Quotes about humiliation. Sayings and aphorisms about humiliation.

As the explanatory dictionary says, vanity is the need to prove one’s superiority over other people. On the one hand, this is a sign of painful pride. On the other hand, the desire to be better than others is an excellent, and sometimes the only, motivation for self-development. Perhaps nature went a little overboard with this evolutionary tool. Competitive spirit and self-affirmation as motivation work great if they do not lead to outright humiliation and tyranny.

Trying to be better than others by playing by the rules and developing personal skills is a completely healthy motivation. Perhaps the whole point is that nature encourages human development, rewarding those who succeed in this matter with a sense of satisfaction. And man, a cunning creature, has learned to deceive himself and experience satisfaction from pseudo-development. This is self-deception, in which, in order to “keep your mark”, you don’t need to grow yourself, it’s enough just to humiliate other people. To stay on the level, it is much easier to let others down than to actually advance in your own evolution. But the surrogate for “development” by belittling other people is a fake, an imitation of development, a dead dummy, which in reality is rather degradation.

Vanity of nothingness

Vanity is a way to deceive yourself, gaining satisfaction from the illusion of your own greatness. At advanced stages, vanity develops into star fever and then into megalomania - a smug paranoia with which a person, out of nowhere, imagines his own power, beauty and genius. All this is the other side of humiliation. Vanity is exalted baseness .

Sometimes, when we ask for help, or when this help is offered to us without our request, we can experience humiliation, because there is a stamp in our heads that help is required by weak, helpless, or inferior members of society. Some proud people will not ask for help, even if someone’s life depends on it.

We are humiliated not so much by “kings” as by people equal to us, but in their vanity, who imagine themselves to be kings. And if this happens, it means that our position is below average; people can spit and pour slop in our direction as long as we allow it. In a certain sense, the desire to be “above” others is baseness, which is trying to rise at the expense of others.

A vain nonentity rejoices in the pain of others and becomes an “energy” vampire who feeds on the suffering of others. The insignificance seeks out people's sore spots in order to feel power over them. This is where legs grow, including: selfishness, snobbery, ambition, pride, star fever and a sense of self-importance. By putting on all these pompous masks, we flaunt our own humiliation within ourselves. We exalt ourselves to the skies, trampling our own suppressed insignificance into the dirt. This is how we create and maintain an internal mental split in which our greatness is the other side of our insignificance.

When a person experiences humiliation for a long time, he loses self-respect and self-esteem becomes low. He closes himself off from others, hides his pain, protecting himself with a mask of a false personality, which is artificially constructed to hide mental trauma. As the internal split grows, the psyche becomes less and less stable, and the person is in constant tension, because he cannot be himself, cannot reveal to others, or even to himself, his insides, disfigured by the bleeding wound of humiliation.

With such a wound in the soul, a person painfully perceives any criticism, accidentally heard outside laughter takes it personally as mockery, and even an innocent remark reminds him of suppressed humiliation.

At the same time, an outside critic is sometimes perceived as if he saw through the humiliated person, revealed his secret about a mental wound in the soul, crawled under the skin, and, recognizing the weak point, injected into its very epicenter.

All these are personal hallucinations of a wounded soul. That is why the psychotherapist, listening to the client, at some appropriate moment can talk about similar cases from the past. Perhaps, in distant childhood, when the child was unable to digest humiliation, this experience was repressed into his unconscious. And in the unconscious, mental wounds do not heal, but continue to bleed. To heal, you need to patiently open up, eliminating all false disguises, and face your own fears.

It is not surprising that even innocent criticism can evoke hatred in a wounded soul. A humiliated and vain person is susceptible to flattery, and is extremely dependent on the opinions of others, which others sometimes consciously or unconsciously use. A once humiliated person often plays it safe, defending himself even where there was no sign of an attack, which makes him seem unreasonably harsh and aggressive.

The more advanced the “situation”, the more stressed a person is, the more difficult it is for him to communicate with other people, the more lonely a person sometimes feels. In such a situation, the role of a psychologist may be indispensable. A suffering person needs to be simply listened to, allowed to be himself, accepted without any judgment, sensitively and with respect for his essence.

What kind of attitude is this?

Statuses about insulting a person can also be of a more general philosophical nature, when you try to analyze the origins of this insult. Phrases could be:

You have to treat people the way you would like them to treat you.
If you insult a person, then wait - and the same thing will definitely come your way.
Anger, hatred, envy - it is these qualities that force their owner to release insulting words towards another. A happy person will never offend another person.
When you are happy, you share only positive emotions with the world, but an unhappy person strives to scatter lumps of dirt around him.
There is a time to scatter stones when we commit certain actions, but the time will come to collect them - when we begin to collect everything that we scattered during our lives. Think about this before you insult someone.
Do not insult, and you yourself will not become insulted.
If you are happy, then you don’t pay attention to insults - let everyone burst with anger, but you feel good.
There are suspicious, worried people who are greatly hurt by any rude words. Well, what can I say - become more immune, so as not to add additional scars to your heart because of some losers and simply embittered people.
A person who insults another is obviously wrong. What, Lord God, is he to somehow teach another, perhaps no less talented person?
There are two ways to remove the crown from someone who has insulted you: by force and by completely ignoring him with a cheerful grin. Choose your method of dealing with boors.
The smarter a person is, the more he understands that he has no right to insult anyone. And the dumber he is, the more everything is allowed to him.
When you are insulted, you can “turn on the mute” - that is, pretend that you don’t hear anything at all. Then you will notice how the person who insulted you will wilt and lose interest in life.
Yes, words are powerful weapons that can hurt or kill. Do you not become a victim of words and remember that words are also just a shell of thoughts, and what does this have to do with you if thoughts suddenly appear in your sick head to insult you?
I believe that only words coming from close people with a negative connotation should hurt. And from a boss, a passerby, a colleague - who cares what they mutter under their breath - you still have headphones in your ears...
Do not allow yourself to be insulted, otherwise this may become a habit for some narrow-minded people.
When you respect yourself, those around you begin to respect you and do not allow themselves to insult you - unless a passerby whose foot you accidentally stepped on...
Receive insults with a grin and do not admit your powerlessness - you will sympathize with the one who is bursting with rage and malice next to you.
If you are insulted by a stranger, then just think that he is mentally ill and is now experiencing an exacerbation, then, in addition to pitying him. There will be no emotions.
Don’t waste time on the insults that you received from insults that you didn’t deserve, rather take a bath and drink a glass of champagne, and then wish the person who insulted you everything that he wished for you today.
Do not lose heart after insults, consider them the worst thing that could happen to you today. And thank the higher powers that it is good that it is so.
Insults harm the insulter himself - after all, his poison will sooner or later return to the owner, and then you can simply suffocate from your own anger.
I would like to advise all those who like to insult another person to filter their rotten market, otherwise people are different - some don’t care that you are a deputy or a policeman.
For example, I always do when I am insulted. I calmly answer: “Thank you, the same to you, may all your words come back to you. Best wishes". The man is perplexed - either I’m crazy, or he did something wrong. Let him stand and think.
When they insult me, then, by and large, I don’t give a damn, but when my parents or my children, then a monster and a terminator wakes up in me - I will gnaw everyone.

The love of a vain nonentity

Falling in love with such a wound in the soul can become an extremely painful experience, filled with a cascade of difficult to overcome illusions. Painful pride projects onto the beloved the joy of possible acceptance of the wounded soul. A mental wound is projected onto separation or the inability to be in the company of a lover. In other words, a person living with the wound of suppressed humiliation tends to attribute the pain from this wound to separation from the object of his “love.” There are a number of articles on this topic on progressman.ru under the tag “attachment”.

At the opposite pole, it is convenient for the sick psyche to attribute internal self-aggrandizement to “victories” on the love front. Such a person in a relationship does not so much build a relationship as assert himself, trying to prove to himself with another victory that he is not a pathetic nonentity. And if this self-affirmation is resisted, “love” suddenly turns into hatred.

Why do we hate our beloved? He did not stroke our pride, did not exalt our person, showed that we are unworthy of such treatment, and therefore our vain majesty falls into the other extreme - humiliation. Hatred is mixed with love, because refusal of reciprocity tramples pride, which in fact was just a cover for one’s own inner insignificance.

And by the way, the more our beloved tramples our pride into the mud, the more we “love” him! Remember? One extreme supports and strengthens the other. This kind of painful “love” goes hand in hand with vanity, hatred and humiliation.

Let me remind you that we are not talking about any real insignificance, but only about his conflicting feelings and guesses about his own account. We do all this to ourselves. This is how the mental mechanisms of duality work. We trample ourselves into the dirt in order to exalt ourselves later. Most of us suffer from such mental “wounds” to varying degrees.

Statuses about humiliation of a person

People who insult and humiliate others are usually just being proactive.
Not all forms of violence leave bruises.
The test of courage comes when we are in the minority. The test of tolerance comes when we are in the majority.
What if the kid you bullied at school grew up to be the only surgeon who could save your life?
A fist or a stone can hurt your body, but only words can hurt your soul.
You can never reach great heights if all you do is push others down.
They say that suicide is the most cowardly act. I do not think so. In my opinion, the most cowardly act is to treat a person in such a way that he wants to commit suicide.
Many scumbags believe that if a person is kind, that means he is weak and can be humiliated or mocked. In fact, being kind is already the act of a stronger person than dozens of people like them.
When I was in school, I caught a guy from middle school bullying a junior in school. I asked why he was doing this. But he only replied that since the older guys were bullying him, he could take his anger out on someone who was smaller and weaker. Now I understand that in these words he personified the essence of humanity.
Usually the weakest and most complex people assert themselves on others. The more we hate ourselves, the more we want others to suffer.
Always remember that people who constantly put you down and try to lower your self-esteem are fully aware of your potential.
Remember that your dignity may be humiliated and cruelly ridiculed, but it cannot be taken away until you surrender it yourself.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Humiliation and bullying always stop as soon as the victim is no longer afraid.
First people tell you to be yourself, and then they judge you for who you are.
If people are throwing rocks at you, just pick them up and build something.
You can't get bigger by constantly putting people down.
By allowing other people to humiliate you, you are offering them a lifetime of carte blanche to be a jerk.

Vanity of civilization

Our entire civilization is based on self-affirmation of our own worthlessness. Think back to your childhood. We have always liked heroes who stroked their egos especially skillfully. The cooler the hero, the more masterly he exalts his ego: the indestructible Terminator, or the powerful Neo, defeating the neurotic Smith, Cinderella, who made her way from the bottom of society straight to the prince, Barbie, born in the wealth and luxury of pink glamor.

What is Pushkin's fairy tale about the magic mirror worth? The crafty mirror inspired the proud queen that she was “the dearest in the world.” And so, a whole mess ensued around the queen’s low self-esteem! The “cruel” truth that the young princess was more beautiful, the queen’s sick psyche could not accept rationally, and in order to keep her image at its best, the queen was ready to go “all the way.” The list can be endless. Every story has a suitable example.

And we become the greatest masters in this difficult task of vain self-aggrandizement on the spiritual path when, renouncing pride, we indulge precisely that – pride on ever more sophisticated and refined levels. I think this should be approached with calm understanding.

Vanity and humiliation

A long experience of humiliation does not mean that a person can be given up on. On the contrary, by overcoming imbalance, we gain wisdom and become stronger than we could have become without this strengthening experience. All mental “illnesses” are surmountable. Our weaknesses are simply those mental “muscles” that need to be worked on first, turning weakness into strength.

Often when we see others being criticized, we can easily recognize the critic's subjectivity. But if our person is criticized, then we begin to take the criticism seriously. A kind of “coupling” occurs when the hallucinations of the critic seem to coincide with the hallucinations of the humiliated one.

For example, a dominant boss scolds a subordinate, reaching the point of tyranny, and towers over the person who depends on him. And the subordinate, actively participating in the “game” not on equal terms, is humiliated, establishing himself in the position of a weak junior manager. The subordinate perceives this as an “objective” reality, a “common” space in which this single process of humiliation and elevation occurs between two subjects. All this feels so realistic, as if it really were an objective reality. And the reciprocal hatred of the boss also seems justified and appropriate.

However, this whole situation occurs in the head of the subordinate. There is no “objective” reality where the boss, in the role of alpha male, humiliates the subordinate. These are all subjective perceptions, dualistic mind games that most people play in their heads every day.

What's really going on in the boss's head doesn't matter. The boss's subjective experiences do not go beyond his head. If a boss masturbates in public to please his vanity, this is his “national” problem. The subordinate only hears the timbre of the voice, sees facial expressions, and characterizes all this in accordance with his life experience. And if in his experience there is a psychological trauma of humiliation, it is naturally projected into a new, similar situation.

In psychology, there is a term “classical conditioning”, which refers to the process of developing a conditioned reflex. Perhaps you have heard a joke about laboratory monkeys?

Two monkeys are talking in a cage: - Friend, what is a conditioned reflex? - Well, how can I explain this to you... Do you see this lever? As soon as I press it, this man in a white coat immediately comes up and gives me a piece of sugar!

Conditioned reflexes occur when, for example, we react to a neutral situation emotionally because in our head it is associated with another situation from the past, where we have already shown exactly these emotions.

That is, when a subordinate hates the Boss, perhaps he actually hates his father, or a bully classmate who in the past subjugated our subordinate, suppressing his psyche. Perhaps the boss's comments were innocent, but some subtly similar shades of his actions awakened repressed feelings in the subordinate and caused an inappropriate reaction.

That is why it is advisable to maintain healthy self-esteem in a child, because the child’s consciousness is not yet able to fully realize the illusory nature of mental duality. Trauma inflicted in early childhood is repressed into the unconscious and can haunt the individual throughout his life. After all, it is in childhood that our basic ideas about the world and society are developed. It is extremely difficult to change them in adulthood.

Humiliating others is a much worse form of pride than extolling oneself beyond what one deserves. Francesco Petrarca
Pride is an echo of past humiliation. Stepan Balakin
Don't humiliate yourself before anyone: don't look down on anyone! Leonid S. Sukhorukov
If you have not humiliated yourself, nothing can humiliate you. Richard Yucht

Why humiliate?

This question will probably arise for many readers. Indeed, all these humiliating phrases - why say them if you love a person? And if you don’t love him, then why live or date him?

These are valid questions, but to answer them, you need to understand the psychological background of relationships that can be called destructive. Or, as it is fashionable to say, toxic.

In fact, unpleasant words are said by women who are truly dissatisfied with their man. But they cannot leave him. And if they give up, then they will find someone else like him. There may be several reasons, but they all lie in the plane of psychology, or more precisely, in the relationship scenarios introduced in childhood.

Scenario No. 1: like a mother

Think about the relationship between your parents. How often did your mother say those same phrases to your father? Or maybe she showed disdain by her behavior? If yes, then you have learned this behavior pattern. The same applies to your mother’s statements to your neighbor, colleague or boss - you have “absorbed” this attitude towards men, and now you treat them the same way.

An imperious, dominant mother, a henpecked father - this is not a new scenario. Of course, unpleasant words were regularly addressed to the soft-bodied father. The girl has grown up, become strong and independent, but with an internalized destructive script, so she finds herself a “henpecked man” to whom she can say derogatory phrases.

Scenario #2: It’s convenient to be a victim

Some women say hurtful words to strong and even aggressive men. This is followed by a scandal, and perhaps physical violence, after which the woman complains of ill-treatment. But he does not leave the person who is giving up, although this would be the only right decision. Why? The habit of being a victim. Despite the beatings and the unhealthy atmosphere in the family, the woman is so profitable and comfortable. This way you can get attention and care from others (friends, neighbors, colleagues). You can even get material bonuses. And from a guilty man - apologies, attempts to make amends, and fulfillment of desires.

Why do women choose this particular path? Again, they are used to this since childhood. When you feel bad, your wishes are fulfilled - this is firmly learned. And if there is no reason to suffer, there is a way - humiliating phrases.

Scenario #3: I'm a girl, I want to be naughty

Infantilism is a real problem of the 21st century. Infantile men and women are simply adult children, incapable of taking responsibility for their actions. They can only demand. And if they don’t get what they want, they get offended. And how can one not say derogatory words?

Conscious humiliation

Sometimes humiliation is chosen deliberately for various reasons. For some, humiliation is a kind of psychological extreme that gives a liberating feeling of uninhibition, overcoming boundaries and freedom from fear.

Fans of extreme sports, for example, during skydiving, feel something similar, with a characteristic rush of adrenaline. The relaxedness of feelings gives you the feeling of being “knee-deep in the sea.”

In other cases, some people like to feel like a subordinate thing, with which the owner will do whatever he wants. This, I believe, is a distorted need for acceptance and trust, somewhat analogous to the trust a child has in his parents.

I already said above that humiliation is the other side of vanity. Perhaps people with great power over others (supervisors, bosses, etc.) may deliberately choose humiliation to smooth out their self-esteem and defuse tension.

In our society there is even a separate psychosexual subculture “BDSM”, which is based on humiliation and dominance in sexual relations. Followers of BDSM get excited and release emotional tension by breaking social conventions and taboos in their role-playing games.

Sometimes they humiliate themselves in order to manipulate the vanity of another person, whom they elevate by their humiliation. For example, humiliating himself, a person in the role of a weak person simply seeks to relieve himself of responsibility in order to leave all difficult matters for a “strong” person, susceptible to flattery and vanity. The one who is humiliated at the same time may consider himself smarter, since he managed to achieve what he wanted with his “cunning” manipulations. Or the humiliated person simply wants pity, and longs to remain forever in the comfort zone, where it is convenient for him to be helpless and weak.

Beggars and beggars also play on pity for their humiliating situation. They say that some of these “beggars” earn money by humiliation much more decently than their benefactors.

Sometimes people resort to deliberate humiliation in order to avoid punishment from the dominant authority. If authority is played into a “game,” it also increases the split in its psyche, swinging the pendulum of vanity and humiliation.

Another, rather rare version of conscious humiliation - with the spiritual goal of pacifying pride and vanity. But with such a goal, a person does not so much humiliate himself as learn to show humility. And such humility, I believe, should not be confused with humiliation. Ordinary humiliation is always a certain kind of self-deception and rejection of the current situation. Humility on the spiritual path, on the contrary, is associated with acceptance of life as it happens. Humiliation is different from humility, just as neurosis is different from holiness.

How to morally humiliate your loved one: magical humiliating phrases

Humiliating words... They contain crazy power. I really want to use it. I want to put the man in his place. I want to? Admit it. Modern strong women know perfectly well how to humiliate morally. They need power so much: power over their weaknesses, power over their spouse, power over the world.

Stop though. Why power? No, understand correctly: of course, a woman should not be a submissive servant and so on. No. But. Why do you need power, control and dominance? Not your mother, not your neighbor, not the women of the whole world, but you? Let's think about this. And then we will begin to consider derogatory phrases for men and their magical effect on the physically strong, but morally vulnerable sex.