To change for the better, while remaining yourself, you just need to find an additional subtext, or a different angle of view, in each of your already established views on things. Source - Esoterics. Living Knowledge
I realized one thing - guys are not much different from girls when it comes to love. Princesses are just as welcome as girls-princes. Guys become narcissistic, change their orientation, put on a shell of self-love and pride, and some remain infantile teenagers. Girls sell their bodies, change their orientation, change their appearance, play male roles, become independent, or turn into plastic dolls dressed in rhinestones. Nobody needs anyone. Everyone is proud, everyone is free on the outside, but cowardly and pathetic on the inside. Is this the real end of the world?
Love (2007)
Love between a man and a woman should be like the love between man and nature:
To endure and wait out when one of the two is raging; Be silent, admiring each other for a long time, when you are happy; Find comfort and lose yourself in each other when sad. Love is being silent together, knowing that words are not needed. It's saying goodbye without tears. It's keeping promises without making promises. This is not hiding tears from each other. This is not hiding your crazy ideas from each other. It's letting go when you know you could lose it forever. It's being far from each other, but feeling close.
Thinking out loud
And you won’t believe it, but angels also come from work in the evening, sometimes, pretty tired. And they are tired of any worldly worries - Try to be cheerful and cheerful, flying away all day... And you won’t believe it, but the angels take off their wings, They go / well, probably where? / straight into the shower, The dust particles and dirt are carefully washed off with a washcloth, Trying / in vain / to cleanse the fatigue from the souls... And you won’t believe it, but the angels, having put the kettle on, sit down in the kitchen and, silently, look out the window. And they think that they will wake up in the morning and, spreading their wings, will go and fly to their work anyway... And you won’t believe it, but angels cry at night, Remembering some kind of nursery? adult?/death. And in these tears there is so much pain, burning sadness, About the fact that they couldn’t help without having time to arrive...
Once upon a time, an old wise man came to one village and stayed to live. He loved children and spent a lot of time with them. He also loved to give them gifts, but only gave them fragile things. No matter how hard the children tried to be careful, their new toys often broke. The children were upset and cried bitterly. Some time passed, the sage again gave them toys, but even more fragile. One day his parents couldn’t stand it and came to him: “You are wise and wish only the best for our children.” But why do you give them such gifts? They try their best, but the toys still break and the children cry. But the toys are so beautiful that it’s impossible not to play with them. “Very few years will pass,” the elder smiled, “and someone will give them his heart.”
“Dad says that if you don’t watch out, people will ride on you. You will do what they need, or, on the contrary, you will become stubborn as a donkey and do everything to spite them.”
Snow... Adults say that this is frozen water, but children know better: these are little stars with the magical taste of the New Year.
After all, only children know exactly what is happening in the world. They see more than adults, they believe in more, they are honest and will always, always tell you what awaits you.
The best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.
And the family is based on the fact that, despite everything, we try to find the good in each other...
Family is the hardest test, because getting hit in the face from strangers is not at all as terrible as from loved ones. Strangers are far away, but loved ones are nearby and know exactly how to hit harder, and occupy the most advantageous observation posts in order to find a weak point in the defense of a loved one and break through it with an unexpected swift blow, after which the defeated one can only gasp for air, goggle his senseless eyes and... three nights to come up with “worthy answers.”
Grandfather said that love is when the whole world fits into one person.
The day a child realizes that adults are not perfect, he becomes young; on the day he forgives them, he becomes mature; the day he forgives himself, he becomes wise.
The day before his birth, the child asked God: “I don’t know why I am going into this world.” What should I do? God answered: “I will give you an angel who will always be by your side.” He will explain everything to you. - But how can I understand him, because I don’t know his language? - The angel will teach you his language. He will protect you from all troubles. - How and when should I return to you? - Your angel will tell you everything. - What is the name of my angel? “It doesn’t matter what his name is, he has many names.” You will call him "Mom." Giving birth to a child means deciding to have your heart walk outside your body from now on and forever.
We must live with what is left. If you have been deprived of everything that was truly dear to you, you have two options - either give up and spend the rest of your days in your own desert, regretting what was lost, or, despising weakness and uncertainty, build a new temple. But you need to go to both with full awareness. Otherwise you won’t even have a desert...
When you're little, you believe that you can become whatever you want. Your dreams know no boundaries. You believe in magic, you believe in fairy tales and fabulous possibilities. But as soon as you grow up, this childhood faith dissipates like smoke, and instead of it you begin to see the realities of life in front of you and realize with horror that we cannot fulfill all our dreams.
Life periodically gives a person a good thrashing, and as soon as it begins to seem to you that you have reached the limit and can’t stand it anymore, at that moment everything changes.
- For some reason my heart stopped... - Should I give Validol? — Cognac helps me more.
Have you ever had to let go?.. At least once in your life?... Letting go of something that was very difficult to part with... Letting go of something that you desperately wanted to embalm for eternity, lock up in the most deserted place... and finally just hold it close to you - just for a minute ... stretched out for an hour... All our lives we overcome ourselves when we let go... When we stand on the platform and follow the train in which a loved one is leaving for a long time, surprised at our own stupidity, that at this moment we feel painfully sorry for ourselves... for some reason... When people who have lost love, fairly exhausted and tired of searching for an answer to the question “who is to blame?”, finally decide to untie all the threads and go on barely touching, or even parallel, paths... When a loving mother finally understands that she can start a full-fledged independent life the child can, freed from just one tightly twisted screw - her mother's egoism... We clog ourselves with unnecessary thoughts, gnawing away at our soul and health without the prospect of restoration... We play cheap performances for the public, reinforcing it with a whole entourage of emotions that have come from out of nowhere... We are leading the most a real war inside and outside oneself, so as not to come to the stage for as long as possible when there is nothing left but to let go... And probably only a select few of us understand that letting go is so simple (?). That for this it is enough for one of the two to take a step towards the “door”, and the second to silently follow him with his eyes... It doesn’t matter where... It doesn’t matter how much... The main thing is that with the firm conviction that everyone at this moment is doing the only right thing... After all, letting someone go... then (without heaviness in the heart, without painful regret), in essence we let go of ourselves...
Life is a one-way street that only leads us forward and forbids us to look back. You cannot go in the opposite direction, because otherwise you will break this one-way traffic and in the end you will probably get into an accident with all the ensuing consequences.
Once you can no longer say “I love you,” all other words have little meaning.
You wake up in the morning and think: I’ll be good! I will smile at everyone, radiate love and warmth. I will take out food for homeless dogs and cats, and in critical cases, I will think and wisely remain silent. You convince yourself: they say, from now on I won’t rush around, Be offended, flirt, get angry, swear, scream, I’ll do exercises and start the day with meditation, treat myself with mineral water and save money for a vacation... ... You’ll fall, exhausted, bury yourself sweetly in your pillow, To the day spent, as usual, you summarize: Twenty-eight grievances (two fatal) and a quarrel with a girlfriend, Five significant sighs and three shows of legs. Eighteen malice, thirty-six whispers in pursuit, Nine gossip, three coffees (which should not have been drunk), Seven senseless expenses, two hundred and five remarks to the child, And one (but big!) desire to kill someone.
I try to live in such a way that I don’t regret anything, I always choose the path to which my desire pushes me. And therefore, you cannot blame me for going wrong. I am following my dream, and this is the only true path.
There are a lot of wonderful things that you can see if you look hard enough. Life is somewhat like a painting. You can look at it and think that it is just a blurry spot. You can live your whole life thinking that it’s just a blurry blur. But if you look closely, you can still see what is depicted there. With focus and imagination, life can become so much more for you. In this picture, for example, there may be the sea, the sky, people, buildings, butterflies sitting on flowers - anything you want, and not at all a blurry spot, as you once imagined.
The smell of coffee in the morning... What else could be better? - The smell of your skin in my bed...
A person lives best in those moments when he does not know that he can live better.
Defense (2010, February)
As always, closer to 3 o’clock in the morning, I took my jacket off the hanger, lay down on my side and curled up into a ball (you can’t really lie down on a chair, it’s still work!). And again, smart thoughts began to come to me (which generally often come from 3-5 in the morning, and even if I lie on my left side):
“...No matter how selfish it may sound, but, perhaps, there is not a single living soul that could give me a greater sense of protection than... my jacket.. It’s strange that 3 years ago, I, feeling the same despair and defenselessness , put on a jacket and sat in the room, listening to music. It fits well to the body, gives a feeling of security, and as a result, calms and, as expected, warms. And therefore, so far there is not a single person who can become closer to me than my jacket... "
This is the thought that appeared in my head... She warmed and warmed me, gave me smart aphorisms and sayings, and now I decided to give the same good thought about myself...
PS Yes, sometimes things turn out to be more valuable to us than people. Moreover, for various reasons.
Fears (2007)
In general, it seems to me that people who are predisposed to risk can get rid of fears faster. Extreme in life is a test of yourself. So I was afraid to climb onto the roof, and I decided to overcome myself - I climbed! I was inspired to try to sit on the edge of the roof, and in front of everyone, in the end, I sat down.
Of course, time and a person’s character also play a role. Just when you are afraid of something, imagine what happened to you, what you are afraid of. Will you be ashamed, will your parents punish you, will everyone laugh? Let's say that's what happened. Now imagine what will happen to you some time after you are shamed, punished, laughed at? In fact, nothing bad will happen. Everyone goes through this. You'll just gain experience. This means that you will become a little stronger, and you will know that it is not as scary as it seemed at first... After all, the main thing is that you are alive! And fears and doubts are a mirage. You have nothing to lose if you go against your fear. What follows is light, not darkness. Then the fear will slowly go away, because it has no place here, and circumstances will not turn out to be evil. In my head, the anti-fear sounds like this: “nothing can be worse than death.”
And I don’t see any point in being afraid of death. Death is like being afraid of fantastic, creepy monsters - they are only in our imagination, not in reality. Death is something that will happen to everyone, and there is no point in being afraid of it. While you're alive, just live. It is much more pleasant to understand that you were able to overcome fear than to lose a lot of important things because of it. Somewhere you need to treat something dispassionately, but somewhere you just understand that everything can be survived.
Conclusion:
If you are afraid to die, know that you will die when the time comes. Maybe this fear will go away. Are you afraid of losing your loved ones? Know that everything does not last forever, and we all came here alone. No matter how cynical it may sound. Therefore, just hurry up to love, live and appreciate your life and family, hurry up to do and say everything that you want to tell them and everything that you are ready to do for them, so that later you can calmly survive their loss.
PS There is no point in being afraid of fears.
Dreams.
Imagine that your dream is a balloon.
We often cannot forget about our dream, we think about it because we are waiting for it to come true. Then if she is a balloon, then the fact that she cannot come true is obvious.
So you go to school, to work, and you hold a ball in your hand. But it also prevents you from moving and performing any actions. When you get on the bus, you will think about making sure nothing happens to the balloon... Yes, you can be with it for a while, protect it... but sooner or later it will burst... Because it won’t survive on earth. So isn't it easier to let the ball go into the sky? It will fly freely to heaven, and somewhere there it will burst, but not by the hand of a person. It’s probably the same with dreams. Release it into the sky, as if you place an order and send it by air mail. You will forget about it faster, and it will come true faster.
If the balloons deflate while remaining with you, then it is unlikely that you needed this dream, or you were unable to fulfill it, or time has passed and it has become unnecessary. If you ride with a balloon on the bus, you don’t strive for your dream, you don’t take care of it to make it come true.
Prose
So…
A selection of my favorite quotes from the novel “The Master and Margarita”... a novel about... LOVE.
Follow me, reader! Who told you that there is no true, faithful, eternal love in the world? May the liar's vile tongue be cut out! Follow me, my reader, and only me, and I will show you such love!
Margarita Nikolaevna did not need money. Margarita Nikolaevna could buy whatever she liked. Among her husband's acquaintances there were interesting people. Margarita Nikolaevna never touched a primus stove. Margarita Nikolaevna did not know the horrors of living in a shared apartment. In a word... was she happy? Not one minute!
She carried disgusting, disturbing yellow flowers in her hands. The devil knows what their names are, but for some reason they are the first to appear in Moscow.
Love jumped out in front of us, like a killer jumps out of the ground in an alley, and struck us both at once! That's how lightning strikes, that's how a Finnish knife strikes!
With yellow flowers in her hands, she came out that day so that I could finally find her; if this had not happened, she would have poisoned herself, because her life was empty.
Well, the one who loves must share the fate of the one he loves.
She entered the gate once, and before that I experienced at least ten heartbeats...
It's sometimes nice to linger on the festive midnight.
...never ask for anything! Never and nothing, and especially among those who are stronger than you. They will offer and give everything themselves!
It is easy and pleasant to speak the truth.
I know that in the evening those whom you love, whom you are interested in and who will not alarm you will come to you. They will play for you, they will sing to you, you will see the light in the room when the candles are burning. You will fall asleep, putting on your greasy and eternal cap, you will fall asleep with a smile on your lips. Sleep will strengthen you, you will begin to reason wisely. And you won’t be able to drive me away. I will take care of your sleep.
Why chase after the footsteps of what is already over.
A person without a surprise inside, in his box, is uninteresting.
A brick will never fall on anyone’s head for no reason at all.
People are like people. They love money, but this has always been the case... Humanity loves money, no matter what it is made of, whether leather, paper, bronze or gold. Well, frivolous... well, well... ordinary people... in general, they resemble the old ones... the housing issue only spoiled them...
Only the one who hung it can probably cut the hair.
It's nice to hear that you treat your cat so politely. For some reason, cats are usually called “you,” although not a single cat has ever drunk brotherhood with anyone.
Fact is the most stubborn thing in the world.
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