided on a goal, you look for (and usually find) means (words) to achieve it. Without a goal, you go somewhere and end up somewhere. Like in the fairy tale about Alice.

- Tell me, please, where should I go from here?

-Where do you want to go? – answered the Cat.

“I don’t care...” said Alice.

“Then it doesn’t matter where you go,” said the Cat.

Don't be Alice. Set transparent goals. Be aware of why you are wasting precious time on dating sites. Are you looking for a partner for what? For example, go to galleries, engage in tantric sex, create a social unit. Each goal has its own style of communication. By the way, what a manner it is to write first. I've probably asked this question a hundred times already.

How to keep a conversation going

During communication, try to avoid awkward pauses. There are endless topics for conversation. So here are some more tips:

Read more.
The broader the horizon of knowledge, the easier it will be to find a new topic for conversation and find the right words.
Take time to watch documentaries and attend cultural events. This will allow you not only to learn a lot of new things, but also to understand the intricacies of many topics.
Try to practice your speech more often. It is difficult to listen to a person who speaks with endless pauses, inserting unnecessary “well, sort of”;
Always show interest. Without interrupting, ask unobtrusive questions;
Chat online. A variety of forums and chats are great for developing communication skills.

A prerequisite for maintaining a conversation is to let the young man you like know that you are comfortable and pleased to be in his company. Be sensitive

Pay attention to any reactions

Why it’s important to write first: the benefits of initiative

Writing first on dating sites, contrary to the stereotype “the man should make the first step,” is a commercially profitable event. Firstly, there are few girls who “write first”, and the attitude towards them is appropriate - the same reverent attitude as towards rare precious metals. Secondly, you gain the opportunity to choose among EVERYONE, and not among those who wrote to you (admit it, more than 90% of those who wrote are guys of low social demand). Thirdly, this is a useful skill in every sense - to take, and not wait. Once you become skilled at dating sites, you can use them everywhere.

Availability of a car, living space

Life in the metropolis is very expensive. And owning your own separate living space is more of a luxury. If you live in Moscow, St. Petersburg, Rostov, Novosibirsk or another large city, but do not have an apartment there, but only rent it, you can safely write about it.

You can even indicate that you are ready for joint tenancy or “preparing for a mortgage” with a serious life partner.

Being proud of a cool car is no longer fashionable now. Everyone (or almost everyone) has a car. And putting photos of your car in the foreground is showing others that this topic is very important to you.

If you take photos, it’s better to be inside the salon - this way you will turn out to be a more real and vital person.

What to write to a guy first: simple ways to impress

Now dip your pen into the inkwell and write. And although the banal “Hello, how are you,” uttered through the lips of a woman, loses its sophistication and acquires a fresh flirtatiousness, it’s worth using your brain to not just catch attention, but to make a lasting impression. This is easy to do with a compliment.

The Power of a Compliment

It’s quite strange that so few women use a simple way to win over any man on a dating site - give a compliment. The compliment should be light and relevant. Leave the eloquence of the times of the Egyptian pharaohs in the bins of your rich spiritual world. “Your eagle gaze pierced my trembling heart” - something like that will at best cause a smile, and sometimes it can even offend the interlocutor.

Men like it when their tribal advantages are emphasized - sexuality, strength, will: “I’ve never seen such expressive biceps!”, “Who gave you such an amazing smile?”, “I want to make sure that handsome guys are interesting conversationalists. Can you help?”, “I don’t know what is more in you - magnetism or romance, but you are definitely not like others.” Praise those virtues that exist in reality, and not ghostly. Talking to a slight guy about biceps is, to say the least, merciless.

Common denominator

You can approach from the other side. Like a springboard, start from common points. “Hello! I saw your photos from Tbilisi. I'm just planning to go there. I want to ask a few questions about the city and your impressions. Do you mind?”, “I also often visit this park, but I’ve never seen you. How could I miss it?”, “Is this luxurious Doberman yours? I always dreamed of having a dog. Is it true that Dobermans, contrary to popular belief about their aggressiveness, are friendly and peaceful?”

Life hack from a psychologist

To feel confident in any situation, not just on a dating site, adopt the following life hack. If you don’t know how to start or maintain a conversation, ask questions. Firstly, you will save your interlocutor from the headache of what to say so that the conversation flows like a babbling stream. Secondly, the question form of communication will emphasize your focus on him.

Girl about herself

The status briefly about me is put more often when a girl is looking for a young man and it is important for her that in the first short phrase the one she likes is also interested in her. What if something works out... Short phrases about yourself could be like this:

My bright appearance is not a reason to say banal things. Before you write, think. I'm not an angel, but I can become one. Blonde, but not stupid. Look into my eyes - you will understand everything. I don't want to seem standard. Everything in life is important! I have experience and am ready to share. Very proud with an impudent face. If you're not sure, don't write. If you don't love me, then I don't either. Car enthusiast without brakes. Vertical racer. Not a coquette or an actress. My words come out on their own. If I offend you, I apologize. I’m not vindictive, but I don’t complain about my memory. I try not to take many things to heart. I know how to turn on healthy indifference in time. I don’t try to imitate anyone, I myself am unique. I'm not in a hurry, I'm afraid to be on time. If something doesn't go my way, you better run. I love extreme sports both day and night. I walk through life confidently and beautifully. I keep my face even after blows. I love to surprise, but not everyone is happy about it.. Always with my head held high. I’m not used to slouching – my shoulders are always straightened. I don’t bend to the changing world. I do not tolerate betrayal and lies, I will correct everything else. I am a flower that requires care. I’ll forgive a lot, but if you change, I won’t let it go. I always do it not in spite of, but for the good. There is no need to doubt me. Self-sufficient, but something is missing. Sometimes I straighten up like a spring - sharply and suddenly. “Usi-pusi” is not with me. Whoever calls him a bunny, I’ll kill him. If you are afraid of me, it is better not to meet. My thoughts and deeds are in complete harmony. I won’t spill my feelings all over the place, just point them out. Smart, beautiful, rich - these are not 3 different girls, this is just me. I love comedians and jokers, I’m like that myself. Easy to climb even at night. I’ll go to a burning hut if necessary... The crazy empress is looking for at least a page. Scorpio, snake according to the horoscope - is it scary? I believe in miracles and often look at the sky. Assol is waiting for Gray. Beauty - who will get you? Shakespearean passions are not for me, calm, only calm. I know how to appreciate real feelings. With my friends, you don’t even need a boyfriend - they’ll give you a lesson, either stand or fall. I know how to love passionately, although I haven’t tried it yet. I’m not used to rejection, only I’m allowed to do this. One minus - too strong. I believe in fate and go with the flow. I never warn you about my intentions - guess for yourself. Perfect, without flaws, but I don’t recommend stepping on the tail. Inner feelings ask to come out. I don’t like surprises, although I can arrange them myself. I won’t explain anything, smart people will understand. I have nothing to hide - everything is written on my face. I’m not modest, but otherwise I’m just talented.

Phrases for meeting a guy on the Internet: TOP-100

Continuing the conversation about women's initiative, there are many examples on the topic “don’t sit like a pretty girl, but write first.” Here's what you can write to a guy so as not to cross the fine line between light flirting and indecent behavior.

I'm a journalist. I'm conducting a survey for a dating site. Can I ask you a few questions? The first one is how do you feel about girls who meet you first?
I read that a person needs to use 70 muscles to smile. I suggest you start downloading them right now. Smile and let's get acquainted!
I'm choosing cufflinks as a gift for my dad. Can you help? Such a stylish young man should understand this.
What ties are in fashion now? I need to buy a gift for my brother, but I know ties like I know screwdrivers.
Do you know what an electric discharge is? This is what happened when I looked at your photo.
You look like the guy I saw in my dream recently. True, he was not alone, but with a white horse. Isn't that you?
Can you tell me how to change spark plugs/oil in “any make of car”?
I pressed something on the computer keyboard and everything went dark. What could it be?
Do you really think that the Internet is a place where serious relationships can begin?
Why is such a spectacular guy looking for a girlfriend on the Internet? I'm sure in real life girls follow you in droves.
I want to make sure that a handsome guy can be an interesting conversationalist. Can you help?
You are like a wild animal - brave, smart and daring. And yet it seems to me that I can tame you.
I want to ask you one question - what can you write to the guy you like?
Why is he so thoughtful in the photo? Don't be sad. Life is wonderful. If only because I exist.
I want to watch a movie in the evening. Can you recommend anything? It seems to me that you are well versed in cinema and more.
Tell me some book. I can’t choose, and you look like a well-read young man.
I also like this park (city, horse riding). I wonder what else we are similar to?
It's amazing how a simple photograph can convey so much emotion.
I have never met a man with such a deep gaze. I'm impressed.
There are so many secrets in these beautiful eyes. Will you share one of them with me?
Before I saw you, I only read about alpha males in magazines.
You look as if you are hugging them. It immediately becomes warm.”
Such a look... Having seen it, neither income, nor education, nor the presence of bad habits no longer matters.
You look great. Do you have an innate sense of taste or do you follow trends?
Hello. I've been looking for you everywhere for so long. And you, it turns out, are here.
I saw your profile, and now I have one question that worries me...
It seems to me, or did you actually act in some kind of movie?
Probably girls often invite you for a walk to the registry office?
Tell me how can I please one charming guy on this dating site?
What do you think is more important for a girl - to be beautiful or smart? Which ones do you prefer?
How do you like the news that “the plot of the latest news (for example, the ruble exchange rate has fallen significantly)”?
Do you believe in love at first sight or do you prefer to take a closer look?
I wonder if such a romantic young man listens to the voice of his heart or reason?
Do you think it's worth making decisions based on intuition?
Name your favorite movie. Maybe that's what I'll watch tonight.
Have you been told that you make a lasting impression on girls?
You've probably been told a thousand times that you're beautiful. But it’s also nice to hear for the thousand and first time, isn’t it?
They invited me to my uncle's birthday party. Can you tell me what I can give as a gift?
The guys are well versed in technology. Maybe you can help me choose headphones/player/phone?
Do you think love is relevant or already a relic of the past?
If you had the chance to become a woman for a while, what would you do first?
Could you call me on my mobile? I lost it and can't find it.
If you had a time machine, where would you like to go?
Do you love popping bubbles on a packaging bag as much as I do?
Are you seriously considering this site as a resource for finding a girl?
I wonder, has such a serious man ever done crazy things?
And what brings you here?
Do you want me to cheer you up?
Are you by any chance the guy of my dreams?
How do you feel about women's initiative?
Why do men like stupid girls?
How long have you been stealing women's hearts?
Your smile makes me lose my sanity.
You look like a purebred cat. I just want to pet you.
The sky, a tree, a supermarket wall…. What do you see from the window?
I have problems with my eyes. I can’t tear them away from your profile.
Hello. We need a man's opinion on one issue. Can you help me?
Oh, have you been to “city/place name”? And how did you like it there?
Let's skip the official part of getting to know each other and move on to the more important part.
Maybe we can get to know each other after all, or will we just silently look through each other’s profiles?
I have a feeling that after looking at my profile, you didn’t know how to approach me. So, I decided to help you.
I thought for a long time about a good phrase to start dating, but decided not to complicate it. Let's get to know each other without boring buzzwords?
How about communication without obligations?
What do you think we have in common?
There are advantages, but what about the disadvantages?
I would like to know more about you than just your name.
Wondering what's behind this beautiful façade?
You have an x-ray look. I guess you can't hide anything from you?
You have a luxurious look. Now it's your turn to compliment.
Could you explain to me one of the rules of the road?
I am a guest from the future and was sent to the “dating site” to make your life better and happier.
I'm writing an article about online dating. Can I ask you a couple of questions?
I'm writing a book about how to meet a guy. Your independent opinion is interesting.
Your presence here turns the other guys into faceless masses.
You create the impression of a fortress in which you can find shelter and feel safe.
Young man, you have hurt my heart, and now you are obligated to provide me with medical attention.
I promised my cat that today I would meet the most handsome guy on the site.
They say that initiative is punishable, and at the same time it is better to regret what was done than what was not done. Shall we meet?
With such a man you don't even need a blanket. You are so warm!
I get embarrassed when you look at me and don't write anything.
Would you like to take me to a cafe one evening?
Young man, can you tell me if you like me?
Can you lead me out of the labyrinth of loneliness?
I'm drowning looking into your eyes. Rescue us urgently!
So this is what a magnetic gaze is...
I've never seen such expressive cheekbones.
Is it true that all men are polygamous?
You can even go to a desert island.
What attracts you most in girls?
Tell me, how does a screwdriver differ from a drill?
If tomorrow is the end of the world, what would you do today?
I feel that you are not like everyone else. I want to understand why.
Do you think money can buy happiness?
Did you know that reproduction in space is impossible?
I dreamed about Freud today. What do you think that would mean?
They say that a trainer's wife gets sugar after good sex!
Do you also think that female logic incapacitates the male psyche?
I wonder why men shake the gun in the tank after refueling their car?
What happens if you press the gas and brake at the same time in a car?
I wonder if you fold or scatter your socks?

How to get a pen pal to ask you out on a date

Sometimes the correspondence drags on significantly, but never leads to a real meeting. If a guy is in no hurry to ask you out on a date, then you have the opportunity to push him to do so.

Little girly tricks:

When texting a guy, let him know that you are clearly interested in him. You should not impose yourself, but do not forget to answer his questions, periodically take an interest in his affairs, and maintain a dialogue.
Perhaps a film he likes is about to premiere. Hint that you are also looking forward to this film, and plan to visit the cinema when it comes out. You can also mention that a certain cafe opened in the city a long time ago, which you wanted to visit to try the sushi or burgers that your friends praised you. The same can be written about some exhibition, theater, etc. He may not know where to invite you, but after your words this problem will disappear.
Tell the guy that you've had a lot of work or study lately, but now you've finally got some free time, and you don't even know where to go, because for some reason no ideas come to your mind right now. It is quite possible that he himself will give you an idea in which he will also appear.
If a guy is in no hurry to ask you out on a date, and you have already begun to doubt that you are of interest to him, you will have to act more radically and directly communicate that you really like communicating with him, and would like to “cross paths somehow” in the city for a drink coffee. Based on his answer, you will understand whether a meeting awaits you soon, or whether you misjudged the attentions of this young man.

What next: how to keep his attention and interest

In principle, to attract the attention of a guy on a dating site, you don’t need much intelligence. Pleasant appearance and unobtrusive initiative are enough. But to prevent interest from evaporating at the speed of boiling water, maintain the right degree.

Do not expose the urgent need for communication and anxiety about its absence. “Where did you go”, “Why don’t you write”, “I’m waiting for your answer” - phrases for defeat.
Talk mostly about him - everyone likes to be talked about. Speak, but don't talk. Don't pretend to be a Real Madrid fan if you don't know what a penalty is.
A good tip is to ask for help. Men like women who ask for help. This makes them feel courageous and smart, that is, they feel superior. “I’m choosing a lawn mower for my father’s birthday – do you think Makita or Husqvarna is better?” “I got (game name) as a gift, but I can’t get past level seven! You are a cool gamer. Help me out!” (if he is a cool gamer).

Remember that communication for the sake of communication has no practical meaning if the purpose of your stay on dating sites is not to stretch your fingers. As soon as you are convinced of the adequacy and safety of your partner, go real. Everything interesting happens there.

What can be indicated in personal information

Why is this necessary at all, you may ask? The goal may be to attract as many visitors as possible to your page, find old and new acquaintances, interest representatives of the opposite sex, and much more. To do this, the social network VK offers to play up this situation with humor and write something about yourself that would set you apart from other users.

Personally, I believe that using the “About Me” section you can create a general impression, and it is better if it is positive. For example, these could be the following things:

• the user is successful and is used to deciding his own destiny;

• not used to complaining about life;

• ready for constant personal growth and self-development;

• is popular with the opposite sex;

• has his own interests (hobbies), is not used to wasting his free time;

• open to new acquaintances with interesting people, relationships, etc.

Results: 5 important rules for interesting and effective correspondence

In the meantime, while you are here and not there, download into the unconscious the basic rules (without rules, nowhere) of interesting and effective correspondence.

Rule 1. The main thing is to start

The first rule of communication on a dating site is to start a conversation. We found out that the problem of what to write to a guy first does not exist. You can indicate your interest with a banal “Hello”, testing the waters to see if your partner makes contact or only likes blondes (when you are a brunette). Or go to a higher level - compliments and immersion.

Rule 2. Be meaningful

Literary talent is an advantage, but without the right stuff, a sense of language is meaningless. Men are a different audience. They don't like beautiful quotes. The important thing is not how, but what to write to a guy to interest him. Be a brilliant communicator. Here's a recipe from Lisa Kirk: "A gossip is someone who talks to you about others, a bore is someone who talks to you about himself, and a brilliant conversationalist is someone who talks to you about you."

Rule 3. Be correct

His ins and outs don't concern you yet. Hold back questions about your financial situation, the number of divorces, and a history of hemorrhoids. At this stage of dating, skeletons in the closet are not considered. You can arrange an interrogation with passion later. For example, before setting off to Mendelssohn's march into a brighter future.

Rule 4. Do not include “half”

As soon as you turn on your “other half”, who is bored, suffers and otherwise demonstrates their inferiority without him - well, it’s gone. Word forms that emphasize your inferiority against the background of its significance, forget like a bad dream (“I miss you,” “I miss you,” “You have become the meaning of my life”). And without esotericism (“Fate itself brought us together”).

Type, physique

Don't try to exaggerate your physical parameters. If you are 165 cm tall, then it is best to write like that - believe me, there are a huge number of short girls in the world who will happily want to date you. And a girl who is a head taller than you, even if she is a model, will most likely immediately feel awkward if you “shrink” at your first meeting in real life.

Overly athletic and overly exaggerated data about your strength will also not play into your hands. There is no need to write about yourself that you have a “black belt” in karate if you don’t have one.

It’s better to give your person a minimum of objective attention and give your description listing your main advantages, and simply ignore the disadvantages (if any) without focusing on them. We are all not perfect and there is no need to concentrate on your big nose or protruding ears!