Disappointment is a negatively colored emotional state caused by the collapse of hopes or expectations after the manifestation of the real picture of the world. This is a feeling of frustration due to unfulfilled dreams or that did not live up to expectations. The higher our expectations and hopes, the greater the disappointment. Disappointment is the experience of sadness, an experience that comes with an understanding of what could have been instead of what actually exists. People try to do everything in their power not to feel this feeling, they try in every possible way not to admit true disappointment. This concept is one of the configurations of frustration, in which the subject stops fighting to achieve what he wants.
Emotions
| Anger | |
| Discontent | Lack of satisfaction |
| Indignation | Extreme dissatisfaction |
| Disturbance | Very strong dissatisfaction |
| Anger | Extreme degree of indignation |
| Fury | Intense anger |
| Fear | |
| Anxiety (Worry, Excitement) | Negatively colored emotion, expressing a feeling of uncertainty, expectation of negative events, difficult to define premonitions |
| Shyness (Shyness, Timidity, Awkwardness) | A state of mind and the behavior caused by it, the characteristic features of which are: indecision, fearfulness, tension, stiffness and awkwardness |
| Fear | Timidity, fear, anxiety |
| Confusion | Confusion, awkwardness, confusion |
| Anxiety | A negatively colored emotion that expresses a feeling of uncertainty, anticipation of negative events, and difficult to define premonitions. Unlike the causes of fear, the causes of anxiety are usually not recognized, but it prevents a person from engaging in potentially harmful behavior or motivates him to take action to increase the likelihood of a favorable outcome of events. |
| Humiliation | Negatively colored emotion associated with a decrease in self-esteem |
| Arrogance | Arrogant attitude |
| Sadness | |
| Yearning | A negatively colored emotion, a heavy, depressing feeling. Close feelings are sadness, despondency, anxiety |
| Detachment | Thoughtfulness, self-absorption; indifference to the environment |
| Alienation | Not connected to others; isolation, isolation |
| Boredom | A type of negative emotion or mood; a passive mental state characterized by decreased activity, lack of interest in any activity, the surrounding world and other people |
| Hopelessness | Lack of hope, despair |
| Despair | A negative asthenic emotion associated with the subject’s feeling of inability to satisfy any need. Despair can lead to depression or is one of the symptoms of depression |
| Joy | |
| Delight (Euphoria) | A positive affect or emotion. Feels like a very powerful, sudden, all-filling feeling of happiness, delight |
| Joy (Rejoicing) | One of the main positive human emotions |
| Hope | A positively colored emotion that arises during tense anticipation of the fulfillment of the desired and anticipating the possibility of its fulfillment |
| Love | |
| Calm | A serene, balanced state of mind, absence of anxiety, doubt, worry, worries |
How to fill the emptiness in the soul
Filling the emptiness in the soul is a delicate matter. It is important to take an integrated approach here, otherwise there will still be “free space” inside.
Relationship
Improve your personal life. Every person needs to be significant and loved. If you can't find a partner, don't despair. Don't dwell on failures. Be ready to open yourself up to something new. This is the only way you can find your happiness.
Communicate with loved ones
It is important to find time for family and friends. Firstly, they know you like no one else and therefore will be able to provide support in difficult times. And secondly, communicating with pleasant people is a great way to relax and normalize your emotional state.
Enjoy your work
This is unusual advice, especially considering the fact that most often routine and boredom leave no room for positive emotions. And you try to change something. One way is to take short breaks whenever possible. 5-10 minutes of rest will help you collect your thoughts, clear your head of unnecessary information and just relax a little. You can do light exercises to stretch stiff muscles (for those who have a sedentary job).
Get carried away
By whom or what - you ask? Doesn't matter. This could be a new activity, movie, book, friends, etc. The main thing is that you can get rid of spiritual emptiness. Go to exhibitions, walk more in nature, travel alone and with friends. Fill your life with bright colors and new emotions.
Feelings
| Feeling angry | |
| Anger | Feeling of intense furious indignation |
| Hatred | An intense feeling of hostility towards someone or something |
| Irritation | |
| Resentment | |
| Annoyance | |
| Envy | |
| Anger | A strong emotional reaction to a negative event, expressed in the desire to cause harm |
| Jealousy | A negatively tinged feeling in interpersonal relationships that occurs when there is a lack of attention, love, respect, or affection from a loved one or highly respected person while someone else is supposedly or actually receiving it from him or her |
| Feeling of fear | |
| Excitement | Feelings of restlessness, anxiety, mental agitation |
| Shock | Strong excitement, deep feeling |
| Regret | A feeling of sadness, grief about the impossibility, irreversibility, loss of something |
| Fright | Sudden feeling of fear |
| Suspicion | An assumption about the possibility, the implicit presence of something (often undesirable, bad, dangerous) |
| Dazed | Confusion; very puzzled |
| Anxiety | Anxious state of mind, excitement |
| Fear | Anxiety, fear of someone or something |
| Shyness | Confusion, awkwardness, confusion |
| Doubt | A mental state or state of mind in which abstinence from a finally determined judgment occurs, and/or bifurcation (triplication, etc.) of its formation, due to the inability of consciousness to make a discrete unambiguous conclusion |
| Embarrassment | Feeling and state of confusion, awkwardness |
| Fear | Feelings of anxiety, restlessness, apprehension of danger |
| Brokenness | Suppression, to overcome any feelings, desires, habits |
| Dazed | A state of confusion, bewilderment by surprise |
| Guilt (remorse) | A negatively colored feeling, the object of which is a certain action of the subject, which seems to him to be the cause of negative consequences for other people, or even for himself. If the consequences have a negative impact only on the subject, then a feeling of annoyance arises, not guilt. |
| Annoyance | Feeling of irritation and displeasure due to failure, resentment |
| Shame | A negatively colored feeling, the object of which is some act or quality (philosophy) of the subject. Shame is associated with a feeling of social unacceptability of what one is ashamed of |
| Feeling sad | |
| Bitterness | A painful, depressing feeling caused by disappointment, resentment, failure |
| Mental pain (feeling of discomfort) | This is a specific mental experience that is not associated with organic or functional disorders. Often accompanied by depression and mental illness. Most often long-lasting and associated with the loss of a loved one |
| A pity | One of the forms of a feeling of discomfort, often taking on the appearance of condescending compassion. The object of pity is perceived as “pathetic,” that is, humiliated in his unfortunate situation |
| Disappointment | A negatively colored feeling caused by unfulfilled expectations, hopes or dreams, a feeling of dissatisfaction about something that did not live up to itself, failed |
| Shock | strong emotion, deep feeling |
| Loneliness | A concept within which two different phenomena are distinguished - positive (solitude) and negative (isolation) loneliness, however, most often the concept of loneliness has negative connotations. The feeling of loneliness performs a regulatory function and is included in the feedback mechanism that helps the individual regulate the optimal level of interpersonal contacts |
| Feeling of joy | |
| Satisfaction | An emotional reaction to happiness, a spiritual response to a fulfilled desire or goal. A feeling of satisfaction usually arises and manifests itself when a major goal is achieved, and the term is usually associated with such cases |
| Happiness | The state of a person that corresponds to the greatest internal satisfaction with the conditions of his existence, the fullness and meaning of life, the fulfillment of his human calling, self-realization |
| Joy (Rejoicing) | Inner feeling of satisfaction, pleasure and happiness |
| Interest | A positively colored emotional process associated with the need to learn something new about an object of interest, increased attention to it |
| Enthusiasm | Excitement, enthusiasm |
| Curiosity | Interest, devoid of rational grain, but underlying any knowledge and being the root of curiosity |
| Feeling of love | |
| Calm | Inner feeling of satisfaction, pleasure and happiness |
| Love | A feeling characteristic of a person, deep affection and aspiration for another person or object, a feeling of deep sympathy. Love as a long-lasting and stable feeling is usually distinguished from falling in love, which is a strongly expressed short-lived emotional state that can quickly fade away or, on the contrary, develop into true love |
| Love | A strong, positively colored feeling (a set of feelings) directed at another person |
| Tenderness | It is a form of affection characterized by sensitivity and benevolent consideration towards another person, brought about by love in the relationship. Tenderness is expressed in special gestures, softness, delicacy, attention to the needs of the object of tenderness, a special look, voice, respect. Tenderness allows you to create transitional relationships from friendship to love |
| Respect | The position of one person in relation to another, recognition of the merits of the individual |
| Sympathy | Feeling a strong emotional predisposition towards someone or something |
| Charm | Charming, attractive force |
| Sincerity | One of the aspects of honesty, truthfulness, the absence of contradictions between real feelings and intentions towards another person (or group of people) and how these feelings and intentions are presented to him in words |
| Care | Attention, care, care |
| Kindness | Responsiveness, emotional disposition towards people, desire to do good to others |
| Humility | Lack of pride, willingness to submit to someone else's will |
| Self love | It is natural and joyful self-care: your body, mind, soul and spirit |
| Feeling of surprise | |
| Astonishment | A condition caused by a strong impression of something unusual, unexpected, strange, incomprehensible |
| Amazement | Extreme surprise |
Why does inner emptiness arise?
Psychology identifies several reasons why a person develops a feeling of emptiness in his soul. Let's look at those that occur most often.
Fatigue
A lot can be said here. Have you noticed how after a busy day you don’t want anything? Excessive physical and emotional stress, a frantic pace of life - all this throws you out of balance and provokes exhaustion. As a result, vital energy becomes less and less.
Severe stress
We are talking about an unexpected change of circumstances, for example, a spontaneous move, the death of a loved one, a serious quarrel with relatives and other similar situations. They are accompanied by a mass of negative emotions, which do not have the best effect on the internal state.
Shock
At first glance, it seems that this is the same as stress. But there is a significant difference between these two concepts. The shock occurs at the moment when dreams of happiness come across harsh reality. This could include, for example, treason.
Lack of life goals
This may be their complete absence or a state when everything you wanted has already been received. A lot of free time is freed up, which has nowhere to be spent. A man wanders aimlessly through the streets, watches TV series while lying on the couch, and scrolls through the news on social networks. He sees nothing but disappointment and a feeling of spiritual emptiness for himself.
Acute period
It happens that all imaginable and unimaginable difficulties fall on your head at one moment. Problems come one after another. There is no end or edge in sight for them. At such moments it seems that there is no strength left at all. The person feels nothing but devastation.
Financial difficulties
Mental emptiness also appears when there is no way to satisfy your needs and desires due to lack of money. The individual sees that others have a much better situation than him. And this fact makes him sad, causing him to experience psychological discomfort and sometimes even despair.
Lack of privacy
Each of us needs support from a loved one. But he is not always nearby. A lack of attention, warmth, and a sense of significance leads to inner emptiness.
Moods
| Joyful mood | |
| Elation | State of elation, high spirits |
| Pacification | This is a state of calm, serenity in thoughts and feelings, when everything is clear and understandable and there is no need for fear. |
| Impatience | Lack of patience while waiting for something |
| Sad mood | |
| Boredom | Passive mental state, characterized by decreased activity, lack of interest in any activity, the surrounding world and other people. Accompanied by irritability + anxiety |
| Sadness | A state of mental bitterness. Feeling sad + mourning |
| Sorrow | Extreme sadness, grief, distress, sense of loss |
| Depression (dysthemia) | This is chronic depression, a mood disorder with the same cognitive and physical problems as depression, but less severe and longer lasting. Dejection + sadness |
| Fatigue (Fatigue) | The physiological and psychological state of a person, which is a consequence of intense or prolonged work. Subjectively, fatigue can be felt as tiredness. Fatigue manifests itself in a temporary decrease in performance. |
| Cold | Lack of ardor, passion, warmth |
| Indifference (Indifference, Indifference) | Lack of involvement or interest in someone or something; |
How to get rid of the emptiness inside
What to do when you feel empty in your soul? Getting rid of internal emptiness occurs in several stages:
- First, start complaining. Unusual advice, but very effective. Find someone to whom you can tell everything that worries you. This way you can look at yourself from the outside, and also find out what others think about you.
- Don't be shy to ask those you trust for help. Close people are close. They are the ones who will be able to support you in difficult times or at least listen.
- The third stage is searching for the cause. Why is there pain, disappointment and emptiness inside of you? Maybe you just need to rest and get some sleep? The answer to the question is very easy to obtain. Try a change of scenery. If possible, go to another city. Another option is to get out into nature and organize a picnic. If you want to be alone, just take a walk in the park.
- Shake yourself up. The main goal of this stage is to return your emotional health to normal. Give yourself emotions. Watch an exciting movie, ride a roller coaster, go on vacation to a place you've never been before. In general, do what will help you add bright colors to your life.
The approach to “treatment” must be comprehensive. That is, you need to go through all the stages without exception. It is also recommended to follow other tips. Let's take a closer look.
Fill your life with love
The right circle of friends is the key to helping you cope with your problem. Limit communication with those who suppress you, do not support you, but only teach, criticize and reproach you, otherwise you will feel helpless and worthless.
Make new acquaintances and maintain old connections. Let there be those around you who can become role models, who will charge you with their activity and positivity, and motivate you to change.
By the way, according to psychologists, not only people, but also pets can fill life with love. You definitely won't be bored with them. If possible, give a home to a shelter pet.
Find meaning in everyday life
Quite an effective way to get rid of spiritual emptiness. Do only those things that bring you pleasure. But if you can’t get rid of routine activities, make them interesting. For example, replace public transport before work with a bicycle. Or go out early and walk. Before going to school or university, start doing morning exercises. There are many options.
Learn to step out of your comfort zone. You don't have to do something global. Re-glue the wallpaper, replace the curtains, add bright accents to the interior, try a dish from a cuisine unfamiliar to you.
Don't forget about hobbies and self-development. Make time for things that make you truly happy.
Make plans and set goals
Don't be afraid to think about the future. Dream about what you would like to receive. Set goals for yourself. Just make sure they are achievable. If you find it difficult to achieve what you want, your motivation and desire to move forward will disappear over time. With them will come disappointment and apathy. And then comes spiritual emptiness. Do you need this?
If you don't know where to start, do something small, like rearranging your furniture.
Don't forget to take care of yourself
A feeling of emptiness in your soul also occurs when you do not devote enough time to caring for yourself and your health. Change your diet. Limit your consumption of unhealthy foods and replace them with vegetables and fruits. Play sports. Maybe it's time for you to change your image? Don't forget that a new hairstyle or even a fresh manicure can lift your mood just as much as a walk with friends.
Affects
| Anger | Negatively colored affect. Extreme degree of indignation |
| Hostility (Hateness) | Complex of affects: Anger + Resentment + Disgust |
| Confusion (affect of bewilderment) | An acute psychopathological condition that combines emotional (intense anxiety) and cognitive (acute sense of not understanding what is happening) components |
| Fear | |
| Horror | A type of affect is a person’s state under the influence of strong fear (fright), the distinctive feature of which is depression (numbness), sometimes trembling, in general, the absence of an active reaction to eliminate the source of fear |
| Numbness | State of stupor or immobility |
| Joy | |
| Delight (Euphoria) | A positive affect or emotion. Feels like a very powerful, sudden, all-filling feeling of happiness, delight |
| Revival | Active movement, noticeable manifestations of any activity |
The consequences of disappointment and freedom from it
Freedom from disappointment makes it possible to live truly freely. Without fearing, on the one hand, all sorts of collapses, and on the other, looking at things as they are. Disappointment itself frees us from our illusions and for this we should be grateful to it. Through disappointment we contemplate the true state of affairs, and it is this vision that allows us to act as correctly as possible in the current circumstances.
The stronger our expectations, the more painful the reality will be. Right action comes from a realistic perception, so we should give up all illusions about other people, ideas or anything else. Freedom from disappointment means that a person can see everything in the right light, and this indicates the ability to correctly perceive the world and act in a way that will avoid suffering and lead to happiness. This is precisely the goal of any person’s activity - to become happy.
A common way to get rid of potential disappointment is to curb your mind and stop perceiving it from the point of view of various material objects, concepts and categories. The truth is that every living entity is an eternal soul, which is not part of the material world. Our senses can experience pleasure, but only the soul can experience happiness. Trying to find happiness through pleasure thus becomes pointless. If we understand our spiritual nature, we have knowledge of how to become and be happy. But ignorance forces us to follow paths that are not meant for happiness. Just as my fingers cannot taste food, so the material side of a person: his mind, mind and body, cannot feel happiness on their own. These instruments are given to man for performing correct activities, and not for trying to enjoy the material world. Fingers feel happiness when the stomach is full of food, so we should use our life for right activities.
Events
Humility is a sober vision of oneself. Humility can be divided into three categories (for ease of perception), but in essence it is one quality in three different manifestations.
Humility towards God is seeing one’s sins, hoping only for God’s mercy, but not one’s own merits, love for Nemu, combined with resigned enduring of life's hardships and difficulties
Humility towards other people - the absence of anger and irritation even towards those who, it would seem, fully deserve it
Humility towards oneself - a person who has humility towards himself does not look at the shortcomings of others, but perfectly sees his own. Moreover, in any conflict, if he is really to blame, he blames only himself, and in response to any fair accusation or even insult caused by his action (inaction) addressed to himself, such a person is ready to say a sincere “I’m sorry.”
Common Mistakes
Mental emptiness is an extremely unpleasant state. Everyone wants to get rid of him. The question is what methods. Above we have listed what really works. But there are so-called “bad advice”, following which does not bring anything good:
- Consumption of sweets, alcoholic drinks, drugs. Moreover, many people turn to this, even if they have never had cravings.
- An attempt to distance yourself from reality. Some people immerse themselves in TV series and the Internet, others are addicted to gambling. Some days they spend their days shopping.
- Inappropriate and sometimes strange behavior. This is one of the ways to attract the attention of others, an attempt to express yourself.
At some point, it seems to a person that his condition is improving, meaning appears in life, and the feeling of emptiness goes away. But this is a false feeling. Unfortunately, everything will soon return to normal.
