Who are we most likely to pay attention to in society? The answer is obvious - to people we like. Of course, there are still loud, ill-mannered and antisocial individuals. There is no talk about them, we are talking about beauty.
We are often impressed by beautiful people. When meeting, the first impression matters a lot. On a subconscious level, we first evaluate appearance. And only after some time are they able to realize the personal qualities of a person.
We perceive the environment in the same way. What is more aesthetically pleasing - a dilapidated dugout or an estate with a well-groomed front garden?
Is a good listener.
Most men appreciate women who can just sit and listen. Yes, it requires some patience, but the result is worth it. The ability to listen and really hear what the other person is saying is a demonstration of support, care and interest towards him. Not to mention, it dramatically increases the chances of reciprocity.
Why is beauty needed?
Since childhood, I have heard from relatives that beauty is not the most important thing in life. I agree with this statement only partly. Because this concept is quite subjective. We perceive the same thing differently. For example, I don’t like asters, but a huge number of people I know disagree with me and continue to grow them.
Beauty is safety. Remember the broken windows theory? It can be applied in this case. As soon as something ugly appears in the interior or design or someone ruins it, the harmony is immediately disrupted. And if this is a public place, then pretty quickly there will be no order there, they will start breaking parts of the exhibition.
Beauty is aesthetics. It’s so nice to be in an art gallery or in any originally designed room, stylish club or cafe, or walk around a landscaped area or a city park. I notice that in such spaces the soul rests.
Beauty is pleasure. A set table and an interestingly decorated dish allow you to get more pleasure from lunch than chaotically piled porridge on a broken plate. Until I was 30, I didn’t like oatmeal without milk. You probably remember what a sad sight this is. But as soon as I started decorating my breakfast with fruits and nuts, porridge became my favorite food in the morning.
Does not hesitate to ask for help.
Most women believe that men are lazy people who hate doing housework or running errands. However, this is only true for those who have already entered into a long-term relationship. If a woman approaches a lonely man and asks him to help her with a smile, he, in most cases, readily responds. Men really love women who ask for help. It makes them feel more masculine, gives them something to talk about, and awakens their conditioned protective instinct. And when a nice lady thanks a gentleman for his help with a flirtatious smile, there's a good chance he'll get over his embarrassment and ask for her phone number.
Short or long term relationships
This has already been mentioned above, but it bears repeating as it is one of the most important reasons to choose inner rather than outer beauty. How long will you be fascinated by a beautiful body before your interest switches to something else? A week or a month? Sooner or later, you will get tired of all this beauty, and this person will become boring and uninteresting for you, since besides his beauty, he has nothing else to offer you. Do you know anyone who lives with someone for years simply because they are physically attractive?
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Does not manipulate in relationships.
Men do not want to be subjected to any kind of manipulation. They don't want to read their partner's mind or try to interpret any of her signals. They don't want to see a spoiled little girl next to them. They don’t want to bear the brunt of the guilt for a failed relationship alone: tears, refusal of sex, hysteria, the demand “if you love it, prove it!” Here are the most common types of female manipulation. However, before resorting to any of these “fail-safe” means, the lady should sit down and think: what if what she planned has a completely opposite result? What if the partner, frightened by the flow of tears or not wanting to guess about the reasons for the offense from the shards of broken dishes, simply leaves? Isn't the prospect of being alone scary? Forward to fulfilling your plans! To build a wonderful relationship, a woman needs to learn to speak bluntly about what she wants or, conversely, does not want. This is a simple and honest way to interact with your loved one.
The beauty of the inner world of man
Appearances are deceiving, says popular wisdom. Would I like all these ladies from the project if they were moral monsters? Don't think.
Almost each of them was distinguished primarily by caring for themselves and loved ones, attentiveness, an active life position, building a career, organizing and supporting social campaigns. Girls with a dowry, in one word. Yes with which one? Rich inner world.
And one more example. Once I got into a minibus at the final stop. The driver waited until the cabin was completely full. One of the first to enter was a homely girl. She christened her little sparrow. This bird turned out to be very caring. She gave up a comfortable seat to an elderly man. And she moved to something else. I collected money to give to the driver. I asked someone if it was blowing from the window. With simple actions, I made the entire audience fall in love with me in 5 minutes.
Need I say that she immediately became a beauty in my eyes?
11.Able to support in difficult times.
Even the strongest men sometimes want to be approved and comforted. They want to know that a woman will be there and will approve of his life choices, be it changing jobs or moving to a new city. To answer the question “what kind of women do men like,” let’s remember Lady Mary Anne, the wife of Benjamin Disraeli. She was not distinguished by beauty and grace, in addition, she was older than her husband, who married her for convenience. However, her care, moral support and kindness won, if not love, then the ardent affection of Disraeli. Subsequently, he said: “I owe everything that I have achieved to my wife.”
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I remember when I was about 14, my mother read in the newspaper about a casting for a city beauty contest.
— Don’t you want to participate?
Of course, mom asked jokingly. At that time, thanks to adolescence, I only had size “s” socks. And I wasn’t tall enough. Although in elementary school there were hopes: I was one of the first in the line for physical education (though, when the tallest boy in the class hangs out only a couple of people after you, this is not particularly encouraging).
Like most girls, I was told that appearance is not the main thing in this life, which, of course, is correct. They told the story while they wove bright bows into their braids and dressed them up in a pink dress for the matinee. Apparently, my inner four-year-old world was visible better in it.
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In fact, the cult of beauty has been instilled in us since childhood. Unobtrusively, but regularly. Remember fairy tales. Of the three sisters, the youngest, who will receive both gold and a prince in the end, is always the most beautiful. And those two, angry and dependent, either have a crooked nose or a wart all over their face.
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Heroines in the film adaptation of the fairy tale “Morozko”
Somehow I haven’t heard a single story where the main character was unlucky with her appearance. Only if it's in Shrek.
In our society, unfortunately, it is also somehow not accepted to “hook” men on intelligence. And this also fits into my head from my school days. I don’t remember school acquaintances starting with the words: “You’re the one who won the Russian Olympiad!” Wow!". And in general, we are used to it: if a conversation begins with “you are a wonderful person,” nothing good can be expected. Then there will definitely be a “but” - and your love story will end before it even begins.
And all these stories about kind, unnoticed, but ultimately happy Cinderellas should be left for films about these same Cinderellas. Which, by the way, always end with a transformation: we noticed that gray clothes are always exchanged for a fashionable - preferably tight-fitting - outfit.
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(No, no, attractive appearance has nothing to do with it! It’s just that the old clothes were torn towards the end of filming and I had to finish recording in the luxurious evening dress that was at hand!)
American sociologists have already proven that beautiful girls learn better. I mean: their grades are better. Either because the teachers pay more attention to the beauties in classes and carefully explain the material, or because they simply give them high points for their big eyes.
It’s not true, you say: it’s just that the girls in the study were both beautiful and smart. But why then in online courses, where the teachers did not see the students, the results of the beauties turned out to be much more modest?
It's the same at work. Employers still insist that your resume must include a photo. One of the Minsk recruitment agencies said that secretaries and assistants are still selected for some companies based on external data. To, so to speak, correspond to the corporate style.
And even all kinds of women’s trainings, which, by the way, assure us that we need to accept ourselves as we are, for some reason always include seminars on self-care. As if hinting that without good makeup and stylish clothes you won’t be able to be yourself. And “the best version of yourself” - and even more so.
At beauty contests, the best girl in the country is chosen according to very clear criteria: height from 175 cm, age up to 24 years. And to look good in a swimsuit. Neither the number of books read, nor the IQ level (relative indicators, of course, but still) is a passing threshold. I'm not saying that the contestants are stupid. But no one is interested in their content on this TV show. Neither the first nor the fifth fashion show reveals the theme of the inner world. You will say: there is an intellectual competition there. Oh well. The answer to the question “What will you do if you get a million dollars?” has not changed since the founding of the competition.
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Is beauty not the main thing? But most won’t even have time to get to know us better enough to draw conclusions based on anything other than appearance. Although, I would like to believe that people important to us will still have time to notice more...
Finnish scientists recently named the ideal woman (by the way, why do such studies always concern only women?). Most of the men interviewed believe that this is a girl between 23 and 28 years old. Among other parameters, she is engaged in intellectual work, is a good conversationalist, and takes care of herself. Not a word about natural beauty. Either this really doesn’t matter, or it should be a priori. Let's think it's the former.
Successes and achievements in life
It is known that for a happy relationship, self-realization of both partners is a mandatory component. A smart person has more opportunities and a higher chance of getting a prestigious and well-paid job in which he (or she) will succeed and achieve his goals. So, in this situation again, intelligence is more important than beauty. You can't argue with that.
Children
In our list of reasons for choosing inner beauty, there is one thing that far outweighs all others in importance. By choosing a partner, you are also choosing the future mother (or father) of your children. Who will raise children better? A nice, smart person or a stupid but beautiful person? Well, here the answer is obvious.
So, these were our arguments for choosing internal attractiveness. It should also be noted that there are people who have both internal and external beauty, although this is rare in our time. If your partner has both of these qualities, you've hit the jackpot! Take care of such a person and do not let him go. Although if he is with you for a long time, most likely you are also an intellectually developed person. All that remains is to congratulate you on the creation of such a harmonious union!
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Meeting with family and friends
Chances are you don't live in a social vacuum. This means that your future partner will have to interact with many people in your social circle: parents, family, friends, colleagues. If your partner is smart, it is likely that he will be able to communicate with other people important to you, and he will find common topics of conversation. Sure, a good-looking person will probably catch their attention, but it definitely won't last long. Another plus of internal beauty, not external.
Conflicts and disputes
No one is perfect: neither you nor your partner. There will be tears, and fights, and problems, without this there will be no way. But it is much more pleasant to quarrel with an intelligent person than with a stupid one. Yes, there is a higher chance that you will lose an argument with an intelligent person, but the arguments are meaningful and consist of logical connections and judgments, not empty shouting and insults. In fact, conflict with an intelligent person is a good thing for both of you.
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Conversation
It's a very simple word, but intellectual conversation is a very important part of any relationship. If you're looking for someone to spend more than one night with, you need to talk to him (or her). In this case, ideal body shapes will not help fill the emptiness inside a person. Is intelligence more important than beauty? For a full conversation, this is, of course, very important.
