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We were sitting in the kitchen, and my daughter said to me, jokingly, casually: “Here, we are conducting a survey on the subject of existence - Would you like to become a grandmother?” “I would like to, but it will completely change your life forever, radically.” - "Yes, I know. Well, I won’t sleep enough, I won’t finish it,” my daughter answered me automatically.
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I will write at least a thousand sheets of poetry for you. There are not enough words to say. How dear you are to your mother. You are my little blood, There is no one more precious than you in the world. May God help you in life, my girl.
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The sleepless nights are behind us, And the days have passed in worries: Unnoticed, the daughters suddenly grew up - They are both smart and beautiful.
They are ready to arrange life themselves - Their “ancestors” advice irritates them! Their communication with their fathers is burdensome, and there is no time for their mother.
In today's fast-paced world, things simply tear them apart: They live in a separate apartment - We are glad, since we have made a nest there.
We wish our touchy ones only love and good luck in their destiny. Finding yourself behind your stepfather’s threshold, So that you can be confident in yourself:
At the exams of life, they answered without a doubt the correct answer, So that we would have grandchildren as soon as possible, and live many years!
So that they have a successful career, And are desired by their husbands - We live with them in complete harmony! And they are dear to them without bumps and holes!
I just want the “retarded” mother to have her wise adult daughter share at least a little bit of affection and tenderness - just to help
Sometimes I would suggest it myself, Putting things aside for a moment, And sympathetically asking my mother: “How are you?” or “How did you sleep?”
Instantly the pressure will become normal - The tone of life will rise again: And life will be filled with sacred meaning. Our daughters are our love.
Dear daughter, On this bright day the cheerful bugle will sound loudly for everyone.
Congratulations daughter, you are my star. Know this for sure! The word is not water.
Moms, keep congratulations in your heart. May your luck shine these days.
Soon my daughter will become quite an adult. She already finds answers to questions herself... And she is an assistant to her mother, and she dreams of happiness, And she already understands so much, so much...
May you not encounter malice and envy, may you not be consumed by anxiety, suffering, or fatigue. May your friends be loyal forever. May the person you love be found
Let him warm you with his love and help you resist difficulties. May your life be filled with endless happiness! May you always be happy with your children!
Let life not throw my girl, who has already become an adult, onto steep slopes...
Poems dedicated to an adult daughter from her mother
Dear daughter, my baby, The sun is three times clearer, If it throws you to any region, You come back.
It’s just that it’s triple boring without my daughter, It’s just that melancholy has set in, Well, like a woman, there’s no one for me to pour out what I’ve accumulated. A daughter has a feminine essence, a feminine logic too, It’s just that it’s a little difficult without a daughter, We can’t live without each other!
Oksana Varnikova
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When I am not on earth, When I cannot help with advice You, my daughter, in silent silence Read my left commandment...
Don’t rush to throw away the book. Sighing in your hearts, the world is different now. Its pages are part of my soul... Don’t leave, talk to me...
Don’t say that the world is no longer the same, That even a friend doesn’t remember good things... A well-groomed grain will still germinate And fill the ears to the brim...
Don’t ever think about the bad, After all, life’s path is not the Heavenly road. Sometimes there are failures, Behind the night is day, behind the sun is bad weather.
It’s a bag of grievances, don’t rush to carry them to you, their life itself will load a lot... If the path is difficult, try and smile And immediately the road will become more fun.
Don’t chase wealth in this world. In the afterlife, you can’t sum them up. Be proud of the gold of your soul. I know you are good and can do it.
Let your home be a haven of warmth, a pier of happiness and full of friends, then you will not be alone in life, my beloved, remember my words...
You share your happiness with people. They will answer you kindly too. Become a beacon for the created family... I believe you are good, you can
And when you become a mother, there are a thousand troubles. Let children’s laughter rush through the rooms, like a bird making nests for children, so you, my love, will have to...
In family life, it is not always easy. Treat your mistakes more strictly... And for your patience and kindness, may the Almighty help you with happiness.
Lyubov Sabeeva
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Well, you’ve grown up, baby, And your heart beats freezing. Recently, you read books, And drew wherever you had to. You and your mother argued as you grew up, adding sad wrinkles, and clung to her, feeling sorry for her, lovingly, tenderly hugging her. Eyelashes tremble with tears, This often happens to brides... And our children are like birds, Flying away from their nests at home Let them not forget us for long, Giving us their love and happiness, If only they don’t grow cold towards each other, Protecting us from bad weather...
Roman Ivanovich Mironov
Don't torment me with questions. I can’t find the answer to them myself. Maybe fate, or maybe just chance, But I cherish every moment...
Why do I need to know whether we will part tomorrow, Or whether we will live our whole lives in an embrace... No, he is not a moment of crazy excitement, In my dreams I thought about him...
Forgive me, mom, my tone, I can’t. My soul is trembling, my thoughts are a mess... I ask only one thing, that I let him go... Well, I can’t live without him... ... Daughters, daughters, adult daughters, may the Guardian Angel protect you! Whatever life we prophesy for you, the adult daughter will fly away from the nest...
Lyubov Sabeeva
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You live your own life, And you build your own nest. My dear daughter, you are dear to me.
I will congratulate you on your birthday, and I will direct all success to you. You can achieve everything in life, Only thoughts about you.
I wish you to smile a lot, and not to be afraid of problems. I will congratulate you on your name day, and I will direct all success to you.
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Happy birthday, my daughter, a line of congratulations for you. You will be a baby for me, and like in childhood, I call you a mouse.
Let changes not frighten you, but only add strength. On your birthday, have fun, And smile at fate.
I only wish the best, And I bless you for good luck. May the Lord help you and protect you in everything.
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Time flies by so quickly, And it reminds us. How dear you and I are to each other, I will tell the whole neighborhood.
Happy birthday, dear daughter, you are dear to me. I just wish you to smile, and not to be afraid of problems.
Let them pass by and only bring happiness. Know that we are always with you, even in summer, even in winter!
I want to say so many words, I’m flying to you, daughter. To congratulate you on your birthday and wish you a bright life.
How she grew up and didn’t notice, We only met her with a glance. You are our queen, and your daughter is just great!
I know you will achieve a lot, and you won’t go wrong anywhere. Please accept congratulations, and live happily.
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Congratulations to you, my unearthly one. You are like a friend to me, and I know for sure.
There is no dearer in the world than my daughter. And for me there is no more beautiful day.
I want to congratulate you on your birthday. Let adult life give you only inspiration!
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My girl, adult daughter, I worry endlessly about you, May the road not be difficult, I pray for you day and night...
So that troubles, adversity and sadness pass you by, So that you are protected by fate, I ask and pray for you...
My wise, adult daughter, You and I are alike in many ways, I may have given you My character to overcome everything...
You have a reliable berth, a Father’s house, where you are always welcome, Where your love is the highest reward, Where they will understand... and the sadness of Ovsey Fol will recede
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We were sitting in the kitchen, and my daughter said to me, jokingly, casually: “Here, we are conducting a survey on the subject of existence - Would you like to become a grandmother?”
“I would like to, but it will completely change your life forever, radically.” - "Yes, I know. Well, I won’t sleep enough, I won’t finish it,” my daughter answered me automatically.
But, this is, well, to put it mildly, It’s not the same, not a soldier’s courage. I was looking for words to convey to her All the responsibility of this step.
I would tell her: “Your wounds from childbirth will heal very quickly. But a new wound will appear - love, which only motherhood gives.
This is a wound of emotions, anxiety, shame for the child that you created. And about life you can no longer say “Nonsense!” You will never get back what was!”
And, no matter how refined you are, the child’s alarmed cry - “Mom!” Any business will force you to quit urgently, from simple to financial ones.
I wanted to say that her career will suffer with the birth of a child. After all, more than once she will fall into oblivion, feeling the smell of a child’s head.
I wanted to tell her that the weight gained can be lost with diet and exercise. But miracles have never happened in the world yet, Motherhood to throw off on the sly.
And such an important life for you No, it will not be so significant soon. You will forget about everything, tenderly fingering this baby both in joy and in sorrow.
You will learn, daughter, to forget about your dreams, To make a choice whose happiness is more valuable. Do not regret the beauty that is long gone, Ask philosophically: “Perhaps..?”
I want you to know that love for your husband will be the same and not the same at the same time. And you will love him, as if again, As if he shared this burden with you.
And I also wanted to talk about feelings – Feelings of joy, feelings of delight! Only a woman-mother can experience them and keep them in herself for a long time.
The first step, the first laugh, the first joyful look. A new day is like a new era. First experience in communication between girls and guys. Indispensable search and faith!
And a taller birdhouse, and a ball in the yard, New Year and mushroom picking. And stories about this to friends and children, How half the forest trampled underfoot.
I wanted to say... But only in response a tear welled up in my eyes. “You won’t regret that instead of the word “No” “Yes!” told me to let life unfold.”
Extending my hand to my daughter across the table, meeting her, I whispered: “For you, for myself, for all women, whose calling is simply to BE A MOTHER!”
Love for a child
I remember the birth of my son even many, many years later, down to the smallest detail. I was really, really looking forward to it. My love has not become less over the years, and even now, despite the distance and the fact that he has long been an adult and lives his own life, I still love him very much. I rejoice at his achievements and successes.
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But this does not happen for all mothers. In our culture, it is accepted that a mother's love for her child appears automatically as soon as the child is born.
But some people experience postpartum depression, others have a reluctance to even hold a child in their arms and breastfeed him. Mothers have their own childhood traumas and ideas about love for children, and not everyone lives a happy life. Having a child is always associated with growing up and responsibility. And this doesn’t happen to everyone.
Sometimes it happens that love for a child never appears. Svetlana Kopylova has an interesting story, “Thank you for the love.”
The fact of dislike especially affects a daughter if her mother does not love her. A daughter always feels a lack of maternal love, warmth and approval. This especially happens when the parents separate after the birth of the child. Often a girl, seeing how hard it is for her mother, considers herself to blame for this. The relationship with the mother becomes very painful. The daughter feels unloved and tries to gain her mother's love at any cost.
The self-esteem of such a disliked daughter suffers greatly; she does not perceive herself as complete and necessary in life, and feels like an alien element. Since she doesn’t feel her mother’s love at all, she “chases” after her, believes that if she “be a good girl,” she will definitely win her mother’s love.
There are mothers who are aware of this fact and feel guilty. And there are those who understand that something is wrong in their relationship with their daughter, but they don’t even want to admit it to themselves, that they don’t love their daughter.
The Internet is full of different stories of mother-daughter relationships. Therefore, we decided to collect material and write it for all the unloved daughters, because it is they who have the hardest time in these relationships. It is not their fault that their mother simply does not love them with “unconditional love.”
The role of the mother in personality formation
What is motherhood? Unconditional love? Self-sacrifice? Lifetime liability? – This comprehensive word includes all these concepts . After all, the formation of the daughter’s personality, her perception of herself and the world around her largely depend on the behavior of the parent. So, what does mom mean to a little girl?
- Feeling of security. Mom is the person in front of whom the baby should not be afraid to be herself. Clumsy, with tattered knees, a love for “boyish” cartoon series and sports. A zone free of judgment and the need to adapt will allow her to form her own vision of the world through trial and error.
- The right to be a child. A girl, next to whom there is an adult, responsible and mature personality, can calmly go about her “childish things”: play with dolls, play pranks, walk and learn. The absence of the burden of adult responsibilities and knowledge is what every child has the right to.
- An example of social interaction. If a mother on the playground constantly gossips about her neighbors and expresses her dissatisfaction with her husband, this will be reinforced in her daughter as an a priori correct and acceptable model of behavior. That is why young parents should pay as much attention as possible to introspection.
- An example of a wife. According to statistics, more than 50% of childhood injuries were caused by forced viewing of parental scandals. Every dissatisfied grimace of the mother, a quarrel behind closed doors and an unflattering review of the father as the head of the family is deposited, if not in the memory, then in the subconscious of the baby.
- The ability to love and be loved. By observing her mother's behavior, the girl answers many important questions for herself. Do parents love each other or just live together? What actions express her warm feeling? Is she expecting something in return or are her actions selfless? Does she know how to accept signs of attention or does she push them away?
Almost the entire future life of her daughter depends on the mother
“Mom is the first word, the main word in every destiny...” - Remember this song? With the awareness of the influence that the mother’s life position has on the formation of her daughter as an integral, separate person, it acquires even more meaning.
If you are not sure of your own viability as a mother, seek help from a professional psychologist. A specialist will help you identify and resolve family conflicts.
