Phrases and sayings about rudeness

Sometimes it is enough to be rude to avoid the trap of a cunning person. F. La Rochefoucauld

Young men often think that they are natural, when in fact they are simply ill-mannered and rude. f. La Rochefoucauld

Churchill: You were very rude to me, you know. Nurse: Yes, but you were rude to me too. Churchill: Yes, but I am a great man.

Rudeness is the attempt of the weak to demonstrate strength. E. Hoffer

Rough and harsh treatment closes all doors and all hearts in front of us. S. Smiles

Rudeness may hide a good heart, but it repels and makes one prefer flattering hypocrisy. P. Buast

All kinds of rudeness melt away, as if on fire, under the influence of daily reading of good books. V. Hugo

Joy is given to the rude. Sorrow is given to the tender. S. Yesenin

Rude and vulgar souls will always have more respect for wealth than for talent. C. Colton

There is no greater rudeness than interrupting someone else while they are speaking. D. Locke

Rudeness is the wit of fools, the habit of challenging everything is their sophistication. A. Maurois

Rude people, when they feel insulted, usually believe that they have been insulted to the highest degree, and talk about the reason for the insult in greatly exaggerated words in order to enjoy a fully excited feeling of hatred and revenge. F. Nietzsche

Just as old wine is unsuitable for drinking a lot, so rude treatment is unsuitable for an interview. Pythagoras

Crude, mediocre minds take only pale, insignificant pleasure from reading. Theater, on the contrary, depicts everything, leaving nothing to the imagination: that is why it completely satisfies the majority. A. France

Rudeness is spiritual weakness. M. Ebner-Eschenbach

It is vain to think that a harsh tone is a sign of straightforwardness and strength. William Shakespeare

Severity gives rise to fear, but rudeness gives rise to hatred. Francis Bacon

The provincial tone is always harsh, it appeals not to the spirit and intellect, but to blood and feelings... it prefers not to persuade, but to reprimand. Matthew Arnold

Harshness, rudeness, uncouthness are vices from which even smart people are sometimes not free. Jean de La Bruyère

No one behaves so rudely with subordinates as those who behave insolently to their superiors. Nikolai Alexandrovich Dobrolyubov

It doesn’t take long to scold a person, but little benefit comes out of it. Dmitry Ivanovich Pisarev

Insolence is the bastard of ignorance. Samuel Butler

Swearing has always served as a sign of defective thinking. Leonid Maksimovich Leonov

Any rudeness shocks not only with its cruelty, but also with its senselessness. Nicholas Konstantinovich Roerich

Rudeness Rude

Rudeness as a personality quality is a tendency to show deviations from politeness, various forms of rigidity in relationships, callousness, incivility, a kind of mental myopia.

Rudeness, as applied to everything where this concept is mentioned, represents a deviation from a certain standard or measure.

For example, a rough board means that it has not been processed, planed or sanded, that is, it does not correspond to our ideas about a standard board. We will describe rough facial features using the example of Sobakevich, the hero of N.V. Gogol’s poem “Dead Souls.” Nature, when creating his face, “cut with all her might: she grabbed the ax once and her nose came out, she grabbed another and her lips came out, she picked out her eyes with a large drill and, without scraping them, released them into the light...”. In the mass consciousness there is an idea of what kind of face can be considered symmetrical and correct. Deviation from the standard makes it rude, as in the case of Sobakevich. In other words, rudeness is always some kind of unfinishedness, uncouthness, unprocessedness, unpolishedness, unwornness, that is, a deviation from the standard defined by our ideas. The greater the deviation, the greater the roughness.

By standard behavior we usually mean polite behavior that corresponds to certain norms, social regulations and conventions. Rudeness in relationships is a deviation from politeness.

Rudeness, like rudeness, also reflects a deviation from politeness. Both concepts are the opposite of politeness, but there are several differences that give deviation a qualitatively different pattern. Rudeness is not aimed at deliberately causing harm to people, at humiliating human dignity, or deliberately insulting the interlocutor. Evil is not the goal of rudeness, although it is often its consequence. Rudeness, as a rule, serves as a response or defensive reaction to certain circumstances. Unlike rudeness, rudeness violates all conceivable and inconceivable moral norms. It’s a paradox, but rudeness can dress up in the clothes of politeness: with polite words you can be rude much more effectively than with straightforward rudeness. Often, rudeness takes pleasure in humiliating another person. It loves impunity and anonymity. Shitting on an entrance, saying nasty things over the phone to a stranger, humiliating other users on the Internet - this is the signature of rudeness. Rudeness loves direct contact with people or situations. It is curious that in a sanctimonious, prim, mannered environment, such qualities as honesty and sincerity will look like rudeness and even rudeness. Everything depends on the moral principles of society.

Impudence, insolence and impudence cannot be measured on the scale of politeness. As they say, flies are separate, cutlets are separate. Impudence is measured against modesty, impudence with shame, and unceremoniousness with ceremony. Insolence, unlike rudeness, has a completely different orientation. Insolence is always directed at a force that far exceeds its strength. Rudeness and rudeness are usually aimed at weakness. When they explain the reasons for rudeness as a nervous breakdown, fatigue or irritation, I want to ask: “Why do your nerves hold up when you meet force? Why are you hiding your irritation in front of your boss?”

We must understand that politeness, as a starting point for the degree of rudeness, is a relative concept. In a highly cultured family, there is only one understanding of politeness, and if in the primary unit of society the language of communication becomes obscene expressions, then the understanding of rudeness is blurred. Rudeness, like politeness, is a relative concept. Let's imagine that we are in one of the cages among the gladiators in the interior of the Colosseum. In the next cell, our future opponent is rushing about before the fight, and we turn to him: “Dear, dear sir. Be so kind as to show me the favor of smiling.” - “Are you kidding me, bastard? Are you being rude? You don’t have long to be rude,” he replies. As we can see, depending on the circumstances, politeness can be perceived as rudeness. In the criminal world, where the principle “Don’t believe, don’t be afraid, don’t ask,” rudeness is as natural and harmonious as politeness is alien and unnatural.

Rudeness must necessarily understand the following. Every word we utter should be friendly, calm and supportive. Enormous power is concentrated in the word. Underestimating the energy of a word is a great stupidity, which is fraught with dire consequences. Rudeness, no matter what its nature, leads to the destruction of happiness, suffering and pain. Harsh speech inevitably leads to suffering. Rudeness and appeasement do not get along. A rude person deprives himself of the opportunity to live in harmony with himself and with the outside world. When there is no peace in a person, happiness is impossible. You can say extremely unpleasant things to a person, even a death sentence, and not offend him if the words are spoken in a calm, friendly tone. They are offended not by what they said, but by how they said it, in what tone. The degree of rudeness is influenced primarily by tone. Bad form means violence. A person thinks that since he speaks in such a rude tone, with anger and irritation, it means that what he says is not fair and truthful. If he speaks rudely, it means he is wrong. A conflict is born.

Rudeness should also know that our subconscious perceives all spoken words addressed to someone else personally. It does not understand the pronouns “he”, “she”, “they”. A rude person, by insulting others, actually insults himself and thereby destroys his self-esteem, destroys his self. What organism can withstand being constantly humiliated, insulted and called names? Why are pets so beneficial to our health? The secret is simple - every day a dog comes up to you, and you stroke it, saying: “My good one. Smart. Well done". Your subconscious senses that you are good, smart and, moreover, great.

The uncouth lout Sobakevich is clearly not on friendly terms with the scale of politeness. His rudeness swatted away his politeness like an annoying fly. Sobakevich’s chairman is “such a fool as the world has ever produced”; the governor is “the first robber in the world... and the face of a robber”; “Just give him a knife and let him out onto the main road - he’ll kill you”; “he and also the vice-governor - Gog and Magog.” The police chief is “a fraud, he will sell you, deceive you, and even have lunch with you.” Summarizing his judgment about officials, he says: “They are all scammers; the whole city is like this: a swindler sits on a swindler and drives the swindler around. All sellers of Christ. There is only one decent person there: the prosecutor; and even that one, to tell the truth, is a pig.”

A person like Sobakevich is rude due to the properties of his nature. He has not learned to express his thoughts in a decent, decent form. Often people are rude to increase their self-esteem. Sometimes rudeness is born from the desire to gain the respect of your friends and recognition of strength by others, and sometimes from imitation of the rude behavior of your literary or film heroes. Rudeness can be a consequence of ugly thinking patterns and living conditions in which it is as appropriate as water, food and air. And sometimes the reasons are completely banal - a recent quarrel with a friend, problems in the family, troubles at work or a chronic illness.

Sobakevich’s bearish rudeness lacks any shyness. In front of a guest during dinner, he accuses the cook: “That rascal cook over there who learned from the Frenchman will buy a cat, skin it, and serve it on the table instead of dinner.” Rudeness does not want to take into account either the feelings of other people or the peculiarities of circumstances. Sobakevich is as rough as a log, he is sure that the sun rises for him, that life will stop without his tutelage.

Sobakevich, like a natural rude man, feels his superiority over other landowners. What can we say about ordinary peasants? From the feeling of one’s own superiority grows disdain for all living things. Once you submit to rudeness, the trap of superiority and submission snaps shut. The onslaught of rudeness continues, despite the fact that you are already in a trap. Rudeness destroys the dignity of a person trapped in submission. A wolf caught in a trap is capable of chewing off its own paw. So a person, driven to the brink, makes desperate attempts to free himself. The intensity of passions is so great that it often ends in tragedy. In other words, when deviations from politeness exceed reasonable limits, it means trouble. Excessive unbridled rudeness cannot pass unchecked. Treat rudeness as the absurdity of a wretched, unconscious creature. You won’t be angry with a parrot who shouts: “Fool.” The rudeness of another person touches us exactly as much as it is contained within us. A holy person is not touched by the rudeness, rudeness and impudence of others, because he lacks these qualities. Rudeness loves to be demonstrative, so it is wise not to pay attention to it. Calm behavior, condescension and humor can offset rudeness.

If a friend suddenly turns out to be neither a friend nor an enemy, but so... So - this is not about a rude friend. A polite friend will think a hundred times to inform you about impending troubles, whether it is appropriate to warn you about something or someone. While maintaining decency, a helpful, polite friend sees friendship through the prism of conventions, norms of behavior, and etiquette. What is left behind in friendship are the “beautiful impulses of the soul,” sincerity, spontaneity and openness of relationships. Politeness is the cornerstone of friendship. Rudeness has a completely different disposition. If she accepted you for who you are, she will protect you as herself. To be friends, to be friends like that, that is, to disinterestedly take care of a friend - this is the unshakable principle of rudeness in friendship.

At the same time, no man’s rudeness can compare with the power of a woman’s rude word. It's no secret that women are several times better than men at concentrating on feelings. Why do women prefer to argue with a man rather than with a woman? A man's rude word is superficial, it has little destructive energy. “My mother is coming to visit us,” says the wife. - “Which one?” - “Numbers?” - “Fuck” - “How can you talk to me so rudely about my mommy? We are ladies after all,” the wife shouts. “I’ve known you, ladies, for a long time,” the husband replies. It’s a completely different story when a wife calmly, with an icy expression on her face, tells her husband: “You bastard.” Sometimes one rude word from a woman is enough to shock a formidable man. Her rudeness hits straight to the heart. In other words, female rudeness causes panic on the politeness scale.

Rudeness in a woman denies femininity and exalts hostility, resentment and belligerence. A woman with demonstrated rudeness sees the world around her as a battlefield. A man with demonstrated masculine qualities, respecting his masculine nature, will not stoop to a fight with such a woman, so their paths cannot cross. It is the destiny of rudeness in a woman to meet rudeness in a man’s insignificance. Two of a Kind. Like attracts like. Roughness times rudeness equals rudeness squared. All the neighbors and the local police officer will know this “cheerful” family. Local dogs will be interested in learning from them how to skillfully bark at foreign dogs.

Petr Kovalev Other articles by the author: https://www.podskazki.info/karta-statej/